Chit Chat (9)

birdie29 said:

it was nice, but she is so lonely and somehow the stroke prevents her from understanding that i cannot give her both my days off. she wants me to spend them with her house hunting and my house is a reck.. i asked her once when she made a request liek that if we could compromise and she could help me clean house and then we could go but the act of cleaning my house was too stressful for her so I had to tell her no. i work so hard during the week and i get so tired that my two days off are all about laundry and doing the stuff i couldn't' do earlier. I love her to pieces but she will consume all of my time if i let her and her she doesn't correct her children (another problem for me). she has a 22 year old and a 4 year old. the 22 year old causes drama on a daily basis and the 4 year old continuously disrupted everything that wasn't about her all evening long. I heard, I don't like you, I want to go home, I'm gonna beet you up, mom, lets take her home.. all evening long. sorry I'm so mean but I don't know how much of that I can take. my friend does nothing at all to correct the child. she just sits there and ignores her. basically she is reaching out to me because her life is a mess... she doesn't realize that right now mine is too. I'm not sure what to do.

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servant of Merciful Love said:

I had to make a surprise trip to the garage today; my windshield washer suddenly ceased working.
Bravely I uncovered the cover on the hood to expose the line and saw the connection just broke off (deteriorated from freezing?)
So I drove over to have them check it and they will order a new valve attachment.
Praying that will do the trick, otherwise we must replace the whole unit which will cost a pretty penny.
May the Lord's will be done as to the labor and timing of the repair; they will call in a day or so when the part comes in.
I normally get nervous (or annoyed) with unexpected situations like car repairs, but managed to handle it gracefully today
Even with that unplanned event, it was a productive day all around, though I am tired now from a restless/short night's sleep.
Catch you all later

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angelwind said:

I was up at 3am, but had rested well last night, got the flors dry mopped and took Gracie to the park for a walk...this park is a little farther away, but more level, easier for for knees for sure.
We have foggy, wet weather today...it would be too wet to walk outside now, although it is not raining...I love this kind of weather.

Gracie was a mess after our early walk...I rinsed her off with the hose outside, dried her a bit then combed her out, she still looks perfect!

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servant of Merciful Love said:

I can't imagine 'hosing' Penny off ~ the groomer said (used to )cry while being bathed and dried , and still spins around constantly
We have always just done spot treatments here at home, and always had her groomed from early on.
It is exhausting just getting her brushed
Though the groomer said she is calming down some now, and we can tell because I no longer have to fix missed spots

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servant of Merciful Love said:

Wow Connie that is a lot to handle with your full plate!

I would certainly set limits as to how you help and when (like when she is alone with no kids in tow).

There is no need for you to subject yourself to such nonsense

She will have to understand that you have needs too, and you are strapped for time an energy....and that you prefer meeting alone.

Praying for your direction and grace in this...I am sure it won't be easy given her circumstances.

And you are NOT being mean
Though it isn't a pleasant thing to do....we all need to set limits for our own mental and physical health or we won't be able to help anyone

God bless your dear heart

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birdie29 said:

there will never be a time alone until and uless her soon to be exhusband gets the youngest. She is going through a divorce. I warned her not to do this but she did it anyway. she kicked her husband out and filed for divorce.. he wants the house back and he wants their daughter. it's his house and the courts are most likely going to see him as the parent of choice because of her handicap. she has recovered some but she still walks with the help of an electronic device and she has no feeling or movement on her right side. she has trouble forming thoughts into sentences (the stroke) and sometimes she says one thing and means something else all together. she can't work... she just has the 4 year old. the 22 year old lives with her dad and has just gotten pregnant. why didn't she listen to me... ??? I told her that a divorce was a terrible idea but she got caught up in a fight that was between her husband and her oldest daughter and it go the best of her. anyway.. poor thing.. it would be nice to just sit and talk with only her but that isn't going to happen untill he takes their daughter. Until then she's a single mom with a handicap.

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angelwind said:

Hmmmm....she just doesn't like that kind of touching...
Gracie seems to like being in water...she jumped into the edge of a lake last summer...that really surprised me. I taught her how to be groomed, she is not crazy about it, but is much better than when we first started...I comb her hair...using a spray on detangler/conditioner, then clean around eyes, then brush her teeth...about every 2 or 3 days.

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servant of Merciful Love said:

I can't imagine 'hosing' Penny off ~ the groomer said (used to )cry while being bathed and dried , and still spins around constantly
We have always just done spot treatments here at home, and always had her groomed from early on.
It is exhausting just getting her brushed
Though the groomer said she is calming down some now, and we can tell because I no longer have to fix missed spots

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servant of Merciful Love said:

How sad
Praying for her ~ God bless her...and you

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birdie29 said:

her and I talked a little tonight. she could sure use your prayers. she wants to spend several hours together tomorrow but all i have is tomorrow evening open. I told her I would call when I got my stuff done. she's very lonely and very overwhelmed. Not even 40 yet..a stroke victim, a 4 year old and a divorce on the horizon. She told me tonight that its all too much for her. Her older sister died of cancer a few months ago... that was hard for her too. she feels pain but because of the stroke she could not cry at the funeral (her body forgot how).. I had no idea what a stroke can take from you. it takes a lot. She's met a friend another handicapped person. a man.. she feels guilty I think because she isn't divorced yet. He was in a car accident that left him partially paralyzed. Its good to have someone to talk to I think. Her husband doesn't want her back. I know that. She said it is too hard to take care of her 4 year old by herself and she does not want her (maggie) to leave but she will be a little bit relieved when she does. more guilt that she is feeling.

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357magnum said:

Birdie,

Your daughter and her family will be in my prayers.

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birdie29 said:

I finally got most of my mess cleaned up. my house was sooooo out of control. I was about to shut the door behind me and just move. lol... I can stand to live here again.. PRAISE GOD. I still have a few things to throw out and the office to clean.

Got an email from avon yesterday. she wants me to hold tight on my business plan. She is going to a conference on May 2 and wants me to give her a chance to do some digging. I certainly will do that. May 2 is right around the corner. Meanwhile I am looking into other ventures that I may like to do. I pray that God blesses my efforts and causes me to pick the right opportunity.

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birdie29 said:

Tom, she isn't my daughter. She's just a friend. But she needs your prayers anyway. Thanks

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servant of Merciful Love said:

Good for you Connie
I know the feeling of being behind....when you get out from under it feel so good
Praying for your hope in new possibilities ~ the Lord has a perfect plan for you, I am sure

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angelwind said:

When I put our bathroom back together, I was inspired to clean and reorganize a lot of things...I threw away a lot, filled a big recycle bin up to the brim one day. I still have some smaller areas that need work, but the major shelves and closets are very nice...oooh, it feels good to do this once in a while.

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servant of Merciful Love said:

It does
We need to get into the cellar storage now.
It WAS neat until my mother and Jim's father died a WEEK APART
In cleaning out THEIR homes to sell, we acquired a lot of THEIR belongings that need to be sorted through still.
2+ years later, it is all still sitting there

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servant of Merciful Love said:

The garage called...my windshield washer part came in, so I drove over, and was back home just 30 min. after leaving the house.
The good news...it was fixed in minutes and I was only charged for the part $7.42
If it hadn't worked, they would have had to replace the whole washer unit.
The man who fixed it is just the guy who ORDERS the parts...he wanted to save me the labor cost!God bless his dear heart

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