Can't help it that I am so beautiful

[Shannonkish]

mmm... no comment.. discernment is a gift and a curse all at the same time.

 

[naturalbeauty]

I am so tired of everything. Its hard to start over. You know you will pray for few days and all is so good and stuff then all of a sudden something comes up and you get mad then all over again you don't read the Bible and don't pray then again you get this huge desire to have a close relationship with God and again everything is awesome for a week then it all goes down hill. I am tired of falling and getting back up. I feel like oh God here I am..yeah I fell again please forgive me. You know?

 

[ischus]

My only comment: Sometimes I really dislike the gift of discernment... :/

mmm... no comment.. discernment is a gift and a curse all at the same time.

since you keep bringing it up, why not explain???

 

[Shannonkish]

Okay, I will.

if you follow this girls thread... and read it... you can discern that she is posting for attention. The reason I say this, is one, I have the gift of discernment, and two if you notice, she has stopped actually responding to people's posts.. but rather goes on and talks about herself. if Sher were truly looking for help, She would be responding and listening to the advice that others have made.

 

[ischus]

sorry- I wasn't trying to be rude. I was just wondering what the gift of discernment is in the context of the internet, and how it works, and why you don't like having it...

 

[rainbowprism]

Okay, I will.

if you follow this girls thread... and read it... you can discern that she is posting for attention. The reason I say this, is one, I have the gift of discernment, and two if you notice, she has stopped actually responding to people's posts.. but rather goes on and talks about herself. if Sher were truly looking for help, She would be responding and listening to the advice that others have made.

I agree this is an attention vampire we're dealing with. First it's so unfair that she's pretty, then she thinks she's pregnant, blah blah blah.... Just let this thread die.

 

[Shannonkish]

ischus,

I wasn't upset. It was cool. Discernment is not in the context of anything..internet or being face to face with someone. I meet lots of people and through a simple conversation with them God chooses to reveal something to me..(not always) and then I have to make a decision- pray, confront, or encourage... In this case, it was time to confront.

it is hard having the gift of discernment at times because I learn things about people that I don't necessarily want to know.

 

[ischus]

ischus,

I wasn't upset. It was cool. Discernment is not in the context of anything..internet or being face to face with someone. I meet lots of people and through a simple conversation with them God chooses to reveal something to me..(not always) and then I have to make a decision- pray, confront, or encourage... In this case, it was time to confront.

it is hard having the gift of discernment at times because I learn things about people that I don't necessarily want to know.

Ok...thanks for explaining. That makes sense.

 

[Vollkommen Warrior]

I cant say for sure we are responding to a real persona here but if we were, then here is the diagnosis to the issue. This person would be upset because she gave her virginity away to her boyfriend (temporary) whom she no longer lusts for and not her husband (permanent - or should be these days). She gave into lust which would be a sin and now feels bad about it. So she is doing one of several things.:

#1 Emotionally jumping into another relationship to "wipe" the old from her mind.

Problem: She will most likely have sex with this person to and enter into a further state of denial with herself.

#2 Focus on her "appearance" still yet to be determined - no pic- doesn't matter anyway.

Problem: Focusing on her appearance allows her to fabricate an excuse for sinning and allows her to go on sinning as if it is not her fault.

#3 Other.

The answer to this scenatio is to realize that you have sinned, explain this to the boyfriend as well. Then do not date for a good while until you become centered enough in your own mind that you can date without having sex. Only you know when you can do this. Pray to the Lord for help. I have always been a good looking guy (I have been told) but that doesn't mean that I have it harder than someone who is not in the dating scene. It is a NON-ISSUE really. So let's not make excuses about that. I dated for a long time and did not have sex interX until I married. It was very difficult and made dating akward. That's why I hated dating to begin with. Sorry if any of this is matter of fact or if you are a real person. I come off arrogant in type sometimes - dont mean to.

 

[rainbowprism]

Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. For this is the way holy women of the past who put the their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful.

~1 Peter 3:4-5

 

[Rose Kuo]

I see from this that you are very young and have not gone through much "reality therapy". You think you will always look as you do and that people's feelings really don't matter. But if you can't be one hundred percent committed to you r boyfriend then tell him you are not ready yet and that you are going out to discover the world. This will make it easier for you, but will you be fulfilled? I doubt it.

If you are a Christian, you should thank God for your beauty, temporary as it may be, and ask Him to find you the man that you can be a helper to. Every man needs a "helpmate" and you are made to help someone. Men aren't there to satisfy you and you aren't there to satisfy them, as though anyone can really satisfy anyone. Christian marriage is a great joy and a calling.

Dating is fun but just for the heck of dating or conquering another person, it can become shallow and may lead you into having a character that you are not proud of. Outer beauty is a great gift, but what will you do with an inside that is made ugly by immorality. I have been there and beautiful women commit suicide everyday because they find that beauty alone can not make them happy. They need to be people who know the love of God and who can learn to share it with others. This will fulfill you and hopefully you will find a kind godly man who will help you learn the value of a Christian relationship. --Rose

 

[BarbB]

I am so tired of everything. Its hard to start over. You know you will pray for few days and all is so good and stuff then all of a sudden something comes up and you get mad then all over again you don't read the Bible and don't pray then again you get this huge desire to have a close relationship with God and again everything is awesome for a week then it all goes down hill. I am tired of falling and getting back up. I feel like oh God here I am..yeah I fell again please forgive me. You know?

Don't give up, nb! Just keep picking yourself up and brushing yourself off and praising God for the ability to do so. Keep going to church. Keep reading the Bible, even when you don't want to, and pray. Pray the Psalms if you can't think of anything else. God bless you!

 

[Jedi christian]

I would like to put my 2 cents in:
If I were you I would not worry about my boyfriend and just talk to whatever guy I wanted as long as it was just harmless chatter. But if you do start acctually LOVING two guys, I would date them both. I don't think theirs anything wrong with going on dates with two different people at the same time. I know I wouldn't care if my girlfriend wanted to go on a date or two with somebody else.

 

[runwaymodel]

I would like to put my 2 cents in:
If I were you I would not worry about my boyfriend and just talk to whatever guy I wanted as long as it was just harmless chatter. But if you do start acctually LOVING two guys, I would date them both. I don't think theirs anything wrong with going on dates with two different people at the same time. I know I wouldn't care if my girlfriend wanted to go on a date or two with somebody else.

No way? You would not mind? I find that kind of odd. Do you love your g/f? I am sure anyone that loves their bf/gf would not like that idea very much. Or maybe you do not think anything is wrong because you are doing the same thing.

 

[my36bday]

Sweetheart,

I hope that you will read the scriptures that Raphi included in his reply. All of us have something that we struggle with. Someday vanity and loss of humility will catch up to you. We are not defined by our outward appearance. Your beauty is a gift from God. Try to find beauty in all people regardless of their shell and you will be beautiful indeed. I will pray for you. Remember, we all grow old and youth and beauty fade, but the heart and the beauty of Christ's love and the love we show to others is eternal.

 

[Anna N. Amos]

NB

If you are attractive, and you go around announcing it you unfortunately will become unattractive fast. Haven't you ever met someone who was average and when they spoke they became lovely? and the opposite?

Because you think these boys are attracted to you because you are so gorgeous, I gotta tell you, if you are as young as you sound it is just because you are a challange, a conquest, somone to take advantage of, perhaps especially if you walk around telling people how hot you are.

We have all seen Jenny Jones of Jerry Springer while flipping past them in a hurry, and for the most part they have some very unattractive people on there talking about how gorgeous they are -- and really it is only because they feel sexual and they are finding that the boys are stimulated by their sexuality.

I caution you. If you are begining to feel your "womaness" and the response of the boys is making you feel even prettier and more appealing then I think this maybe about becoming a woman and learning how to deal with it in a Godly fashion.

I was once young and told that I was a knock-out. And for a little while I was strutting my stuff. But you know what? None of the boys were interested in me. They did not even know what color my eyes were because I think their eyes never rose that high.

So, after I really enjoyed the attention, I found it cheap and shallow. I found I was merely an object, a trophy and not a person.

The love of God makes you real and gives you a genuine beauty.

You may want to research the Bible on women. Or read a book about Oprah Winfrey who has done more as a Christian than most ever will and see what real beauty is. Find your own deep within you.

And if you are nice to look at, ask God to help you deal with it.

I saw Brad Pit on Oprah and he was asked by her, that she had heard he was getting all kinds of attention since the 3rd grade. She talked to him about being "grounded".

He said his mother used to talk to him everynight, and one night he asked her why isn't life fair? He had noticed people treated him differently. His mother said to him, you will have a bigger responsibility.

And if you truly are attractive and this is not a ploy for attention, then you will also have a bigger responsibility. Not to use people. Not to collect them to feel good.

And if you are as young as you sound, you may not need a serious boyfriend at this time in your life. You need a little maturity.

Ask God how to BE beautiful.

Like Brad told Oprah, he saw what she did for the African children and that is what he wants to do with his fame, help others, give meaning to life, and use whatever gifts he has for "good" and for humanity.

May God keep you on your journey

 

[Carl Carlson]

Reminds me of a song...

"You're so vein, you probably think this song is about you..."

OH man, I laugh because I love. Yeah, there are a lot of people that replied with good posts and scripture and I don't even think I want to reply to it the way I want to anyway...but good job everyone that replied.

Wow...I didnt know if I was supposed to take it seriously, but then again...

Either way, I will pray for you.

You may want to research the Bible on women. Or read a book about Oprah Winfrey who has done more as a Christian than most ever will and see what real beauty is. Find your own deep within you.

I saw Brad Pit on Oprah and he was asked by her, that she had heard he was getting all kinds of attention since the 3rd grade. She talked to him about being "grounded".

He said his mother used to talk to him everynight, and one night he asked her why isn't life fair? He had noticed people treated him differently. His mother said to him, you will have a bigger responsibility.

Like Brad told Oprah, he saw what she did for the African children and that is what he wants to do with his fame, help others, give meaning to life, and use whatever gifts he has for "good" and for humanity.

Please don't quote Oprah as something similar to scripture...I'm getting nauseous thinking about that (Especially in reference to vanity). I don't want to get into the New Age movement and what Oprah is doing. Stick with the first idea about the Bible, that was a good suggestion.

God Bless you all.