Christian singles group more of a support group

[ThisIsMe123]

Eh, I really don't care if someone thinks I'm gay or not lol. I've had premarital sex after my divorce and I felt awful, guilty, and separated from God. It effected my prayer life, my worship, everything. I literally could feel the Holy Spirit fading from me.

Scary stuff. Besides, people know I'm a born again Christian anyway so I doubt anyone would question my actual wanting to be with women.

I actually have a female friend, in her 50s, that feels that since she's divorced, and obviously had been sexually active. That this doesn't apply to her anymore. It's funny how older, divorced Chrsitians are changing their view point on remaining chaste as in, "Well, I've already had my virginity taken from my ex, so no need to continue being celibate."

 

[Reformed2]

I actually have a female friend, in her 50s, that feels that since she's divorced, and obviously had been sexually active. That this doesn't apply to her anymore. It's funny how older, divorced Chrsitians are changing their view point on remaining chaste as in, "Well, I've already had my virginity taken from my ex, so no need to continue being celibate."

For me its not about virginity in any way, its about repentance. I like women.. a lot. After my divorce, I sinned, a lot. It's just not worth it.

I tried telling myself it's okay; it doesn't mention premarital sex in the bible, it's all based on theology, married people don't understand, it's not as if it's adultery and so on. The Holy Spirit however was convicting me.

I continued to ignore the Spirit. Then I began to sin in other ways too. Using profanity, gossiping, drinking, bad witnessing etc.

It was a toehold that grew into a foothold that almost became a stronghold. God is faithful though and He pulled me out of it. I belong to Jesus now. I had to learn the hard way though because hello, who wants to be celibate?

I do now, because it's literally God or sin.

 

[blackribbon]

when I was talking "Growing old" together it was in the context of looking for a long term marriage, not in the context of mortality.

Oh....so I already got to "grow old together"? I wonder why it doesn't feel that way.....

 

[timewerx]

It's okay to do their thing. If you find it frustrating, perhaps, you can consider looking somewhere else.

 

[ThisIsMe123]

Eh, I really don't care if someone thinks I'm gay or not lol. I've had premarital sex after my divorce and I felt awful, guilty, and separated from God. It effected my prayer life, my worship, everything. I literally could feel the Holy Spirit fading from me.

Scary stuff. Besides, people know I'm a born again Christian anyway so I doubt anyone would question my actual wanting to be with women.

I think that's where you and I differ, and how I differ from many others. I mean, I hear how non-Christians say, "Man, I'm never getting married" or add "again" to that statement. "Women are nothin' but trouble", then that'll instigate an argument from the female gender. lol "Come on, women aren't all THAT bad, lol!"

I have to be frank, I'm 45, and had never been in a long term relationship. My dates are few and far between, and maybe that's why I STILL desire it. I think not having been in a long term relationship

I can only count on one hand how many women I've "dated" a few months, but that's about it. The last one, she ended it after only a month, and I think it was because she was going through the Christmas blues...the whole 'Need a guy for the holidays, and then dump 'em after you're OVER it."

So therein lies my desire to still marry.

I try to keep my lack of experience with women on the down low, as this can be a turn off for them as they think I would be incapable of sticking around. They may see me as an actual player that have multiple women I'm seeing, but not commited to.

They'll assume I'm commitment phobic on that reason alone. They judge too quickly and harshly my lack of relationship experience.

But hey, at least I'm trying to maintain celibacy, right? lol