Called to be single?

[dayhiker]

I guess even if God is saying no for right now, I'd still say follow NotWhatIWas so that when God says yes, the person might be right there and already know each.

 

[blackribbon]

I kind of think as Christians that is how we are supposed to be living our lives and interacting with people all the time....whether or not we are hoping to meet Mr or Miss Right.

 

[AgapeBible]

I used to dream about finding "Prince Charming" when I was a teen and in my 20's. I wanted to be the perfect housewife, artist and writer. I wanted my own house to decorate and clean, with a garden in the front and back. I still live with my parents, don't have a boyfriend for a long time, and I don't date. I was shy, but I have been a lot friendlier and bolder lately. The good men in my town are all taken it seems, and I will not date a scumbag who will use me and do his best to get me to sin with him, then dump me like a broken toy. I don't think God wants me to marry. There are a lot of old men here, I don't want an old man. I don't go to church because my parents do not want to take me, I cannot drive, I have some psychiatric problems, my parents spoil, sometimes baby me, they do not want me to date.

I think I can serve the Lord as single Christian. Paul said is was best to remain single and pure to serve the Lord instead of serving your husband/wife. I like to work on drawing, painting, reading, writing. cleaning house, weeding yard, praying, watching movies, shopping...I am trying to exercise more, but I was never athletic or coordinated. I don't want to have children because they might inherit genetic problems, I did not get my way, but God is having His way with me, He has shown me my path.

 

[NOTWHATIWAS]

He may also say "this is not the right time" or "no". I am trying hard to come to peace that these might be my answers.

I hear what you are saying and I agree. Be content in your singleness as long as God has you there. It may be for the rest of your life. However, don't be afraid to pray for marriage if that is the desire of your heart. We don't pray because we believe we will get everything we ask for. We pray to build relationship and strengthen faith in the assurance that He is who He says he is and wants what is best for us. God bless you-always keeping you in prayer.

 

[Lostbreed_ofchampion]

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There is speculation that Paul,while he was Saul,was married,and that he might have been a widower. If that was the case,as far as marriage was concerned,Paul may have had a "been there,done that "attitude.

I really do feel bad for the christians,who are still faithful,by staying virgins,until they get married. Yet,God has not provided a spouse for them. Why, would God give them physical desires,and needs,if he wants them to be single all of their lives? It would be a shame for one to go to ones' grave,while being cheated out of one of the pleasures of life.

i see it soo many times.. it is not my case tho. I'm single but I feel I haven't done enough for God to respond to me. I want a woman, I need someone to express my love to. I die internally when I see the faithful men not being in relationship because they're not highly ranked in society, they are not attractive enough and women from the world pursue the same qualities in a man, unfortunately. It is extremely sad and I like to tell myself they're happy of being single or that they're probably not as faithful as they look and that is the reason why nothing is going on.

 

[Lostbreed_ofchampion]

I used to dream about finding "Prince Charming" when I was a teen and in my 20's. I wanted to be the perfect housewife, artist and writer. I wanted my own house to decorate and clean, with a garden in the front and back. I still live with my parents, don't have a boyfriend for a long time, and I don't date. I was shy, but I have been a lot friendlier and bolder lately. The good men in my town are all taken it seems, and I will not date a scumbag who will use me and do his best to get me to sin with him, then dump me like a broken toy. I don't think God wants me to marry. There are a lot of old men here, I don't want an old man. I don't go to church because my parents do not want to take me, I cannot drive, I have some psychiatric problems, my parents spoil, sometimes baby me, they do not want me to date.

I think I can serve the Lord as single Christian. Paul said is was best to remain single and pure to serve the Lord instead of serving your husband/wife. I like to work on drawing, painting, reading, writing. cleaning house, weeding yard, praying, watching movies, shopping...I am trying to exercise more, but I was never athletic or coordinated. I don't want to have children because they might inherit genetic problems, I did not get my way, but God is having His way with me, He has shown me my path.

I respect all the Bible references you made, but you seem to have a defensive attitude towards men because youre convinced that only scumbags are available and all good men are taken. I am pretty sure that attitude you have ruins all your chances with some single men from your church. You have to stop seeing men as scumbags because women are just as bad if not worse. There are probably many christian guys available, maybe it's time to lower your standards and understand we're all sinners awaiting redemption.

 

[mercyfollowsme]

How will you know if you are called to be single? Other than the obvious---you can't find the right person. Any telltale signs?

you love being single and hate the idea of marriage. anything less and you're normal.

 

[timewerx]

You know you're called to be single if you can find something quite substantial to do in God's cause with the incredible amount of free time you'll get from being single....

....Assuming that it is impossible to find a partner who will help you in that cause.

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

I know that I am NOT called to be single. When people asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, my answer has been "a wife and a mother"...from as long as I can remember....even before I like-liked boys. I am now single by fate and really can't find any peace in living alone. I hope to one day find someone else to live my life with.

I do not think being married is better than being single because I can see a lot of advantages to being single and not tied to another person. I just simply know that I was not created to be single. I was created to be a help-mate and a partner.

Same here, I know I'm not supposed to be single...but here I am :/ hopefully it changes

 

[Lostbreed_ofchampion]

you love being single and hate the idea of marriage. anything less and you're normal.

You cannot hate the thought of marriage. It is just unnatural at least to me. I can convince myself that i dont want it tho and that its not for me. I could pursue my fleshy passions instead. That's why marriage is such a good thing. It forces you to settle down and be faithful to a woman.

 

[bbbbbbb]

I don't worry at all about being called to be single. My relationship is with Jesus Christ and He called me to be His and that is all that really matters to me. Marriage is a fine thing and I am not at all against it. But I leave it to my friends to worry about it for me. They seem much more concerned than I am but, in the end, are just as successful as I have been at finding a wife for myself.

 

[rob_aston]

Any telltale signs?

God's voice in
Judges 16

 

[Tull]

There is not an explanation for everything.....some things just are

 

[Sir Robbins]

I respect all the Bible references you made, but you seem to have a defensive attitude towards men because youre convinced that only scumbags are available and all good men are taken. I am pretty sure that attitude you have ruins all your chances with some single men from your church. You have to stop seeing men as scumbags because women are just as bad if not worse. There are probably many christian guys available, maybe it's time to lower your standards and understand we're all sinners awaiting redemption.

I think a more appropriate and accurate response she could have stated was the scumbags may be the only ones visible that are available... I know many, like myself, are sheltered and don't go out much, if at all. I don't because I have accepted (though coming to peace with it is a different story) that I'm just not worthy of anyone. I am worthy of God and my family but it emotionally takes a toll on me and physically causes real pain with this type of acceptance

 

[Galatea]

How will you know if you are called to be single? Other than the obvious---you can't find the right person. Any telltale signs?

I don't know if there are signs to tell whether or not you are meant to be single, but there are signs that you are NOT meant to be single. The apostle Paul says that it is better to marry than to burn- he doesn't mean burn in hell, he means it is better to marry and enjoy your spouse physically than to have unsatisfied physical desires. If you can't bring your sexual desires under complete control, it means you are NOT called to be single. I know that I am single now, but am NOT called to be single. I know without a doubt I was created for a man, to be his other half. If you can completely subdue physical desire, then you might be called to be single. If you can not, then you are most definitely NOT meant to be single. I've struggled with this question myself, and I have come to the realization that God created me to be a wife.

 

[Sir Robbins]

^ You can use drugs (legal ones) to reduce or better yet eliminate physical urges and such if one desires to. I did it.... I stopped after my own medical issues weaned them away.... I'm in the position where I'd like to do something but physically can't...

 

[Galatea]

^ You can use drugs (legal ones) to reduce or better yet eliminate physical urges and such if one desires to. I did it.... I stopped after my own medical issues weaned them away.... I'm in the position where I'd like to do something but physically can't...

I don't think God intends for us to dampen down physical desire with drugs, legal or otherwise- unless there is a medical problem and the desire can't be fulfilled, then using drugs to calm urges might be a mercy. I was referring to people without health issues. Paul was able to bring his body under complete subjection, but he says it is no sin to be like Peter, who had a wife. Some people are able to contain themselves, and some people are not. If there is a great desire to be joined to a person of the opposite sex, mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, I think God has called you NOT to be single. You have to examine your own heart and determine whether or not this desire is within you. I haven't found my "split apart" yet, but I know he is somewhere.
If you have no great desire to be joined as one, then perhaps you are called to be single.
Going by the scriptures, the inability to remain without a partner physically is a sure sign that you need to be married.