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Can someone pray your way into heaven?

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I'm curious?
Do you believe you can pray someone's way to heaven?

I've heard some of the elders in my friend's church say that they are praying over someone's soul so that God may have mercy on them and grant them salvation. Are they referring to that person finding God and then finding salvation... Or are they hoping their prayers can get the person into Heaven??

Hard to explain what I mean but hopefully I made it kind of clear...

Assuming the person is still alive, I will assume it to mean they are praying for them to come to this god of yours for salvation. If they are praying over someone who has died, it is a fool's errand since you cannot pray someone out of hell. Even if you deposit a coin in a box and think that with every penny donated, another soul flies out of hell and into heaven.

Bonus points if you get my reference.
 
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Sorry for the late reply. I have been hashing this over with friends and family. I haven't received any profound answers to this, but a common question seems to arise in convo. This idea of post mortem prayer seems to be some what trivial. Question is "why were you not praying for them before they died?" and secondly "what is the primary reason for prayer?" the answer to that is to get our selves closer to God and for God to get closer to us. Jesus teaches us in the Lord's prayer that it should be His will that should be done ( and not ours).



Indeed. However, that he can but doesn't also makes him at fault any time we fell from grace: after all, he could have prevented it, and given the end result (i.e., eternal suffering) should prevent it, but he didn't. He could even do it without ever removing a person's free will, moral agency, accountability, or whatever else God holds to be more important than suffering.

What you're really asking for God to do here is to violate His character by condoning sin and disbelief. There are some things God can't do like sin, or not be God, lie, and basic violations of His character.

Unless you're praying to the wrong god, of course. But my question was why person X would pray 'for' deceased person Y - besides talking to God, what does this prayer accomplish? You seemed to imply that it does more than this, so my question is: what?

A prayer post mortem would not be any less effective (in my opinion) than a prayer said during a person's life.

Why? The eternal suffering of non-Christian souls outweighs any mortal suffering - the Holocaust, the Holodomor, Darfur, Rwanda, etc. Why wouldn't a person praying for the salvation of all souls be sincere? If I were a Christian, and I believed I could talk to an omnipotent being who had the ability to avert even a single person's eternal damnation, I wouldn't be off my knees.

After all, if God can say 'no', he can say 'yes', right?

I guess my point in questioning a person's sincerity of such prayers comes from the belief that no one can love perfectly even the most ardent christian struggles to love everyone perfectly. I don't see how someone who can't love perfectly can ever be perfectly sincere in such a prayer.

While praying often is good practice, praying all the time seems to neglect some of the things that God has asked us to do such as go and make disciples of all nations (a very active thing compared to just praying all the time).
 
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What you're really asking for God to do here is to violate His character by condoning sin and disbelief. There are some things God can't do like sin, or not be God, lie, and basic violations of His character.
On the contrary, helping people doesn't mean you necessarily condone their activities. I daresay there were Jews in the Holocaust who had committed crimes, and perhaps there were rapists and murderers in the camps along with the innocent Jews. But were the Allies condoning rape when they saved them? Of course not. Likewise, God bringing rain to a drought-ridden country in no way means he condones any sins they have done. Bringing food to a starving child's lips, or protecting a child from rape, is something that should be done regardless of any sins the child has committed.

So you're saying that God doesn't alleviate suffering because that would be tantamount to condoning the sins of the sufferer, and the nature of the God inexplicably contains this throttle. So, for example, God does not protect children from rape because that would mean God was condoning the child's sins (one wonder what sins a child could possibly have done to warrant rape). So... why does this throttle exist? Who created it? How large does a sin have to be? Or can any sin, however minor, nullify the power of the creator of the universe? Or is the mere act of birth a sin, making all people impervious to God's power? This idea isn't one I've heard before, so I'm a bit puzzled as to how it works. In essence, why does alleviating someone's suffering equal condoning their sins, and why is God prevented from condoning someone's sins? If it prevents any and all child rape and murder, I'm not sure what sins I wouldn't condone.

A prayer post mortem would not be any less effective (in my opinion) than a prayer said during a person's life.
OK, but that doesn't answer my question - "But my question was why person X would pray 'for' deceased person Y - besides talking to God, what does this prayer accomplish? You seemed to imply that it does more than this, so my question is: what?"

Again, I get that Christians pray to talk to God and have a relationship with him and all the rest. But what else do prayers do, or what else do you hope the accomplish, if anything at all? Do they, for example, encourage God to take action he otherwise wouldn't (like healing a sick person)?

I guess my point in questioning a person's sincerity of such prayers comes from the belief that no one can love perfectly even the most ardent christian struggles to love everyone perfectly. I don't see how someone who can't love perfectly can ever be perfectly sincere in such a prayer.
Does the efficacy of prayer depend on the purity or perfection of one's love for the subject? That seems... callous. "I would have healed your mother's cancer, but you didn't love her enough. Bad luck!"

While praying often is good practice, praying all the time seems to neglect some of the things that God has asked us to do such as go and make disciples of all nations (a very active thing compared to just praying all the time).
Well, we only need one person to do all the praying - unless two prayers are more effective than one? If they're just a conversation with God then it wouldn't seem like they have any tangible effect (beyond the person doing the praying), but it seems like you're saying that prayer does something more than that.
 
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I'm curious?
Do you believe you can pray someone's way to heaven?
People have free will. I think if we pray it can help to increase the chance that someone will go to Heaven. There were people in the Bible that were healed because of the faith of another person. It could have been their mother praying for them, an employer that loved them or even their friends. So when the devil battles to destroy, prayer can help. You can not save people from themselves though. If they want to perish in their sin, God will allow them to do that. I think the animals that were special to us will be there.
 
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unless two prayers are more effective than one?
There is power in agreement. That is the reason for the story about the tower of Babel where the language was confused.

God does not protect
Some people do not want His protection: " “O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the one who kills the prophets and stones those who are sent to her! How often I wanted to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing!" mat 23:37
 
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There is power in agreement. That is the reason for the story about the tower of Babel where the language was confused.
So two prayers are more effective than one?

Some people do not want His protection.
And what about those who do? If an all-powerful being sits in the sky, why on Earth would I turn down supernatural protection against those who would rape or murder me? I'd love a magical bubble to deflect all harm, thank you!
 
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On the contrary, helping people doesn't mean you necessarily condone their activities. I daresay there were Jews in the Holocaust who had committed crimes, and perhaps there were rapists and murderers in the camps along with the innocent Jews. But were the Allies condoning rape when they saved them? Of course not. Likewise, God bringing rain to a drought-ridden country in no way means he condones any sins they have done. Bringing food to a starving child's lips, or protecting a child from rape, is something that should be done regardless of any sins the child has committed.

We should be careful not to equate earthly suffering with eternal suffering they are completely different. The reason we went to war was not to save the Jews but to remove Hitler from power (he was trying to take over the world). Plus anti-semitism was not exclusive to the nazi regime and was even prevalent in the US.


So you're saying that God doesn't alleviate suffering because that would be tantamount to condoning the sins of the sufferer, and the nature of the God inexplicably contains this throttle. So, for example, God does not protect children from rape because that would mean God was condoning the child's sins (one wonder what sins a child could possibly have done to warrant rape). So... why does this throttle exist? Who created it? How large does a sin have to be? Or can any sin, however minor, nullify the power of the creator of the universe? Or is the mere act of birth a sin, making all people impervious to God's power? This idea isn't one I've heard before, so I'm a bit puzzled as to how it works. In essence, why does alleviating someone's suffering equal condoning their sins, and why is God prevented from condoning someone's sins?


Again seperating the two types of suffering. To stand in the presence of God we must be made righteous and with out sin (which is only possible by the sacrafice made by Jesus Christ).



If it prevents any and all child rape and murder, I'm not sure what sins I wouldn't condone.

How about child rape and murder?

OK, but that doesn't answer my question - "But my question was why person X would pray 'for' deceased person Y - besides talking to God, what does this prayer accomplish? You seemed to imply that it does more than this, so my question is: what?"
Again, I get that Christians pray to talk to God and have a relationship with him and all the rest. But what else do prayers do, or what else do you hope the accomplish, if anything at all? Do they, for example, encourage God to take action he otherwise wouldn't (like healing a sick person)?

Let me ask this... Would you expect God to give an answer to a prayer that was never given?

Don't brush over what God can do for an individual in prayer as if it was nothing. In Psalm 51 David knew what God could do for him and he asked Him to "Create in me a pure heart, O God,
and renew a steadfast spirit within me." Then there is the Priesty Blessing or the Benediction which blesses you (Number 6:24-25 NIV)


“The Lord bless you
and keep you;
25the Lord make his face shine on you
and be gracious to you;
26the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace.”

The Lord can give us peace even in our suffering. Look at Stephen in the book of Acts while being persecuted God gave him a vision of the Jesus standing at the right hand of God Stephen was comforted by this and it is evident in his prayer for the people who were stoning them.

Does the efficacy of prayer depend on the purity or perfection of one's love for the subject? That seems... callous. "I would have healed your mother's cancer, but you didn't love her enough. Bad luck!"

Good point. The power is not in the one praying but in God who answers.

Well, we only need one person to do all the praying - unless two prayers are more effective than one? If they're just a conversation with God then it wouldn't seem like they have any tangible effect (beyond the person doing the praying), but it seems like you're saying that prayer does something more than that.

God heard Israels cries out of Egypt. God punished the nation of Israel when they turned their back on them. I would say a communities prayers and their silence are important.
 
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This is my non-theist perspective. If you believe in a sovereign God, then why would you believe you could pray for a favor? Hasn't God already decided everything that will happen? Can your prayers change his mind about anything? Theologically, that makes no sense. Jesus said you pray "thy will be done." Not "my will be done." If you pray for anything, you should pray for yourself--that God gives you the strength to deal with what has been decreed.

If God is unchanging and has a plan for the world, then why would anyone pray at all? What's God going to do if your wishes conflict with His plan? Is he going to change His plan, or ignore your pleas?
 
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One can pray all they want but one's prayer doesn't make God do something if he chooses not to do it.

" In a certain city there was a judge who neither feared God nor respected people. In that city there was a widow who kept coming to him, asking, 'Give me justice in this case against my adversary. ' For a while he refused but finally said to himself, I don't fear God or respect people, but I will give this widow justice because she keeps bothering me. Otherwise, there will be no end to her coming here and embarrassing me."
 
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I firmly believe that one has to accept salvation freely offered by Jesus Christ alone for themselves. That is a decision we have to make before we die. All the prayers that may be offered concerning our soul when we die will not help. We must make the decision to accept Christ or turn Christ away while we are living, it is a personal decision.
 
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I firmly believe that one has to accept salvation freely offered by Jesus Christ alone for themselves.
What if the person is unaware or unconvinced that the offer even exists?

That is a decision we have to make before we die.
Why? If death is not the end, why can't the decision be made posthumously?

All the prayers that may be offered concerning our soul when we die will not help. We must make the decision to accept Christ or turn Christ away while we are living, it is a personal decision.
So one's afterlife is based on one's religion, not on one's morality? Why would a loving God create such an unfair system?
 
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What if the person is unaware or unconvinced that the offer even exists? Please understand I am not attempting in anyway to be argumentative or anything of that nature. I am only attempting to answer your questions in a loving Christian manner. I do not know if you own or have access to a Bible, but this is where my replies are coming from. As to question 1. As to the part of the question what if the person is unaware of the offer. There are missionaries and preachers world wide who are spreading the good news of the Gospel. I firmly believe if one only has the desire to listen to these missionaries or preachers that God will make a way that they can hear the Gospel and accept the Salvation offered thru Jesus death on the cross.
As to the part of the question if a person is unconvinced I feel that is a personal decision each individual has to make for themselves. Whether I am unconvinced as to what the men of God are saying is a decision I must make for myself. I will give the Bible reference of Romans Chapter 10 for the comments I just made.


Why? If death is not the end, why can't the decision be made posthumously? I totally agree that death is not the end. There is a sad and happy answer to this question. In the Bible in the Gospel of Luke Chapter 16 there is a story told of two men. In this story both men died. Sadly one had never believed in and accepted Jesus in his life time and the other had. In this story it is clear that there are two destinations when we die, either heaven or hell. Depending on the decision we make in this life we go to one place or the other, and sadly if it is hell we cannot change our mind, it is too late.


So one's afterlife is based on one's religion, not on one's morality? Why would a loving God create such an unfair system?
I reply to this question in this manner. I personally don't like the word religion (I think it is used too loosely). What I mean by that is this: I hear people say all the time when they are mad "I'm fixing to lose my religion." I prefer the word salvation, cause when you get salvation you never lose it. I will be the first to admit that I'm not perfect, sometimes I say things I shouldn't, think things I shouldn't, etc. but that is the wonderful thing when you have salvation and what I mean by that is simply this: when I have thoughts I shouldn't, etc. there is immediately a still small voice that lets me know I have done wrong and there have been many times I have had to go to people and ask forgiveness for getting angry with them and so on and have to ask my Heavenly Father to forgive me and help me do better. As far as morality I give the Bible reference of Ephesians 2 verses 1 thru 10. Sadly many people feel that if they do all the right things in life such as give to charities, feed the hungry, don't use bad language, etc. that they will make it to heaven. Don't take me wrong, it is wonderful to do all these good things and each of us should but the simple truth is that unless we accept the free gift of salvation offered thru Jesus Christ alone we can't make it to heaven. When I consider how holy, just and sinless Jesus Christ is there is no way I would personally want to stand before Him on my own merits. It's not about me but about all that He has done.

I apologize for being so lengthy and taking up so much of your time and again I am not trying to be argumentative or be a smartellic or anything of that sort. I have simply tried to reply with love and understanding.

Thank you and may God bless.
 
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Please understand I am not attempting in anyway to be argumentative or anything of that nature. I am only attempting to answer your questions in a loving Christian manner. I do not know if you own or have access to a Bible, but this is where my replies are coming from. As to question 1. As to the part of the question what if the person is unaware of the offer. There are missionaries and preachers world wide who are spreading the good news of the Gospel. I firmly believe if one only has the desire to listen to these missionaries or preachers that God will make a way that they can hear the Gospel and accept the Salvation offered thru Jesus death on the cross.
OK, but that doesn't answer the question - I'm asking about those people who are unaware of Christianity. Missionaries are not omnipresent, and there exist parts of the world where people are still blissfully unaware; what about them? Are they doomed to Hell for having the misfortune of being born in a remote part of the world? Or, has God got a 'contingency plan' for them?

As to the part of the question if a person is unconvinced I feel that is a personal decision each individual has to make for themselves. Whether I am unconvinced as to what the men of God are saying is a decision I must make for myself. I will give the Bible reference of Romans Chapter 10 for the comments I just made.
Again, I don't see where the answer to my question is. You say it's a personal decision we all have to make*, OK, but what are the consequences of that decision? What if someone decides, "I don't believe in God because I see insufficient evidence for his existence" - what are the consequences of that decision?

I totally agree that death is not the end. There is a sad and happy answer to this question. In the Bible in the Gospel of Luke Chapter 16 there is a story told of two men. In this story both men died. Sadly one had never believed in and accepted Jesus in his life time and the other had. In this story it is clear that there are two destinations when we die, either heaven or hell. Depending on the decision we make in this life we go to one place or the other, and sadly if it is hell we cannot change our mind, it is too late.
Yes I understand that part of the claim, but you didn't answer my question: why is it too late? Why can't we change our minds after death?

Indeed, why are there only two options (1: paradise with God, or 2: eternal suffering with Satan), and not, say a third option (3: a nice, but not perfect, paradise without God) reserved for those who are good and do as God wants, but don't actually believe in him? It seems monumentally wicked and capricious to create such a system.

I reply to this question in this manner. I personally don't like the word religion (I think it is used too loosely). What I mean by that is this: I hear people say all the time when they are mad "I'm fixing to lose my religion."
I think there might be a language barrier in the way; they're "fixing to lose" their religion?

I prefer the word salvation, cause when you get salvation you never lose it.
But since no one knows if they're actually saved or not, we can only talk about religions. If a Christian believes they are saved, but in 10 years they convert to Islam, doesn't that demonstrate that they were never actually saved? So how is it you're so confident that you yourself are saved?

I will be the first to admit that I'm not perfect, sometimes I say things I shouldn't, think things I shouldn't, etc. but that is the wonderful thing when you have salvation and what I mean by that is simply this: when I have thoughts I shouldn't, etc. there is immediately a still small voice that lets me know I have done wrong and there have been many times I have had to go to people and ask forgiveness for getting angry with them and so on and have to ask my Heavenly Father to forgive me and help me do better.
Didn't this voice exist before salvation?

As far as morality I give the Bible reference of Ephesians 2 verses 1 thru 10. Sadly many people feel that if they do all the right things in life such as give to charities, feed the hungry, don't use bad language, etc. that they will make it to heaven.
It would certainly be a more benign and loving system. Instead, God decided to base one's afterlife on one's religious beliefs, with no regard to morality - the Christian rapist gets paradise while the Hindu charity worker gets hell.

Don't take me wrong, it is wonderful to do all these good things and each of us should but the simple truth is that unless we accept the free gift of salvation offered thru Jesus Christ alone we can't make it to heaven.
Then why do good deeds? If works are unimportant, why not get saved and then live a life of comfort? Moreover, I'm an atheist, so your religion teaches that I'm destined for an eternity of suffering no matter what I do - so why shouldn't I go around raping and thieving and murdering? Beyond mortal punishment by my peers, what supernatural compulsion is there to do good?

My afterlife is contingent on my beliefs, not my actions, so why should I temper the latter? Indeed, why should you?

When I consider how holy, just and sinless Jesus Christ is there is no way I would personally want to stand before Him on my own merits. It's not about me but about all that He has done.
But, what has he done? He died on the cross, and... then what? What changed before and after the crucifixion? Why did he decide to adjudicate people's eternal afterlives based on their belief on that moment, rather than whatever good deeds they did in life? Why would he judge us by the standard of a god and not the standards of the best humanity can be?

Don I apologize for being so lengthy and taking up so much of your time and again I am not trying to be argumentative or be a smartellic or anything of that sort. I have simply tried to reply with love and understanding.
I understand that, and I appreciate your civil response (you'd be surprised how many Christians are hostile at anyone who dares question their beliefs). Please know that I too am only asking questions out of honest curiosity.
 
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I'm curious?
Do you believe you can pray someone's way to heaven?

I've heard some of the elders in my friend's church say that they are praying over someone's soul so that God may have mercy on them and grant them salvation. Are they referring to that person finding God and then finding salvation... Or are they hoping their prayers can get the person into Heaven??

Hard to explain what I mean but hopefully I made it kind of clear...
I'm curious?
Do you believe you can pray someone's way to heaven?

I've heard some of the elders in my friend's church say that they are praying over someone's soul so that God may have mercy on them and grant them salvation. Are they referring to that person finding God and then finding salvation... Or are they hoping their prayers can get the person into Heaven??

Hard to explain what I mean but hopefully I made it kind of clear...


I believe we can always pray to God, we can ask Him in Jesus name.
I also believe God is love, He gives the final judgement, He is the alpha and the omega, the beginning and the end.
And I also believe that nothing is impossible for God, specially if we pray for one another with love in our hearts.
 
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But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.
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"A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.
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Jesus said, "Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing." And they divided up his clothes by casting lots.
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