Kind of convenient of you to wait until you are well enough to be on your own, to kick the wife to the curb.... Who was it that took care of you the years you couldn't take care of yourself? Was it your wife? If so, would you so easily go behind her back to push her out the door.....Is it so easy to listen to the advise of strangers who encourage you to do what you want to do already?
How many people told her to just leave you....that you would never get better, you would never come around.......she is wasting her time taking care of you? Did she listen to them?
I say, do what you want done to you; and take what we say lightly.....your future is determined by what you do now.
I think it wise to let her know you know everything, and give her the choice to stop and stay, or leave and continue.... God gives us a choice to believe and live, or not believe and die......and he never take away this option because of the sin we commit....and Thank God he is merciful....so I will, likewise, be merciful to others.