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Thing is...we were never going out and there never really was any 'romantic feelings'. We both just liked each other & thought there was potential for being more than friends but we just decided to start hanging out more as friends. Although we hung out together and did stuff we never called it a 'date' or anything. Even when we had our ultimatum, we were like "we were only friends all along anyway...not much should change, right?". Just another side of my confusion. :/
She said she doesn't like you. End of story.
Why do men think this means... keep on trying..work at it...or we will suddenly change our minds.
No means NO....
Let it go...
The end
Women aren’t always that direct or explicit, and it’s confusing when a woman says things like “You are everything I look for in a guy.” That combined with strong feelings/emotions would make it hard for a guy to shrug his shoulders, say “Okay,” and walk away.
We are allowed to change our mind you know. In the moment people men and women think things because they get caught up.
Actually, they should walk away when anyone on both sides, say no thanks but you know what this isn't what i want i just don't feel it.
I have friends who i think ticks the boxes in what i look for in a guy, but the thing isn't there. Just because we have the boxes ticks doesn't mean romantic involvement.
Thanks for your input so far Paulie, I appreciate it.Women aren’t always that direct or explicit, and it’s confusing when a woman says things like “You are everything I look for in a guy.” That combined with strong feelings/emotions would make it hard for a guy to shrug his shoulders, say “Okay,” and walk away.
See that's the thing. I feel like girls just change their mind like that. One part I didn't mention was that she said she did feel attracted & had a crush on me about 1-2 years ago when we were in our last year of youth group. I didn't think of her in that way then & didn't really show any signs of reciprocating so she just "un-liked" me in that way over time. And then this popped up and we 'like' each other and then the tables turn again. I understand what you're saying though and I understand the situation right now is that I should just take her word that she just sees me as a 'friend'...
Thing is...we were never going out and there never really was any 'romantic feelings'. We both just liked each other & thought there was potential for being more than friends but we just decided to start hanging out more as friends. Although we hung out together and did stuff we never called it a 'date' or anything. Even when we had our ultimatum, we were like "we were only friends all along anyway...not much should change, right?". Just another side of my confusion. :/
Yeah, although love can be tough when your young. The older you get the more you realize that there are plenty of other people out there. Perhaps the more heart break you face the tougher more desensitized you are? Lol.
I crushed pretty hard on a woman at my youth group for years. These days I find it a little funny that I wasted so much emotional grief on one woman.
Perhaps the more heart break you face the tougher more desensitized you are?
I mean no offense but I am now completely confused by your entire original post. I read it through and somehow still missed the fact that you weren't actually interested in dating her or possibly building a life with her.
I blame the whole "let's hang out" phenomenon.
She said she doesn't like you. End of story.
Being "old fashioned straight forward" is actually what really attracted me to my boyfriend. He was very straightforward and there was no beating around the bush or "let's hang out" or "let's be friends first" sort of stuff. The whole hangout stuff tends to muddy and blur the lines and everyone is left confused. I know that phenomenon drove me crazy. The guys were very rarely clear. I never knew what their intentions were, etc. I hated it! On my end it was the guys who were usually the first to say "let's hang out."Sorry to say, this is the NEW normal of dating...pretty sad. Call me old-fashioned, but it's interesting how even women in my age prefer to "hang out as friends first", seems even my generation is jumping on this ambiguous band wagon.
No offense to women, but I find it's that women who tend to do this. Men of course have to go along with it, otherwise they'll get NO face-time with the woman of interest.
I really feel like I was born in the wrong time period...a date was a DATE..and..women looked forward to it.
Of course he can be "friends" with a woman, but more on an acquaintance level.
Being "old fashioned straight forward" is actually what really attracted me to my boyfriend. He was very straightforward and there was no beating around the bush or "let's hang out" or "let's be friends first" sort of stuff. The whole hangout stuff tends to muddy and blur the lines and everyone is left confused. I know that phenomenon drove me crazy. The guys were very rarely clear. I never knew what their intentions were, etc. I hated it! On my end it was the guys who were usually the first to say "let's hang out."
Yikes! Sounds like you need to cut the one woman off.Thank you! Yes definately.
I have a 42 year old empty-nester pulling this junk on me. The thing is, she still can't find time to "hang out", apparently the umbillicle cord is still tied to her adult daughters out of town, so she just HAS to travel to see them (several hours)...but it's really the beach front venue she's into.
Every time I talk to her, she's never available, regardless. In a sense, I'm not even in the "friend zone" because she never wants to meet me in person anyway.
I recall taking a walk with a woman I went on a "date" with, when at the end of our walk I said, "Well, I had a nice walking date" and she goes, not joking..."What made you think this was a date?"
Launch!! lol
Every time I talk to her, she's never available, regardless.
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