Co-ed?

[Living4Him03]

I would like some advice

At the church I've been visiting we have about 5 options for sunday school classes in the singles ministry. One of those is a co-ed class that I have been going to. The problem is that the first time I visited there were only two other girls in the class (this is a big singles ministry!) and last time it was just me. The teacher of the class told me that there have been several weeks when no ladies joined the class. The other classes offered are same gender.

I really enjoy that class and I know I've learned a lot in the few times I've visited. I have classes with all women nearly all week since social work is a female dominated major at my school, therefore I enjoy going to a co-ed sunday school.

What I need advice on is whether I should start going to the ladies class because the co-ed class is not really co-ed or whether I should keep going and try to get more ladies involved...Also, how do I get more of the ladies interested in going to the class? I need some suggestions! I'm not sure why they aren't going. Maybe they know the guys and are annoyed with them lol. I think it may be because the other class has the topic of "lies women believe about themselves"...which sounded interesting, but I honestly prefer a co-ed class because sometimes with an all ladies class it turns into gossip/talk about our social lives hour. Not that these ladies are like that, but sometimes you can't help get carried away in those situations. Is it inappropriate for me to continue visiting the co-ed class even when it's all men except me?

I don't want to give the impression that I am trying to get a man or to feel like I'm intruding on what has really become sort of an all men's class most of the time. If that makes sense!

THANKS!

 

[TriptychR]

Five separate sunday school classes for just singles?! Does your church have its own ZIP code?
It's not your fault that the co-ed class has so few women in it. But on the other hand, that doesn't really make it co-ed anymore. I think you should just tell the class why you want to stay; that you don't like the gossipy nature of the ladies' classes. If they're Godly gentlemen, they'll respect your desire. You shouldn't have to force yourself out of a good class because you're the only girl.

 

[fishstix]

It's perfectly fine for you to keep going to the co-ed class if that's where you want to be whether any other women go or not. After all, it is really still a co-ed class as long as it is open to both genders - even if one gender decides not to attend. You wouldn't really be out of place unless they decided to actually turn it into a men's class and start gearing it towards just men. As far as getting more women interested - I'm not totally sure how you would go about doing that. Do you have one close woman friend at the church who you could ask to come with you? That would be a start. Perhaps the other women would start coming if they knew that there were at least one or two other women there regularly.

If I were in that position, I'd be going to the co-ed class as well as I'm most comfortable in a mixed gender group as opposed to a single gender group. And even if no one else of my gender showed up at the co-ed class, I'd probably still keep going to it.

 

[KeilCoppes]

L4H - way to step up. Many congrats. Obviously, it's just fine for you to go. It's a safe environment, and if you're learning, that's the most important thing. I trust that the men involved will be gentlemen. Just be yourself, true, and laid back - they'll pick up on the vibes. If you're not hunting, they'll get it.

Out of curiosity, is that the same class that was on the covenant? I remember someone mentioning that in a previous post.

 

[Living4Him03]

covenant? nope.

they are gentlemen. they are really nice and don't treat me like oh she's the girl in the class. it's just believers studying the bible and praying. i love it even if i'm the only girl.

 

[KeilCoppes]

they are gentlemen. they are really nice and don't treat me like oh she's the girl in the class. it's just believers studying the bible and praying. i love it even if i'm the only girl.

Thanks. That's the way it so absolutely should be. You can tell the guys they get two thumbs up from me. :^)

 

[SandyLou]

I'm amazed since our singles classes tend to be just the opposite in gender attendance!

I think stay and tell your friends how wonderful the class is! Don't worry about gender - it's all about HIM!

 

[Grunt]

it's just believers studying the bible and praying. i love it even if i'm the only girl.

Then you should stay. That's the part that matters.

 

[TheDatelessLoserX2]

I'm amazed since our singles classes tend to be just the opposite in gender attendance!

Thats how it is in my class, I am one of the few guys that regularly shows up and goes to socials and such, and because of that a lot of my good friends are girls. This is not a bad thing per se, but it still leaves me wishing there were more guys there (considering two of the others that attend drink and make me wonder why they come at all). Our sunday school system has only one class for singles under 30. Marrieds have their own class, and once you hit 30 you get upped into an adult class.

 

[Macrina]

I think you should go to the class that helps you grow spiritually. that simple.

 

[Macrina]

Our sunday school system has only one class for singles under 30. Marrieds have their own class, and once you hit 30 you get upped into an adult class.

...? You aren't an "adult" until you're 30? Or is that only if you're not married?

 

[TheDatelessLoserX2]

...? You aren't an "adult" until you're 30? Or is that only if you're not married?

LOL I never thought of it like that.....

 

[fishstix]

...? You aren't an "adult" until you're 30? Or is that only if you're not married?

Sadly many people do seem to have that attitude...

 

[KeilCoppes]

...? You aren't an "adult" until you're 30? Or is that only if you're not married?

Wuhu - I get to be only 6 years into the adult scale, then! Though it is a curious thought - when I talk to folks my own age with children, they seem to be older. Maybe you get age points for having children.

 

[Macrina]

Wuhu - I get to be only 6 years into the adult scale, then! Though it is a curious thought - when I talk to folks my own age with children, they seem to be older. Maybe you get age points for having children.

I think you do... at least, I know people with children who seem to think so...