Broken Heart...Break-up with girl

[cerette]

So now you know, that is a relief! I'm glad. You "sound" happier too so that is great!
Move on and enjoy being single. It has it's benefits too ya know.

 

[CC268]

So now you know, that is a relief! I'm glad. You "sound" happier too so that is great!
Move on and enjoy being single. It has it's benefits too ya know.

It is definitely nice...am I really disappointed? Yes. However, you don't know who will pop up in your life, she may even decide to talk to me when she is ready. Nonetheless I will do my best to continue on and trust there is someone out there for me.

 

[CC268]

If you guys could pray for me I would appreciate it. I am having a tough time right now...I feel so stupid for liking this girl and then all of a sudden she is gone. I really wish someone would love me again and appreciate me...I am so sick of all the games and being hurt.

 

[cerette]

You'll probably end up married in a few years so please stop worrying about it. This is what happens though when you "put your heart out there"...heartache is PAINFUL. It hurts. It truly does. I've been there myself, more than once.
But it WILL get better.
Try not to think so much about her, after all, you were just dating a little bit, right?
If you want other girls to be interested in you you must get over this girl and stop moping...nobody is going to find you interesting if all you do is mope over some old date..Sayin' this kindly..
Try to focus on other things for a while. It seems to me that you believe you're OK only when you have a girl by your side. If so, why is that?

 

[BlueLioness]

If you worry too much you will probably seem desperate and most girls will not be interested in dating someone who seems desperate..it's a turn off!

Thanks for telling him that. My little sister is a girl, and she gets turned off when guys pursue her a lot. She calls them "desperate" and "clingy."

 

[CC268]

You'll probably end up married in a few years so please stop worrying about it. This is what happens though when you "put your heart out there"...heartache is PAINFUL. It hurts. It truly does. I've been there myself, more than once.
But it WILL get better.
Try not to think so much about her, after all, you were just dating a little bit, right?
If you want other girls to be interested in you you must get over this girl and stop moping...nobody is going to find you interesting if all you do is mope over some old date..Sayin' this kindly..
Try to focus on other things for a while. It seems to me that you believe you're OK only when you have a girl by your side. If so, why is that?

No I definitely understand what you are saying...I know I shouldn't be worried I just get down on myself easily sometimes. I need some time to heal...I just wish time would speed up. She was just a really pretty girl and it put me down to see her kind of just say she wasn't ready when she was the one who was really into me...and then walk away and not talk. It makes me wonder how I can be better I guess.

As far as being okay only when I am with a girl...well I guess you kind of hit the nail on the head. Why? Well it is still pretty fresh right now and I really haven't been single since I was 16. It is just different for me and I suppose I am not used to it. I am sure with time I will recover. Nonetheless I love having a girl to take on dates, and do fun "couple" things. I like making a girl smile and making her happy. Sometimes I think I am a little bit too selfless. It was cool hanging out with the new girl I was talking to because she was all over me for a change...

Anyways, it is helpful for me to vent on here and talk about it...even if it is just me rambling on. Thanks for listening!

 

[CC268]

Thanks for telling him that. My little sister is a girl, and she gets turned off when guys pursue her a lot. She calls them "desperate" and "clingy."

See I have never "pursued" a girl. I don't chase girls. If they are interested in me then I see where it goes and I will give it back to them a little. With that being said, I am a simple straightforward person. I don't believe in these "games" that some people like to play, I think it is beyond stupid. You should be able to be yourself and be straightforward instead of beating around the bush. This whole idea of...well if you give me too much attention your clingy, if you don't give me enough then I am leaving - that is just not worth anyone's time and I think people eventually realize that just doesn't work.

 

[CC268]

Any feedback?

 

[cerette]

Being single has a lot of advantages too. You are "free" to do what ya want, you can hang out with friends without having to worry about a partner feeling lonely or left out etc etc etc.
We don't know why this girl wasn't ready. But you shouldn't take it as if something was wrong with you and if only you had been "better" then she would have been ready. It just wasn't meant to be. Don't analyze it too much.
Focus on your studies for a while.

 

[cerette]

Do you go to a church and is there a youth group there? Maybe you could meet some new people there..

 

[CC268]

Being single has a lot of advantages too. You are "free" to do what ya want, you can hang out with friends without having to worry about a partner feeling lonely or left out etc etc etc.
We don't know why this girl wasn't ready. But you shouldn't take it as if something was wrong with you and if only you had been "better" then she would have been ready. It just wasn't meant to be. Don't analyze it too much.
Focus on your studies for a while.

Yea I know there are advantages to being single I just can't help but miss my relationships though. Its kind of just who I am. I just want to feel confident that I will find another girl who will appreciate me. I need to get the doubt out of my head. I try not to analyze things too much but I am a thinker...its just tough getting out of a long relationship and then have a girl who was into me decide that she just wasn't ready and stop talking. It makes me a bit insecure I guess. I don't have a church that I got to as of now and I feel being almost 20 there may not be youth groups for that age. Anyways...I appreciate your help and your feedback...it does continue to make me feel better and give me some hope. I have been praying but I wonder sometimes if God can even hear me.

 

[cerette]

Why wouldn't God hear you?
Try to think about your situation objectively for a bit: You've had a gf since you were 16, now you're single. Umm..so? WHAT is the big deal? It does not mean you will be single forever!!
So try to relax, get over it, and live in the present. Enjoy today today. Do things, go places, relax and chill. When you do find a new girl she deserves for you to have a positive attitude and to have gotten over an old date.
How come you don't go to church? Even if they don't have a youth group it's still a good place to make new friends.

 

[CC268]

Why wouldn't God hear you?
Try to think about your situation objectively for a bit: You've had a gf since you were 16, now you're single. Umm..so? WHAT is the big deal? It does not mean you will be single forever!!
So try to relax, get over it, and live in the present. Enjoy today today. Do things, go places, relax and chill. When you do find a new girl she deserves for you to have a positive attitude and to have gotten over an old date.
How come you don't go to church? Even if they don't have a youth group it's still a good place to make new friends.

Well I have been praying a lot lately and I just wish God would help me feel better and give me a hand, but it seems like he doesn't. I know I shouldn't care so much, I don't know why I do...just tough to see a girl I really liked walk away...kind of a double hit from my ex and her. For now I am just getting through one day at a time. I guess I should start attending my old church...I keep telling myself there will be another opportunity with a girl I just have a tough time believing it sometimes.

 

[cerette]

Well I have been praying a lot lately and I just wish God would help me feel better and give me a hand, but it seems like he doesn't. I know I shouldn't care so much, I don't know why I do...just tough to see a girl I really liked walk away...kind of a double hit from my ex and her. For now I am just getting through one day at a time. I guess I should start attending my old church...I keep telling myself there will be another opportunity with a girl I just have a tough time believing it sometimes.

You said earlier that your writing on here and getting a bit of support has helped you. Wouldn't that count as an answer to prayer? I sure think so. We don't always know how God helps or answers prayers. But I do know that often times His answers didn't come the way I had expected or even hoped for them to come..

What kinda church did you go to and why don't you go anymore?
Are you social at all these days? If you want another opportunity with a girl it would certainly help if you go places and meet people. Sitting at home being sad won't do much good in that aspect.

Again, sayin' everything kindly.

 

[CC268]

Yes it has helped me I'm just in a bad mood right now and need to get out of it. I'm just hurt and disappointed. I am a social person although being down home for the summer I don't quite have the opportunities to meet new people like I do when I am up at college. I mostly hang out with my group of friends down here...most of them have girlfriends. I just miss going on dates and having a girl to watch movies with and so much more. The church we went to was mostly older people.

I know at this point I'm probably beating a dead horse...but I seemed to have a lot in common with that girl and it was awesome. I know at this point I just need some time to be comfortable with being single. I know I gotta be positive and do my best to keep my head up even though it's tough right now. Hopefully a new girl will come along not too far from now

 

[cerette]

I encourage you to spend time with friends and family, you can watch movies with them too. I know it's not the same as being with your gf, but at least you don't have to be alone. Maybe when you go places you'll meet some new people too!

 

[CC268]

I encourage you to spend time with friends and family, you can watch movies with them too. I know it's not the same as being with your gf, but at least you don't have to be alone. Maybe when you go places you'll meet some new people too!

Yea I am trying :/...the mornings are the worst for me right now as I just feel lonely when I wake up, hopefully that will fade with time. Sometimes I really miss my ex or the girl I was talking to. I am going to a Christian counselor on Wednesday so hopefully that will help me. I also have talked to my friends quite a bit about this...they all say a kid like me shouldn't be worried and that there is no way I won't find someone else, I just have a tough time believing right now.

 

[cerette]

I think your friends are right. Let us know how it goes with the counselor, good luck to you.. Stay positive.

 

[CC268]

I think your friends are right. Let us know how it goes with the counselor, good luck to you.. Stay positive.

Thank you for listening...I appreciate your help so far it has definitely been an answer to prayer

 

[cerette]

No prob! I hope you feel much better soon. I remember when I was heartbroken (has happened several times) and it truly felt awful awful awful, like my life was over or something. But it got better. Way better! I met my husband and have been happily married for years. Try to think about other things and have fun with other people now..