I am middle-aged and I know what the bible says about divorce. However, at my age, most of the dating pool is full of divorced men. Aren't I limiting myself by not wanting to date divorcees?
The problem is that many churches get the cart before the horse in terms of divorce. They tend to be very judgmental to people who have experienced divorce whether it was their fault or not; and they have extended love and grace toward those contemplating divorce. It should be the other way around. Those contemplating divorce should be given the uncompromising Word of God concerning how God hates divorce so that a Christian couple contemplating divorce will seek the Lord for other alternatives to save their marriage and bring new meaning to it.
But those who are already divorced need love and grace, because it has happened, and one cannot put the clock back so it never happened. The Scripture says that all manner of sin and iniquity shall be forgiven and that includes divorce by a spouse who did it for whatever reason. The spouse who is divorced when he or she did not choose it has not sinned at all.
There is a great difference between doing something to someone, and someone having something done to them. In the case of divorce, if it has been done to a spouse, then the person who has done the divorcing needs to seek the Lord for mercy, grace, and forgiveness, which the Lord will freely give, totally forget, and lead that person into a new phase of life with Him.
The spouse who has had the divorce done to him or her has not sinned. That person has been sinned against, and there is no guilt, penalty or bondage in that case.
So, if you date a divorced person, and that person is honest, open and truthful about everything, then you will be able to discern whether the person, if sinned, has been forgiven, cleansed and restored by the grace of God; or if the person was the victim of a divorce, then you can be assured that no sin has been committed and the person can be viewed as never been married.
In the case of divorce, one size definitely doesn't fit all, and we must never underestimate the extent of God's mercy and grace toward any person who has experienced divorce.