Can't take much more...

[Fatolia]

HOWEVER, I will say this: I'm one of those good girls. Not at all bragging when I say that. I'm one of those good church girls who wants a relationship as bad as you do.

It's true. She's not bragging. She's one of the good girls. I totally agree.

But she's also secretly a vampire. And a cute one at that.

 

[Glaz]

I've tried... and tried... and tried...

18 years now.

And I'm still single.

I'm getting sick of it. I really am. I know that if I have someone that my life will turn around and luck will start coming to me again. All I have to do is find my angel... but it's easier said than done. I don't know why I can't find anyone. Apparently, I have bad luck when it comes to relationships, and, well, I'm sick of it.

So I'm giving myself an ultimatum.

I have decided to give myself 90 more days to find someone or I will... go away, so to speak. I refuse to live the rest of my life single and that's the road that is headed for me if I keep this up. I'm 18 now, most of my friends are married and all of them but me are in a relationship. I have nothing left to give to myself, and I find myself at night crying wishing I was dead because my soul is so cold. It's gotten so cold to the point where I'm freezing in 85 degree temperatures outside.

I can't live like this anymore. There are no good qualities to being single. I see all these happy couples and I wish for a chance at someone in my life. I'm sick of being this... this... thing that everyone just scoffs at and walks away.

I'm sick of my falling grades because I have no support. I'm sick of being hated continuously, and having all these friends that are girls who want to be with me but are stuck with their boyfriends. I'm sick of it, SICK OF IT, SICK OF IT!!! I won't live like this any longer. My life will change, one way or another. I don't care what it has to take. I'm tired of people bragging their relationships in my face, both on and offline, tired of seeing all this romance around my college campus. I want my own fair share too. I don't want to die alone, or marry someone when I'm 70 and too old to love someone, and have to start worrying about going to heaven.

Words of a lost soul...

Friends being married, hah! A bunch of my friends got married right out of high school and none of their marriages lasted 10 years. They all said the same thing 'got married too young'. So don't let that bother you..........your time will come. Just don't let yourself become so jaded you can't see good things for what they are. You never know when a good thing is going to come along.

 

[Heel2Heaven]

"Happily Single" is my nickname and I'm proud of it. I'm alone, but not lonely. My days are full of fun activities such as thinking about how God has been so good to me, how HE came out to save me from my sin and all.

 

[KeilCoppes]

This is likely just an echo in all that's going by, but just a note:

1) The days come one at a time.
2) They all belong to God, who sends us what He has determined we need that day (as in give us .this. day our .daily. bread)

It took me a long time to realize that, and yes it can be difficult. I've had days in which I concluded that I was the only person on the planet like myself, separated from the rest of humanity, and no one other than my parents would ever love me. But that's not the basis of a life, particularly a life before God. What do we need to end up with? Total trusting in God, coupled with daily doing what we can to improve the situation - and then resting on His providence. A parallel - "I planted, Apollos watered, but God gave the increase". Perhaps for a while you're in planting school. Perhaps you will be in a different field in days to come. No matter, the increase is truly God's. Give Him your pain and then step forward to the remainder of the day.

Hope it helps - praying for you.

Keil C

 

[lunalinda]

It's true. She's not bragging. She's one of the good girls. I totally agree.

But she's also secretly a vampire. And a cute one at that.

lol hey now! Sure I might like dark nights better than bright, sunny days, and sure I might be as pale as the moonlight itself, and uh, ahem, sure I like to wear black (because it's SLIMMING!) but I'm no vampire!

 

[justasinner]

lol hey now! Sure I might like dark nights better than bright, sunny days, and sure I might be as pale as the moonlight itself, and uh, ahem, sure I like to wear black (because it's SLIMMING!) but I'm no vampire!

Your perfect the way you are my Lady, Please do not let Fatolia get to you.

Everyone needs LOVE within their life. That that includes you, lunalinda.

And I have always love the dark skies it help me focus on things that are more important. Plus, moonlight has always been linked to Romance and Love. And those creatures that wonders the night are alway hungry for LOVE. I guess that why I love cats.

 

[PetraFan007]

Petra listen to me, you will find a girl for sure. The problem is girls your age are watching desperate housewives and sex in the city. American women are mostly, MOSTLY, superficial trash. they are raised on mtv and rediculous shows that tell them if a guy is not rich and is not tall and in shape and drives a cadallac escalade find one that is. if you are married find one to cheat with.
when you get to know some girls that are 26+ the game starts to change usually after they are used up, damaged goods and they have learned that those kind of people are superficial and meaningless. The thing is it takes women at least 8 years beyond highschool to get the rediculous fantasies about life out of their programming. They are not ALL used up, start a personal add on yahoo and profile yourself looking for a
"christain woman that I can take care of" age 25-28 and watch how many opportunities open up to you.

LOL!!!!!!!!!! Dude, are you serious? Sadly...I've noticed this. Too many superficial girls asking for MORE THEN GUYS ask (and girls think looking for a supermodel is too much to ask for...lol)! But I've got stricter standard. I want a virgin christian girl whose never been in love with another guy. Where am I gonna find that? I don't think those standards are wrong, because I can match them (I'm a virgin who has never been in love with another girl). I'm 21 now...and I could go out with a girl between the age of 18-22 if I wanted to. But how many of them want to get married that young? And will I find one who is a virgin in this society? How about when I'm older (say 26-28)...and women I'm interested in are between 22-24, etc (just as an example).....firstly, the chances that I will find an attractive* single christian girl who is STILL A VIRGIN at that age...my gosh... it's scary. I dunno...it's sad. I've met a couple "real" girls, but they aren't ready yet lol.
*Attractive: I find most women my age attractive so don't think I'm being shallow

 

[PetraFan007]

Well, Oh My Heck, as my good Mormon friends would say. Listen, bub, not all people are the same. We, who have some years on you, are not mindless when we say things like "18 or 21 is too young."

Anyone who is 18 or even 21 has not had a chance to experience life on their own for a significant amount of time. Is this important? Sure it is. Why? Because it is best to know who the heck you are ALONE and with GOD before you're even close to being ready for a committed relationship which you pray will be for life.

What have you, in general, at Age 18 or 21, done that's been significant to experience life and the world? Anything? How about a college education? Perhaps you don't need one... some don't and they're lucky. Some don't even know if they're ready for college until they're 25!!!!!!!! Are they any more mindless than you or your average 10 year old? No. They've needed to time to grow as a human being, not just as a Christian, but as a person as a whole. These things take time. If one rushes into marriage at such a young age two things are potentially very dangerous about that: A) You never get a chance to know who YOU are as your very own individual person. B) You may not be ready EVEN IF YOU THINK YOU ARE. Listen, between 97 and 98% of all 18-21 year olds think they know EVERYTHING!!! I did. I knew everything then that I needed to know and nobody could tell me I was wrong 'cause I wasn't and nobody could tell me I needed to grow up and experience life 'cause I was as mature as anyone in the world. I was untouchable, I was invinsible... and I was like most every other 18-21 year old - i was a fool. Looking back on those years they were some of the best of my life but I knew not a darn thing. I had relationships and i LEARNED from them!!! Man, i tell ya, when you've been in love and had your heart crushed a few times you really learn a thing or two, especially about the female persuasion of the species. When you have time to experience the world and much of what it has to offer you also learn. You cannot do that married. You should not be needing someone at such a young age. It is approximately 99.9% true that you need to exist all on your own... and hey, check this out - you NEED to be content in it. If I was so inclined, as you were so kind to say, I'd say screw your talk about being ready at 18 'cause if i was a bettin' man I'd lay down W's national debt that you are simply not ready at all. I'm not sayin' your not and i KNOW some people will want to read into what I say, maybe you are a rare exception, PetraFan... but if i was gonna place a bet I'd bet against you, no offense... my reasoning is what I've said - most KIDS that age are indeed still kids in MANY ways, grown up they may be in other ways, but true maturity takes time. Take the advice, Petra and Harpuia: live for awhile. Have PATIENCE. Sit down with God alone and just live and grow in Christ as he wishes for you to do. You may say you've done that. You haven't enough. "You don't know me," you might fire back. I don't... but I do. By 18-21 you're simply just not where you should be IF you're so needy. Most men by 25 or so are just about ready for that one woman to settle down with. Exceptions are rare.

Harpuia - you are needy. You need Christ alone in your life and you NEED to be content with being single. Want the Scripture to back it up, just ask! I fear deep down there is some severe need for attention in your life, some deep down desire to be loved so badly. If that's the case then I am sorry for whatever brought you to that. If I am mistaken then still you've truly got to Love Yourself, man. Walk upright like a noble man who is HAPPY to say "I am single and I am growing in my knowledge and my love for Christ each and every day I am alive. I will be patient and in the meantime I will be a shining example of what a godly single young man should be." If you cannot wake up in the morning content with yourself being single then you are not ready for that special someone to walk in your life just yet. That's cold, hard fact, mister. There's no murmuring allowed in this here game we call life or else ya ain't gonna get yourself anywhere positive, you just gonna wander that desert for awhile and if you keep complainin' you'll just keep wanderin'.

You need to go talk to someone, a youth minister, a pastor, someone you can confide in, someone who will pray with you and guide you towards where you wanna be. You're in a bad place, my friend; you're not even close to being capable of having someone in your life other than Christ. Man, I'm gonna pray for you right now, bro, alright? I care about you and I care about all who are not happy in where they are and you're not... but you really could be and you should be.

Well, I definitely don't think I know everything. But I sure as heck have my head on straight for my age. I've been mistaken for being older for my wisdom in conversations online. I think things through. I'm not reckless. Sure, I have my passions of metal and I go nuts on guitar and I can be a goof...but hey I'm not gonna grow up to be a loser with no passion and necrotic (like most adults). You don't have to be 30-35 to have the required knowledge/knowhow to be with a woman or like I said, I wouldn't have these desires to be with one in the first place. Yes I understand you need an education and experience so you don't screw up, but in this society most of the **** that is taught to us is propaganda/****/ridiculousness. How can you even learn or have experience without even having it in the first place? You gotta start somewhere. People forget that. All the advice I need is from the Bible, and from people who have been through somethings I'm thinking about getting into. You "seem" to offer that, but yeah I think I'm a rare breed...but maybe I'm wrong, who knows? But hey I love being the underdog. I'm a Red Sox fan. Go ahead and make the bet, it'd be quite fun to prove you wrong. But again, it's all in good fun. Anyways, I know myself well enough that I won't make certian decisions (and no, I'm not just SAYING THAT) that will screw my life up for years... such as even my parents made. It makes no sense to me the stupid things and decisions people make. Things that could have easily been avoided. But again, I've guarded my heart over the years and not let so much affect me that I make decisions out of haste. So, anyways... I know what I want to say, it's in my head, but for some reason it's not coming out into this box, so I'm gonna leave it at that.

 

[Fatolia]

Please do not let Fatolia get to you.

Dude, I wasn't insulting her. She understands that.

 

[JPPT1974]

Your perfect the way you are my Lady, Please do not let Fatolia get to you.

Everyone needs LOVE within their life. That that includes you, lunalinda.

And I have always love the dark skies it help me focus on things that are more important. Plus, moonlight has always been linked to Romance and Love. And those creatures that wonders the night are alway hungry for LOVE. I guess that why I love cats.

I always love that when dark skies help you keep things in perspective as well as what is important. I love cats myself and don't let Fatolia get to you as well.