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Can't help it that I am so beautiful
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I think I may be speaking for most people on this post when i ask, has any of this advice affected you in a good way? Are you ready to see who you really are yet? A child of God, whose body is only a temporary "tent" (yes, even those parts you consider so amazing will be gone soon)? As the bible has said, you are to place NO confidence in the flesh.
I am NOT saying this to knock you down or make you feel bad, it really is for your own good.
You WILL, just like everyone else, lose what you think you have, one day. I want you to have something left that you hold much more dear....your walk with God, your soul. I pray that you will have this left when just like the most beautiful flowers in the world in all their splendor do fade, wither and rot away, so will you.
If you say you love God, then bow down to Him and read His word, and you will find correction in your ways. If you refuse to do that, then everything you say or do IS in VAIN.
I am NOT saying this to knock you down or make you feel bad, it really is for your own good.
You WILL, just like everyone else, lose what you think you have, one day. I want you to have something left that you hold much more dear....your walk with God, your soul. I pray that you will have this left when just like the most beautiful flowers in the world in all their splendor do fade, wither and rot away, so will you.
If you say you love God, then bow down to Him and read His word, and you will find correction in your ways. If you refuse to do that, then everything you say or do IS in VAIN.
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i stopped caring about some things because ive been having sex with my bf and because of that I dont want to let go either. then when I see how much he loves me and how every day he tells me how he feels and tries to do everything to make me happy i feel bad if I were to let him go but then I just recently starting calling a new guy who asked me out on a date and I am like trapped in between. I do not want to dump my bf, i want to go out with this new guy, and I think I might be pregnant so i am staying with my man but i don't really want this. i did give alot fo thoguht about what you guys have told me but it will be a hard struggle to get over my confidence about my looks. When I was thinknig about everything I don't even know where to start to un do this mess and if I can be strong enough to let it all go and give my problems to God. Some things I dont even want to let go too.
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What on earth are you doing girl?!
Pregnant!!!!
Why are you having sex outside of the convenant of marriage?
Okay i am going to calm down now...
You will not get help from this board with these problems. You are wasting your time. You are much further in trouble than just a flirting and vanity issue...
Now we are involving premarital sex, unprotected, new life is a possibility and you are still a child. You need to seek serious counsel, from a pastor or other godly counsel. Stop your behaviours right now and get help. Push yourself away from this computer, go to the phone and start dialing. You have a church right?
Seeking help for matters this deep on a website is not going to help you, we can't really reach you in the way you need to be reached.
This is NOT love you are feeling. It is selfish immature lust. None of what you or your boyfriend are doing display lasting love at all. He is using you, NOT giving you love. A man who takes sex from someone who isn't his wife is getting a great deal an dhe knows it. IT's like an unpaid prostitue. No cost, no commitment, no responsiblilty, just him getting off under the disguise of 'love'.
You need help now PLEASE seek it. And pray for GOd to bring the help to you that you need, counsel, mentors, physicians, all that will help you deal with the mess yuo have made of your own free will. Man my prayer list is getting really really long on here!
Pregnant!!!!
Why are you having sex outside of the convenant of marriage?
Okay i am going to calm down now...
You will not get help from this board with these problems. You are wasting your time. You are much further in trouble than just a flirting and vanity issue...
Now we are involving premarital sex, unprotected, new life is a possibility and you are still a child. You need to seek serious counsel, from a pastor or other godly counsel. Stop your behaviours right now and get help. Push yourself away from this computer, go to the phone and start dialing. You have a church right?
Seeking help for matters this deep on a website is not going to help you, we can't really reach you in the way you need to be reached.
This is NOT love you are feeling. It is selfish immature lust. None of what you or your boyfriend are doing display lasting love at all. He is using you, NOT giving you love. A man who takes sex from someone who isn't his wife is getting a great deal an dhe knows it. IT's like an unpaid prostitue. No cost, no commitment, no responsiblilty, just him getting off under the disguise of 'love'.
You need help now PLEASE seek it. And pray for GOd to bring the help to you that you need, counsel, mentors, physicians, all that will help you deal with the mess yuo have made of your own free will. Man my prayer list is getting really really long on here!
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ischus
ΙΣΧΥΣ ΚΑΙ ΤΙΜΗ
Well this is completely different. Thank you for opening up and sharing what it truly behind all of this.
nb, I am praying for you.
This will not be an easy time for you, but whatever happens, be sure to let God be with you and take care of you. Don't try to rely upon your own strength- physical or emotional.
Satan works hard on all of us without exception. We are all in this fight together as brothers and sisters, and although we have been rather blunt in our posts, it was something you needed to hear. Right now my advice to you is to not be focussed on any guys. If you end up being pregnant, let your boyfriend know and you two can work throught that together. He is the ONLY guy you should be worrying about, if any. You need to spend some time alone with God now. It is time to get things straight with Him. He is the only one who can help you through this, not another guy who thinks you are hot.
nb, I am praying for you.
This will not be an easy time for you, but whatever happens, be sure to let God be with you and take care of you. Don't try to rely upon your own strength- physical or emotional.
Satan works hard on all of us without exception. We are all in this fight together as brothers and sisters, and although we have been rather blunt in our posts, it was something you needed to hear. Right now my advice to you is to not be focussed on any guys. If you end up being pregnant, let your boyfriend know and you two can work throught that together. He is the ONLY guy you should be worrying about, if any. You need to spend some time alone with God now. It is time to get things straight with Him. He is the only one who can help you through this, not another guy who thinks you are hot.
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rainbowprism
Elevate My Soul
Call 1-800-395-Help.... it is a Christian ministry that assists women/girls in crisis pregnancies. They will be able to locate a center near you that will be able to give you a free pregnancy test along with lots of other resources. It's a 24/7 line--call NOW
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The last few posts have given you some good advice. I would like to touch on your above comment. The fact that you are so hung up on your looks is not evidence of "confidence", but of insecurity. True confidence for a Christian does not come from physical attractiveness, but from your relationship with Christ. You must realize that even if you were the most homely girl in the world, you would have the same value in the eyes of God as if you were the most beautiful girl in the world. If your "confidence" is dependent upon your looks, you will find yourself devastated when you one day wake up and realize your looks are gone. Those whose confidence is based on their looks, and crave attention from others who affirm how beautiful they are, are really insecure inside.naturalbeauty said:
Please pray that God will show you that you are of infinite value to Him, apart from your looks, and pray that He will direct your focus toward what really matters.
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It is so scary but I really don't want to be with my bf anymore, I need some time alone to get my life straight so I am praying that I am not pregnant. Thanks for the number. I will call prolly in the next 3 days.....still waiting a few days.
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Okay, you admit you have a problem, that is good. We all have gotten ourselves into situations that seemed impossible to get out of. You are going to have to really seek good counsil but only God can truly straighten things out. Seek the Lord, He has away out of every situation but you must be honest with Him and follow His word. Peace.naturalbeauty said:
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Now pleeeeeeeeeaaaase seek help. You have another chance. Don't waste it. Be all that you can be and do for God, He has blessed you and treasure that. I am just soooooooooooooooooooo Relieved. Find a pastor and start on the road to what God has planned for you, you are aware of your weaknesses and problems and that's half the battle. You are not ready for boys or men. The only man you need right now is JESUS!!!
Love ang God Bless Kbean.
Love ang God Bless Kbean.
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rainbowprism
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Yeah, I agree NaturalBeauty...this should have served as a HUGE GIGANTIC wakeup call for you.
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You do need to pull on the reigns a bit there, girl, just look to God and pray. You may not be able to help that you are beautiful, but you can help how you treat others. You can't just use them and throw them away the way you are.
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I started attending church regularly.....getting closer to God and fixing my relationships with people and I love my bf with all my heart. I would have regretted so bad if i let him go because of my stupidness but now i keep running into all the other guys Ive talked with when me and my bf are together and its not cool. I guess I didnt think about the consequences when I was being a "flirt".
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Mary_Magdalene
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i see you are 18. when i was 18 i wasnt saved. i looked to get attention from men to feel love. i didnt know why i yearned for their attention, but i did. now i know what i was looking for:
unconditional love that can only come from Christ Jesus!!! please look to Him- i know from experience, you will only find true love in His arms. it took me 10 years of heart aches to know this. i looked for love, the men i dated just looked for sex. that is the way it is-dont fall into that trap!
unconditional love that can only come from Christ Jesus!!! please look to Him- i know from experience, you will only find true love in His arms. it took me 10 years of heart aches to know this. i looked for love, the men i dated just looked for sex. that is the way it is-dont fall into that trap!
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I have just read through all the posts, and I differ from what many others think.
It sounds to me that rather than an excess of confidence in yourself you actually have very low self esteem, everything you have shared points towards a beautiful exterior with a little girl hiding inside who thinks that noone loves her. You are giving away your body in exchange for love, you want to have some 'fun' and talk to other guys because they will flatter you and pay you attention and , perhaps, for a few fleeting moments you can feel 'loved' and can feel wanted and cherished.
That rush you feel when you catch a man's eye? that confidence you feel when you know you have attracted someone? those few desperate moments of intimacy that you feel when you have sex? (before it all comes crashing down and you feel hollow and empty and dejected) Let me tell you from experience, they are all a counterfeit of the enemy.
God has lasting 'rushes' , God can give you true confidence, the intimacy you have with your God given spouse are incredible, fantastic and guilt free. you will never find what you are seeking unti lyou turn to God, stay awy from men for a season and ask God to unwrap the inner you and heal and cherish and strengthen the hurt little girl inside.
It sounds to me that rather than an excess of confidence in yourself you actually have very low self esteem, everything you have shared points towards a beautiful exterior with a little girl hiding inside who thinks that noone loves her. You are giving away your body in exchange for love, you want to have some 'fun' and talk to other guys because they will flatter you and pay you attention and , perhaps, for a few fleeting moments you can feel 'loved' and can feel wanted and cherished.
That rush you feel when you catch a man's eye? that confidence you feel when you know you have attracted someone? those few desperate moments of intimacy that you feel when you have sex? (before it all comes crashing down and you feel hollow and empty and dejected) Let me tell you from experience, they are all a counterfeit of the enemy.
God has lasting 'rushes' , God can give you true confidence, the intimacy you have with your God given spouse are incredible, fantastic and guilt free. you will never find what you are seeking unti lyou turn to God, stay awy from men for a season and ask God to unwrap the inner you and heal and cherish and strengthen the hurt little girl inside.
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Always feel like I was still 17 yesterday, time just pass so quickly. Got to make up your mind what kind of person you want to be when you're young. Oppsie 10 years has gone behind and can't find the undo button. Hope everyone make the best use of youth, it should be filled with many of best moments in life. Reap what you sow, in a shorter time you'll know.
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When I first started reading this, I was going to say "Heck, I'll say it. Get over yourself! You don't deserve your boyfriend... do him a favor and break up with him." But now I think that this post was for attention and a waste of everyone's time. Just my 2 cents though.
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