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If you can manage to "play around" without lusting for the person you're playing around with... frankly, I can't even imagine how that would work. Would I be out of line guessing we're looking for an after the fact technical loophole here? Generally speaking, I've always found "if you have to ask if it counts as cheating, it probably does" and "would I be comfortable with my SO doing this exact thing with someone else?" as pretty good guides to stay out of trouble.How does one know for sure that one is not transgressing the important Commandment against adultery? <Staff Edit>
But what are we to make of Matthew 5:28? (Jesus said): "whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart."
How is "lust" to be defined here? Surely one would have to actually WANT TO, nay, INTEND TO commit actual adultery for the "lust" to even begin to rise to the level of the actual act? (In parallel with the warning just prior that hating one's brother may lead to murder, so one should avoid it.)
One might do a lot of kissing and touching without any such intent - not only not to ever transgress the Commandment but to avoid any concerns about pregnancy and diseases.
And one could certainly "play around" without coveting, without wanting to make another person's spouse one's own.
Holman Bible DictionaryHow does one know for sure that one is not transgressing the important Commandment against adultery? <Staff Edit>
But what are we to make of Matthew 5:28? (Jesus said): "whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart."
How is "lust" to be defined here? Surely one would have to actually WANT TO, nay, INTEND TO commit actual adultery for the "lust" to even begin to rise to the level of the actual act? (In parallel with the warning just prior that hating one's brother may lead to murder, so one should avoid it.)
One might do a lot of kissing and touching without any such intent - not only not to ever transgress the Commandment but to avoid any concerns about pregnancy and diseases.
And one could certainly "play around" without coveting, without wanting to make another person's spouse one's own.
I IMAGINE it might work IN CHURCH.
Scripture 5 times admonishes us to "Greet ye one another with a holy kiss," one time it reads: "KISS OF LOVE."
I kiss people as a greeting, sure. Such greetings do not go for 15 minutes.I IMAGINE it might work IN CHURCH.
Scripture 5 times admonishes us to "Greet ye one another with a holy kiss," one time it reads: "KISS OF LOVE."
ACTUAL LOVING (touching) in church, imagine that!
Admonitions (PREACHING) would be to avoid any conditions where "lusting for" (adultery) could be carried out - no being together alone with someone other than one's spouse.
How can it be adultery if there is no sexual intercourse?
God talking about lust illustrates that our thoughts can indeed pass from just temptations to sin - even before we act on our thoughts. I suppose you could talk about degrees - and say the thought is better than completing the thought - but the thought is still wrong. Certainly probably easier to stop ourselves when we are just thinking about it than when we begin to act on it. The line is crossed when we allow the temptation to linger in our head and actually start considering doing it.
I think you have good point. Every act that people do comes from the “heart” of person. Before any act, it is already done in the “heart”. And because of that, the wrong thing is what happens in the “heart”. The act is just only manifestation of what already happened in the “heart”. That is why it is enough and basically same if one has done wrongly in the “heart”. It doesn’t matter if person don’t manage to actually do the evil thing that he wants, because in his “heart” he is already guilty and the mind shows of unrighteousness.
For out of the heart come forth evil thoughts, murders, adulteries, sexual sins, thefts, false testimony, and blasphemies.
Matt. 15:19
That is why:
"Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you clean the outside of the cup and of the platter, but within they are full of extortion and unrighteousness. You blind Pharisee, first clean the inside of the cup and of the platter, that the outside of it may become clean also.
Matthew 23:25-26
Unfortunately it seems to me that also Christians seem to act like Pharisees and clean the cup outside, even though the inside should be first clean.
gravity of a transgression is not relevant when asking if one made a transgression.What if one wanted to do something in one's heart, and then changed one's mind? Is that as bad as if he/she actually did it? I would say, of course not. That would be the case of wanting to do it (at one time) NOT being as bad as actually doing it.
But what if one does not ever want to do it at all, that is NEVER wants to commit adultery. Yet does want to kiss and indeed does kiss PASSIONATELY for long periods of time? A KISS OF LOVE. And NOT desiring to have sexual intercourse. Obviously no adultery in heart or otherwise then, right?
Are you trying to say,gravity of a transgression is not relevant when asking if one made a transgression.
Whatever those terms mean.I think there can be, because fidelity is more than just sexual monogamy isn't it?
Same transgression (transgression means wrong - a sin), different gravity. The sin/transgression is still that of adultery. Yes some sins are worse than others - why Saint Paul spoke of mortal sins.Are you trying to say,
1. Wanting to do it at one time (and changing one's mind) would be as bad as actually doing it?
Suppose it was somebody who wanted to murder you, and then changed their mind - same difference, SAME TRANSGRESSION? Of course that is errant nonsense!
OR 2. If we are asking whether someone transgressed against you (or against God), it doesn't matter whether that was to wish to kill you, or (later) wished not to? Or actually killed you?
May I ask how old you are?I've already been accused of that. You can look back if you want to know my reply - redirected to the issue at hand I think.
What is the "it" of the lust? An adulterous act of sexual intercourse? Ok, but what I am trying to figure out is how that act differs from the act of kissing and the DESIRE FOR KISSING.
Where in the Bible does it say "one should only kiss your spouse"? It definitely says KISS ONE ANOTHER, that is greet ye one another with A KISS A HOLY KISS. (I don't mind understanding "an other" as being of the opposite sex.)
I know Christ suggested being "one flesh" but I think that is better understood as sexual intercourse and not as kissing.
72, or 3. I don't much like to keep track.May I ask how old you are?
The two ultimately become one flesh in making a baby, not having intercourse. A person just gratifying sexual desires is not becoming "one flesh" whether inside or outside marriage, at least not in any unified sense of the meaning behind God's Words about two becoming husband and wife.
Kissing on the lips or cheek as a greeting is no different than a hand shake unless one of the parties as desires towards the other person. Am unaware of any greeting custom where such a gesture involves tongue or open mouths or passion. In fact where the gesture is custom, it is even done between two people that despise each other- just as handshakes are. I do not think offering a holy kiss gives one grounds to lingering contact with a member of the opposite sex. If we are talking about an instance one's spouse witnessed and objected to - then I suggest one does not do that again regardless of what your intention was and because there was objection it probably was not a "holy kiss".