Business transaction!

[IHMFIL]

I'm in the USA, I don't know if it is fha or not. My husband owns a business and he says that any transaction over $10K has to be reported within 30 days to the IRS. And that we would be responsible for reporting $15K received to the IRS from non-family and we would be taxed on it, or we could not report it and take the chance, and he say's if I do this he will turn me into the IRS personally and will make sure I receive my social security benefits while I'm serving time in a Federal penetentiary. He's just joking right!

 

[Suzannah]

I'm in the USA, I don't know if it is fha or not. My husband owns a business and he says that any transaction over $10K has to be reported within 30 days to the IRS. And that we would be responsible for reporting $15K received to the IRS from non-family and we would be taxed on it, or we could not report it and take the chance, and he say's if I do this he will turn me into the IRS personally and will make sure I receive my social security benefits while I'm serving time in a Federal penetentiary. He's just joking right!

Then my advice is drop this "deal" immediately and have nothing to do with it. Your husband is not joking. Additionallly, you and your brother could face charges of fraud by the US government if this is an FHA or VA loan. Other federal regulations apply to Conventional loans which encompass the situation you describe and you would be facing a whole truckload of problems.

Best wishes....don't forget to pray for everyone though. We do have to do that!

 

[IHMFIL]

One last thing: my husband is upset at my brother for even approaching me on this, but my brothers heart is torn in two seeing the demise of our church and the incredible economic depression it has thrown the pastors family into. My husband actually interviened and told my brother he was up to no good, and my husband is trying to convince me that since my brother is an cpa he knew darn well I would be the only one in trouble if I went through with this, but at least I can see that a cpa commented in this tread and he was confused also about this situation and that explains to me that my brother had no idea that this would be illegal, he was just letting his God felt emotions direct him to help those in need. I knew my husband was embelishing something again about whether or not a cpa would know this was wrong. Thanks svt4him!

 

[Jenna]

Oh, stop twisting everything around, IHMFIL. You know darned well that that wasn't what Svt4Him said. You are just begging for trouble, and I'm sure that it is gonna find you if you keep up like this.

 

[katelyn]

One last thing: my husband is upset at my brother for even approaching me on this, but my brothers heart is torn in two seeing the demise of our church and the incredible economic depression it has thrown the pastors family into.

What? The pastor's family is going through hard times financially, so your brother wants to "help out" by taking a loan from them? If they are going through such hard times, how can they find the money to loan your brother, and even if they can, how is accepting a loan from them helping anyone but your brother?

 

[Suzannah]

I gave up.....LOL!

You guys might have better luck getting through....

 

[IHMFIL]

What? The pastor's family is going through hard times financially, so your brother wants to "help out" by taking a loan from them? If they are going through such hard times, how can they find the money to loan your brother, and even if they can, how is accepting a loan from them helping anyone but your brother?

This is another issue as to where exactly the money is coming from. My husband believes it is coming from the building fund to build a new church for the Lord. My brother and the Pastor are the only ones to have access to this fund, but the church is going to dissolve now and their is over a million dollars in this fund. I know my brother would never do anything dishonest or to hurt me or his family. My husband thinks my brother is trying to manipulate funds out of the building fund not the pastors personal account. I just want everyone to know that my family would never do anything to hurt me, my husband does not believe this and actually is trying to make me feel like my brother is a thief.

 

[Svt4Him]

Oh, stop twisting everything around, IHMFIL. You know darned well that that wasn't what Svt4Him said. You are just begging for trouble, and I'm sure that it is gonna find you if you keep up like this.

Thanks, the story keeps changing, so I would recommend what I have from the beginning.

Hey, what other story do I know of that keeps changing?

 

[Suzannah]

This is another issue as to where exactly the money is coming from. My husband believes it is coming from the building fund to build a new church for the Lord. My brother and the Pastor are the only ones to have access to this fund, but the church is going to dissolve now and their is over a million dollars in this fund. I know my brother would never do anything dishonest or to hurt me or his family. My husband thinks my brother is trying to manipulate funds out of the building fund not the pastors personal account. I just want everyone to know that my family would never do anything to hurt me, my husband does not believe this and actually is trying to make me feel like my brother is a thief.

Sounds to me like your husband is a straight up bloke and you are in denial. What you describe is illegal in the United States.

 

[Whitestone]

From the OP posts and statements, I am not saying this to be mean but I have never seen anyone show such disrespect, dislike, and lack of empathy to a spouse unless they hated them, as the OP has.

IMFIL alot of the people that have responded to you have said some very harsh things, myself included. Something to remember, we are not the One you will have to answer to for your actions.

Whitestone

 

[IHMFIL]

From the OP posts and statements, I am not saying this to be mean but I have never seen anyone show such disrespect, dislike, and lack of empathy to a spouse unless they hated them, as the OP has.

IMFIL alot of the people that have responded to you have said some very harsh things, myself included. Something to remember, we are not the One you will have to answer to for your actions.

Whitestone

Have you ever thought about how it feels to have someone try to seperate you from your family, do you know I have missed nieces and nephews birthdays, a christianing and how many family get togethers because I was standing up for my man. We have even moved 400 miles from the closest relative of mine. The one thing I will not ever give into and that is: that my family intentionally means to hurt my husband. The Lord knows I have tried!

 

[sarah marie]

I know my brother would never do anything dishonest or to hurt me or his family.

Are you kidding? Your brother's integrity is already in question! He sent you an email insinuating that your husband was inappropriate with his teenage daughter. He has already shown himself to be dishonest! He lied to attack your family! The fact that you think you were not hurt by it is beyond me! He hurt YOUR husband, who is YOUR FAMILY. And yet you think it is all good because you accepted your brother's apology on your husband's behalf. You say you KNOW your father, You KNOW your brother, you KNOW your husband, you KNOW all of their intentions and yet your knowledge is arbitrary and cruel. It is not based on loyalty or character. The seeds you are sowing is evil and I am desperately praying that God breaks through your hard heart and spares you the harvest!

 

[Suzannah]

bug bump test. ignore.

 

[Svt4Him]

Like a madman who throws firebrands, arrows, and death, Is the man who deceives his neighbor, And says, “I was only joking!”

 

[IHMFIL]

Like a madman who throws firebrands, arrows, and death,Is the man who deceives his neighbor, And says, “I was only joking!”

I am not joking! All this actually has happened, and it is very hurtful that you are making light of these situations. Look my husband and I went to a christian marital counselor and he told my husband point blank that he has serious issues! I am still waiting to hear from those people married to a manipulating, controlling, hypersensitive, abusive spouse.

 

[Svt4Him]

Oh, I thought you were looking for a way to get your brother some money because the pastors wife was doing something, and their house was falling apart, and the truck broke down and the dog died, and somehow they couldn't do it themselves, not marriage advice.

He who passes by and meddles in a quarrel not his own is like one who takes a dog by the ears.

 

[PickleReed]

YOu know, I don't thionk it very cool for some people on this board to be judging this person and her situation, nor treat her the way that you are, she asked a ?, so if you have nothing good to say, then keep it to yourself. I don't like seeing disrespect on the boards and it really makes me feel like not coming back. For grown people some really act like children.

 

[PickleReed]

Sorry IHMFIL, I have no good advice for you except follow your inner heart!!!!

 

[IHMFIL]

Thanks Pickle Reed! It's been a few treads since I have gotten any support.

 

[Suzannah]

You got plenty of support. You just didn't get 100 percent agreement with you. In fact, I showed you that this issue was very possibly illegal in the US and you chose to ignore this. Best wishes.