Confused!!

[notnownotlistening]

Hi,
I am new to this so hello all.

I am a bit confused - i used to self harm for 13 years and stopped 3 1/2 years ago. But recently, despite being the happiest I have ever been and seriously very happy, i have been thinking more and more about harming again to the point where it is getting harder and harder to resist!

Any help greatly appreciated!!!

xxxxx

 

[ChristInAction]

aw. that sucks.
but congradulations on making it so long!

For me, sometimes. When things change (even in your case, for the better) I wanna cut because its what i know, its 'safe'. (if you have a clue what I'm talkin about )

Anyway, use the same ways as you did trying to stop when you want to cut now, like talking to someone.

I know you can do this.
You've done so so well, its awesome you've made this far.
Hang in & i'm here if you need me.
Ally xox

 

[Kristen.NewCreation]

I agree with Ally - congratulations on doing so well for so long now.

When I tend to struggle with the thoughts of self-harm, I'm usually feeling more stressed and need to focus on what I can do to get into a more stable place emotionally.

I'd suggest getting back to basics on how you've learned to do so well for so long - and talk with someone about what's going on that you're thinking about doing this again.

I hope you'll continue to post as needed to get support here, but will also contact your support offline.

 

[notnownotlistening]

I am so so cross with myself - i am sure you can guess why - was only a little bit - i don't want to start again from day 1!!!! Do you think it is ok to say I have stopped for 3 1/2 years with a slight blip????? I was so so proud of myself! I don't understand! Everything seems so good at the moment - i don't know why i have done it!

Thanks for the support everyone xxxxx

 

[berry2000]

notnownotlistening,
nice to meet you. I too struggle with self harm. yes i think it is okay to say 3.5 years with a blip. No matter what happens no one can take that 3.5 years away from you. And it is a great job you did to make it that far. My longest has been about 1 year.

My question and thought to give to you is try to figure out if at all possible what might have triggered you, if anything. For me, i am bipolar so sometimes it is just a mood swing that needs a doctor's attention, at other times someone did or said something that triggered an old thought pattern.

We are here for you!