One reason I didn't really want to attend church a lot was that most times, it's like you are being called to be loud, outgoing, and to do a certain missionary, in a certain way, with a certain list of characteristics and talents. Some are glamourized like it's the one and only way to serve God. Any else, and you are not a superstar. I felt "less than", or "inferior" or "fake". I felt like I didn't belong, and that I'd only be judged cruelly, especially by the older Christians, some of which lack compassion for new generation's problems they refuse to acknowledge and understand...the ones who 'raised' us seem to be the ones who say they got no part in how we are raised up and claim we just became this way somehow.
I'm sure it's easy to guess that being quiet at church is basically a sign of a "not a real Christian" to many when you imagine the ideal example. It's basically the same comparison as the ideal example of an employee in north america: a go getter, socially-talented, super friendly, partakes in all social gatherings, etc.
So, what about our gifts and what we can offer?
Do they really care about sound advice, or do they only listen if you are charismatic on stage?
Do they even value creative people at church? How often do you hear anymore things like "patience is a virtue" even outside of church? I used to hear it, but I don't anymore. Haste is now 'virtue' it seems.
Last I looked, they even disregard mental health at even large modern churches. Not a single mention of groups meant for people in need of healing outside of things like losses and cancer. Lots of events, but nobody wants to talk about it.
At a small group, only the charismatic people get to speak much, whom often seem to love the center of attention. Nobody says "wait, let's let so and so speak first before we finish". Nope, too bad, time is up, sucker. Basically, learn to start interrupting people, and forget having patience---it gets you nowhere, is a habit it enables.
I'm sure it's easy to guess that being quiet at church is basically a sign of a "not a real Christian" to many when you imagine the ideal example. It's basically the same comparison as the ideal example of an employee in north america: a go getter, socially-talented, super friendly, partakes in all social gatherings, etc.
So, what about our gifts and what we can offer?
Do they really care about sound advice, or do they only listen if you are charismatic on stage?
Do they even value creative people at church? How often do you hear anymore things like "patience is a virtue" even outside of church? I used to hear it, but I don't anymore. Haste is now 'virtue' it seems.
Last I looked, they even disregard mental health at even large modern churches. Not a single mention of groups meant for people in need of healing outside of things like losses and cancer. Lots of events, but nobody wants to talk about it.
At a small group, only the charismatic people get to speak much, whom often seem to love the center of attention. Nobody says "wait, let's let so and so speak first before we finish". Nope, too bad, time is up, sucker. Basically, learn to start interrupting people, and forget having patience---it gets you nowhere, is a habit it enables.