I never said to tolerate sin. Its simply a part of the human existence. Did not the Apostle Paul write "For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God?"
Do you believe that Gods Grace is so limited that if we were given some kind of a physical defect that caused us to sin that his grace wouldn't cover us?
I have brain damage- and some days I sound like "Tourette's Man" singing "The Lady in Red" on Youtube. Can I be held accountable because I'm as screwed up as a football bat? A tennis helmet? Maybe I'm as screwed up as Hockey Ice cleats,,,,!
You can look at sin and beat yourself up over it- and beat up other people, and thereby make both people hurt with the intolerance. Or you can try to work to avoid it, work with in it, to avoid it.
Personally, I've tried the "beat myself up and other people for their sin" approach and it just doesn't work. Period. All it does is hurt your soul and other peoples soul- worse, it does more damage because it does give those who oppose the church ammunition for their accusations are right in that we do become intolerant.
Example: John 8:1-11 New Living Translation (NLT)
8 Jesus returned to the Mount of Olives, 2 but early the next morning he was back again at the Temple. A crowd soon gathered, and he sat down and taught them. 3 As he was speaking, the teachers of religious law and the Pharisees brought a woman who had been caught in the act of adultery. They put her in front of the crowd.
4 Teacher, they said to Jesus, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. 5 The law of Moses says to stone her. What do you say?
6 They were trying to trap him into saying something they could use against him, but Jesus stooped down and wrote in the dust with his finger. 7 They kept demanding an answer, so he stood up again and said, All right, but let the one who has never sinned throw the first stone! 8 Then he stooped down again and wrote in the dust.
9 When the accusers heard this, they slipped away one by one, beginning with the oldest, until only Jesus was left in the middle of the crowd with the woman. 10 Then Jesus stood up again and said to the woman, Where are your accusers? Didnt even one of them condemn you?
11 No, Lord, she said.
And Jesus said, Neither do I. Go and sin no more.
Sure, Jesus could have spanked her- it's his right- but he realized that forgiveness was far more important.
Jesus also realized something else- small town, long term effect of being caught in something like this? What would the other women do? Would they accept her or would they ignore her?
Cross reference this to the woman at the well at Sychar. Very similar circumstances- "Wheres your husband?" "Don't have one"- "You're right- you've had 5, and the guy you're with isn't your husband"- she freaks out, and for being a "Lady of Red" she marches right up into the Mayor's office and demands immediate attention.
Jesus can afford to be that forgiving. First, he see's the motivation of why a person does what they did. Second, its his right to judge- or not. Remember the parable of where the Owner of a field hires workers for the day for one day's wage? Then he goes back at noon? Then he goes back an hour before quitting time yet he pays all of them one days wages? The guys who worked all day are angry and feel cheated?
The one thing about Grace and Mercy is- I don't think any human really understands it. I've read it, studied it, made notes- and frankly the depth of understanding required is beyond humanities understanding.
I am NOT saying take it for granted- I am saying however if anything we UNDERestimate Grace and Mercy and we do NOT give enough thanks for what we have received.