REMARRIAGE
When man continues to remain weak and think that a helper is required after divorce or death of a spouse, there is no harm for a remarriage. Obviously, having more than one wife is against the plan of God. God made only one woman out of one man. Coming together will make them into one flesh. Polygamy is not a part of God’s plan.
Just as marriage is honorable, divorce is also honorable if one of the partners does not keep up with the vows they had taken during marriage strictly based on the Bible. Divorce is better than fornication. Divorce is the only option when one of the partners refuses to mend his/her ways for an amicable life despite sincere efforts for reconciliation.
We see plenty of cases wherein a spouse deserting when the other partner is sick; this is cruel indeed! I have a Christian friend who was afflicted with cancer. With treatment, he was able to recover greatly. Unfortunately, his wife did not accept the responsibility to take care of him and wanted divorce papers filed even though he continued to love her and never wanted to part ways with her. Well, what happened to marriage vow of being together in health and sickness?
Typical mindsets of husband and wife in a marriage relationship are that the husband prefers bondage to avoid burning and wife for secured shelter. Consequently, this leads husband expecting wife to continue remain attractive despite ageing whereas wife expecting husband to remain strong and support her in her shopping spree. Brewing of divorce begins when there is a deficiency on either side. Therefore, there is no spiritual bonding but only worldly binding in majority of marriages!
But the crux of the problem in divorce is that in many countries it may take years to get one. During this period of litigation, the couple will remain separated. Should a man/woman continue to suffer, waiting for the secular law to take its course? A weak person is bound to be subjected to temptations.
What if a person decides to marry in a family arrangement in such a case? Again this arrangement is better than burning! It is better than seeking gratification elsewhere. God has bestowed different kinds of talents to different people. It is extremely important for a person to make use of these talents for the good of all. If a separation comes in the way of fully employing the talents, then it is better to have a live-in arrangement seeking a helper/protector till the divorce is granted to avoid secular legal tangles.
Of course, an arrangement could be in which biblically based vows are exchanged between partners in the presence of the parents of the couple along with intimate friends and well wishers. These people would be well informed about the genuine problems faced earlier. It would be a kind a spiritual marriage: de facto, not de jure. Ironically, more divorces and separations have become common in marriages administered by clergy and ministers than without them! After obtaining divorce, they can marry to complete secular legality.
Time waits for no one. Youth cannot be purchased back! We have as secondary citizens, “A time to love” (Ecclesiastes 3: 8).
Furthermore, Solomon wisely advises ordinary mortals, “Be not righteous over much; neither make thyself over wise: why shouldest thou destroy thyself?” (Ecclesiastes 7:16).
And again he says, “Rejoice, O young man, in thy youth; and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of thy youth, and walk in the ways of thine heart, and in the sight of thine eyes: but know thou, that for all these things God will bring thee into judgment” (Ecclesiastes 11:9).
Therefore, as long as a person had been fair and just in his earlier marital relationship, he need not worry. If the other person had been overly unjust that leads to separation despite many attempts for getting back together in understanding and loving, then remarriage is a good option.
To be continued in Part 2
When man continues to remain weak and think that a helper is required after divorce or death of a spouse, there is no harm for a remarriage. Obviously, having more than one wife is against the plan of God. God made only one woman out of one man. Coming together will make them into one flesh. Polygamy is not a part of God’s plan.
Just as marriage is honorable, divorce is also honorable if one of the partners does not keep up with the vows they had taken during marriage strictly based on the Bible. Divorce is better than fornication. Divorce is the only option when one of the partners refuses to mend his/her ways for an amicable life despite sincere efforts for reconciliation.
We see plenty of cases wherein a spouse deserting when the other partner is sick; this is cruel indeed! I have a Christian friend who was afflicted with cancer. With treatment, he was able to recover greatly. Unfortunately, his wife did not accept the responsibility to take care of him and wanted divorce papers filed even though he continued to love her and never wanted to part ways with her. Well, what happened to marriage vow of being together in health and sickness?
Typical mindsets of husband and wife in a marriage relationship are that the husband prefers bondage to avoid burning and wife for secured shelter. Consequently, this leads husband expecting wife to continue remain attractive despite ageing whereas wife expecting husband to remain strong and support her in her shopping spree. Brewing of divorce begins when there is a deficiency on either side. Therefore, there is no spiritual bonding but only worldly binding in majority of marriages!
But the crux of the problem in divorce is that in many countries it may take years to get one. During this period of litigation, the couple will remain separated. Should a man/woman continue to suffer, waiting for the secular law to take its course? A weak person is bound to be subjected to temptations.
What if a person decides to marry in a family arrangement in such a case? Again this arrangement is better than burning! It is better than seeking gratification elsewhere. God has bestowed different kinds of talents to different people. It is extremely important for a person to make use of these talents for the good of all. If a separation comes in the way of fully employing the talents, then it is better to have a live-in arrangement seeking a helper/protector till the divorce is granted to avoid secular legal tangles.
Of course, an arrangement could be in which biblically based vows are exchanged between partners in the presence of the parents of the couple along with intimate friends and well wishers. These people would be well informed about the genuine problems faced earlier. It would be a kind a spiritual marriage: de facto, not de jure. Ironically, more divorces and separations have become common in marriages administered by clergy and ministers than without them! After obtaining divorce, they can marry to complete secular legality.
Time waits for no one. Youth cannot be purchased back! We have as secondary citizens, “A time to love” (Ecclesiastes 3: 8).
Furthermore, Solomon wisely advises ordinary mortals, “Be not righteous over much; neither make thyself over wise: why shouldest thou destroy thyself?” (Ecclesiastes 7:16).
And again he says, “Rejoice, O young man, in thy youth; and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of thy youth, and walk in the ways of thine heart, and in the sight of thine eyes: but know thou, that for all these things God will bring thee into judgment” (Ecclesiastes 11:9).
Therefore, as long as a person had been fair and just in his earlier marital relationship, he need not worry. If the other person had been overly unjust that leads to separation despite many attempts for getting back together in understanding and loving, then remarriage is a good option.
To be continued in Part 2
