It's not unusual for devoted Christian women to have a lot of trouble finding good mates. In fact, it's pretty hard for women with integrity (whether Christian or not) to find men who honor relationships and will make long-lasting commitments.
I DO think you need to do more than just pray. And you do need to do more than just go to a singles group at your own church. You need to look more actively across the USA, or whatever country that you are living in. You could try eharmony.com. Think of it as just one way to generate some communication with Christian men. You don't immediately have to start dating them. But it would be very helpful to open lines of communication.
Travel. Go some places that you would like to see. Visit churches in those areas too. Don't just stick to your denomination - look to a wider group of Christians. It may feel better to go with a friend - many women do not feel comfortable travelling alone. But get out there ... be more visible.
It's mostly about broadening your circle of contacts.
You need to get out of the rut. Unfortunately, many Christians (just like everyone else!) tend to surround themselves with familiar places and people. It's a comfort zone thing. Your current comfort zone is working against you. Keep in mind - if you want to break a comfort zone, then it won't feel "comfortable" to expand your horizons. But you do need to do this.
Good posting, Gideon.
OP,
27 is in no way "too late" to find a mate.
Though I wasn't a virgin in my 20s (lost mine in HS before I became of faith a year later in college), lived like one in my 20s and really tried to find a good Christian woman to date and marry. But it seemed like I didn't exist to them, and got real frustrated.
Actually feared God had "forgotten" about me and the pledge I made to live a sexually responsible life. .
Dated but rarely got second or third dates until 26-27, when I intensified my dating and expanded my social circle.
Understand it's different for women, as I always thought they have more opportunities. However, there are some things you can do, like Gideon suggested, to get yourself out there.
Please read through this thread on another board.
Though it was originally directed to single, never-been-in-a-relationship men in their late 20s and 30s, some women participated and offered their perspectives. It might give you some ideas.
For those who can't get dates in their late 20s, 30s and 40s
_For those who can't get dates in their late 20s, 30s and 40s - LoveShack.org Community Forums
There's a lot of advice about getting out and leaving your "comfortable" places and meeting people, like church singles groups and other places.
As for me, I escaped singledom in my early 30s.
Just 3 mos. after I turned 30, met my future wife, a Christian, through a blind date set-up by her best friend. So God hadn't "forgotten" about me.
I knew her friend as a business acquaintance and during a business lunch with her, happened to blurt out my frustration with the type of women I was meeting in the town I lived.
Not sure why I felt the need to express my dissatisfaction with not being able to date women in their early 20s ( I couldn't relate) or women 40+/divorced/kids, which I really wasn't interested in @30.
She told me she had a friend in a neighboring city and asked if I'd be interested in meeting her. OF COURSE !!!
Oftentimes, people will say they'll set you up but never do.
But God bless this Christian woman as she did call me the next week and arranged a date with her and her husband and my future wife.
Now, don't go into a blind date thinking it will be roses and this will be the love of your life.
On mine, didn't sense she was that "into" me and feared it wasn't gonna work.
But what could I expect? We were strangers and had never met.
Wasn't like we knew each other from work or church.
But later, something kept gnawing at me that I needed to call her and get a real date, just her and I.
So please... don't always go on first impressions.
If I'd ruled her out and moved on, as I was used to doing in my early 30s, would've missed-out on enjoying a loving relationship with a woman that was just as lonely as me that I felt God brought us together.
