Confirmed Bachelor: Why Good Men Stay Single

[Michie]

Sorry, guys. This article is specifically to discuss the things men do wrong when it comes to getting to the bottom line; marriage and family life. I earnestly want to see confirmed bachelor syndrome die. I see too many men subscribing to the deception. Permit me to give you my top 5 symptoms of confirmed bachelor syndrome.

#1 - Lost with no direction.

Why is there so much over-thinking about if God wants you to be married? Historically, the majority of people born into this world marry and have children. It is the default vocation of the natural order. Rare is the vocation to the priesthood, religious life or (even rarer) consecrated single life. The confirmed bachelor is none of those things. He is simply in the state he arrived in from his mother’s womb; an unmarried man. Too many men waste a tremendous amount of time because they are not sure what God wants. All men should pursue marriage until they get a call to serve God and His people as a celibate priest, religious or single man. Date the women God brings into your life, choose the most suitable one, and commit to marriage.

The confirmed bachelor is an excuse maker, waiting for God to speak directly to him in words of direction. He knows these won’t come, but it sure helps him justify his indecision.

#2 - Why buy the cow when I can get the milk for free?

Here is a question you will not find on a dating website profile: “How many women have you had pre-marital sex with and what age did you start having sex?” You won’t see this question because no one would answer it truthfully. Many men, even Catholics, are having sex before marriage. Some have sex with women they would never marry, while trying to find a pure girl (some even requiring a virgin) to marry. Some have sex with the girl they are dating instead of building a quality relationship founded on friendship, faith, trust, and respect formed by his leadership and example.

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[mark avery]

Ok lets tussle......ha

Most importantly lots might agree, that we, or who, would want to bear a child into this world.

Obviously you have read scripture concerning devotion to our lord first, and such is the better option.

Sensual activity even as far back as Aristotle was explained of as being a huge temptation, + once you acquire such an attitude the female form has know power over you.

Also when or if you are handed over to excessive lust, then as spoken, such is there then a calling.

Oh: and it would be fair to submit its not always so easy.......

 

[BAFRIEND]

YouTube - ‪Woman Calls 911 Seeking Date‬‏

 

[Virgil the Roman]

Somehow that doesn't surprise me in America.

 

[CruciFixed]

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:o

 

[WarriorAngel]

Confirmed bachelor - means a man who wants to have casual non committing coitus because they believe they have all rights to pursue this like a sport...without loving anyone beyond their lust.

Then these same guys want to marry when they are old and no longer appealing.
Gag me.

 

[BAFRIEND]

Confirmed bachelor - means a man who wants to have casual non committing coitus because they believe they have all rights to pursue this like a sport...without loving anyone beyond their lust.

Then these same guys want to marry when they are old and no longer appealing.
Gag me.

appealing has nothing to do with it

hint= $$$$$$$

 

[WarriorAngel]

Not all women find old goats appealing - even if for money - they arent being loved.
To grow old with someone is a better thing...they have already loved you and worked with you to obtain security.

SO they get what they 'pay for' in the long run.

I respect celibate men - who are Godly though.

 

[CruciFixed]

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[Lisa1285]

I'm no expert in confirmed "bachelorism", but I do know that it takes most guys longer for the light to come on, so to speak. Young men don't think so much of the future, family, relationship, marriage, etc. My dad married for the 1st time at 38. Some guys are just slower to mature. There are a variety of reasons why a guy is a bachelor. But a man who just wants the physical part of a relationship and nothing else...needs to be hit upside the head with a dose of sense and RESPECT for the opposite sex.
I believe a new relationship is a 2 way street and unfortunately if a woman is willing to give herself to a guy with no strings attached...first of all she is---not smart and secondarily you can't blame this all on the man.
Men think differently than women. It is the woman's job to prove she is worthy of respect because the minute a girl gives it up to a guy, and there's no relationship or commitment, he has lost respect for her right there. He's thinking, "Well, that was nice. She seemed like a really sweet girl. I wonder how many other guys she's been with before me." "I guess that was good for what it was, but I deserve better--and I'm going to keep stringing her along as long as I can until something better comes along"
In short, this game that bachelor guys play--they have become experts and thus have created alot of distrusting & rather bitter women.
In short, short, if God is not a part of the relationship, it is very unlikely to work out. because God works everything out according to His plan. And I can fully trust His work.

 

[princess_ballet]

You know, I see we keep blaming women for giving the milk so easily (so to speak...haha), but I think a lot of girls do it because, quite frankly, guys just aren't interested otherwise.

And you can't get a date if guys just aren't interested.

 

[enelya_taralom]

You know, I see we keep blaming women for giving the milk so easily (so to speak...haha), but I think a lot of girls do it because, quite frankly, guys just aren't interested otherwise.

And you can't get a date if guys just aren't interested.

I feel like this sometimes. I'm 29 and have never had a relationship, despite trying. But guys just don't respond to me that way and they never take the initiative- it's always me saying hey, wanna go for coffee? So yeah, at times I definitely get frustrated and feel like the only chance I have is to just jump into bed with someone... but then I step back and look at my other female friends who have someone yet still remain pure and well, then I realize it's just me...

 

[princess_ballet]

I feel like this sometimes. I'm 29 and have never had a relationship, despite trying. But guys just don't respond to me that way and they never take the initiative- it's always me saying hey, wanna go for coffee? So yeah, at times I definitely get frustrated and feel like the only chance I have is to just jump into bed with someone... but then I step back and look at my other female friends who have someone yet still remain pure and well, then I realize it's just me...

Yeah, I feel the exact same way. You're like, what the heck is wrong with me because they seem to pull it off!

 

[WarriorAngel]

These are a few reasons or options that no one knows as of yet why.

1-God is calling you.
2-Mr Right hasnt yet made it to you
3-Your Mr Right was likely aborted.
4-Pray to St Jude, I hear he helps.

And lastly, dont live life desperately seeking men... it seems like some sort of anti pheromone to them and like a dog they smell the scent of desperation and run like a wild animal from a trap.

This can be said for women too. When i dated - something about desperate - ready to jump into marriage on the 1st date scared me.

Must be our psychological aura [for lack of a better term]
Confidence and disinterest - gets em every time. Men are naturally the hunters. And if a woman is easy prey or too willing it does bore them to no end.

 

[Eastern Drifter]

God doesn't typically drop women in my lap. If I want to meet them, I go to a public park or mall.

 

[sylverpiano]

I am a confirmed bachelorette. I am not interested in a relationship at all, never mind spending time with some guy who thinks I should be willing to "give it up."

 

[Cosmic Charlie]

Confirmed Bachelor: Why Good Men Stay Single

The obvious answer here is being avoided for a bunch to Christo-poltically correct reasons that likely have nothing to do with the situation.

Why do good men stay single:

They're gay.

Men are the most emotional dependent things in the world. Without a partner they are worthless.

There is only on reason that they would marry or at least semi-permenantly hook up with a women.

They like guys.

 

[Cosmic Charlie]

These are a few reasons or options that no one knows as of yet why.

1-God is calling you.
2-Mr Right hasnt yet made it to you
3-Your Mr Right was likely aborted.
4-Pray to St Jude, I hear he helps.

.

Jeez WA, obsessed much ?

 

[princess_ballet]

These are a few reasons or options that no one knows as of yet why.

1-God is calling you.
2-Mr Right hasnt yet made it to you
3-Your Mr Right was likely aborted.
4-Pray to St Jude, I hear he helps.

And lastly, dont live life desperately seeking men... it seems like some sort of anti pheromone to them and like a dog they smell the scent of desperation and run like a wild animal from a trap.

This can be said for women too. When i dated - something about desperate - ready to jump into marriage on the 1st date scared me.

Must be our psychological aura [for lack of a better term]
Confidence and disinterest - gets em every time. Men are naturally the hunters. And if a woman is easy prey or too willing it does bore them to no end.

I don't run around like a desperate little harpie. Nor am I just sitting around waiting for him. I'm about to graduate law school for cripe's sake.

My Mr. Right was aborted? Really??? I can't believe you said that...

 

[Lady Bug]

I don't run around like a desperate little harpie. Nor am I just sitting around waiting for him. I'm about to graduate law school for cripe's sake.

My Mr. Right was aborted? Really??? I can't believe you said that...

it's so easy for people (not you lol but in general) to tell us not to be desperate. how can us women not feel a tad desperate? as we get older and our ability to have children diminishes (our own children) and our ability to find unmarried people or undivorced people, we can't help but worry that time is not on our side. it's really easy IMHO to feel desperate internally for something right to happen.