Hi :-(
I've been seeing this guy at my church. He's so cool, we get along really well and have really good conversations. We don't struggle with lust or anything like that, there's something so balanced about our relationship. I haven't done this whole Christian dating thing before, so it's a bit new to me.
I'm just not sure if we should be dating though. I know i'm not whole yet, although i don't feel like i'm seeking anything in him that i should be seeking in God. And also, God has to be my first love above anyone.
I came back to God 2 years ago, i was a huge mess. God's still making me whole. In fact, i'm currently in the process of applying to go to this place, it's like a home for girls who have life controlling issues. If i end up going there, it will be in March, and they don't let u have a boyfriend for the season your in there (around 6-12 months) which is fair enough cos ur meant to fully focus on God during that time when things are being brought to the surface.
I'm also not sure if i'm sinning either. If you're sexually attracted to someone, is that lust? Like we don't seem to struggle with anything physical like that, but that is part of the attraction. But to me, i feel like we're really cool friends, and we love hanging out, and then there's this other thing that makes us more than friends.
I've been like a yo yo. Like we'll spend some cool time together, then i'll be like "i think we should just be friends" and he's like "i don't have that conviction, but i respect your wishes" then i'll call him up the next day, then we'll meet up the day after that, and we're together again. I've only told a couple of close friend. Why do i feel like i'm doing something wrong?
I've been seeing this guy at my church. He's so cool, we get along really well and have really good conversations. We don't struggle with lust or anything like that, there's something so balanced about our relationship. I haven't done this whole Christian dating thing before, so it's a bit new to me.
I'm just not sure if we should be dating though. I know i'm not whole yet, although i don't feel like i'm seeking anything in him that i should be seeking in God. And also, God has to be my first love above anyone.
I came back to God 2 years ago, i was a huge mess. God's still making me whole. In fact, i'm currently in the process of applying to go to this place, it's like a home for girls who have life controlling issues. If i end up going there, it will be in March, and they don't let u have a boyfriend for the season your in there (around 6-12 months) which is fair enough cos ur meant to fully focus on God during that time when things are being brought to the surface.
I'm also not sure if i'm sinning either. If you're sexually attracted to someone, is that lust? Like we don't seem to struggle with anything physical like that, but that is part of the attraction. But to me, i feel like we're really cool friends, and we love hanging out, and then there's this other thing that makes us more than friends.
I've been like a yo yo. Like we'll spend some cool time together, then i'll be like "i think we should just be friends" and he's like "i don't have that conviction, but i respect your wishes" then i'll call him up the next day, then we'll meet up the day after that, and we're together again. I've only told a couple of close friend. Why do i feel like i'm doing something wrong?
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