Hello parents and other interested parties
I recently dropped in for some help with my three year old son, Bonham.
(NOT ENJOYING MY 3 YEAR OLD)
I am hoping someone can give me some advice on a waking problem.
My 3 year old has been a bit wierd about going to bed. He goes down OK...but, I have to stay with him till he goes to sleep. It's been a real punish, but now I've managed to convince him that I will stand outside his door, and not inside his room.....Then I sneak off.
Anyway, in recent weeks, (and now that he is in a big bed), he wakes anywhere between midnight and 2am. I have to go and stay with him till he falls back to sleep. (anything from a few minutes to an hour).
Then he wakes at anywhere between 5 am and 6.30am and that is it......he up for the day.
My rules:
If he wakes earlier that 6am......he has to lie in his bed.....sleep or no sleep.
When it is 6am or after.....he can turn his light on and play quietly in his room only.
He is not allowed out of his room until 7:30am (it's winter here and pitch dark until then).
(Myself or my husband has to stay in his room all this time...usually on his bed with him)
HERE IS MY DILEMA
Last night he was awake and calling out at 1:15am. This time I decided to PUT MY FOOT DOWN and tell him that I was not going to stay in his room but that I was going to go back into my own bed and he must just go back to sleep.
I told him I was sick of getting up in the MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT, and that I would no longer accept this king of behaviour. (yes, a few tips from "THE SUPERNANNY" )
Anyway, he screamed the house down for over 2 and a half hours, while my husband and I layed in bed fuming. He finally exhausted himself back to sleep.
(I told him half way through all the yelling that I would be packing up every toy he got for his birthday last week, when it was daytime.)
But then woke up two hours later ready to get up.
(I've had 4 hours sleep and I'm very cranky at him this morning)
I've tried all manner of discipline......
yelling (which doesnt work)
being calm and firm (which doesn't work either)
threatening to put him out in the garage with Fluffly the cat, where he can yell and play to his hearts delight and no-one will hear him.
the naughty corner....(it scares him but how can I do it at 2:00 in the morning?)
taking away his favourite toys (he doesnt care - he's not even phased that I am packing away his birthday presents)
I am sick to death of going into his room to wait while he falls asleep.....it's been going on way too long...and now this night-time antic is becoming a very bad habit, which I will not tolerate.
Another big problem is that DH and I have huge fights over all this stuff, and end up yelling at each other while we're yelling at out son. (a sad and terrible display of parental behaviour)
Because he is the softie and I am the tough disciplinarian I cant get him to understand my tactics (I explain everything to him, but he's not interested in understanding), and last night he said I was just being plain LAZY, because I would not just "GET UP AND GO INTO THE ROOM WITH HIM". (Now that makes me fume).
How do I nip this one in the bud?
Any ideas....anyone have the same, or similar problem?
With thanks from Bon (a sleepy and crabby Mum)
I recently dropped in for some help with my three year old son, Bonham.
(NOT ENJOYING MY 3 YEAR OLD)
I am hoping someone can give me some advice on a waking problem.
My 3 year old has been a bit wierd about going to bed. He goes down OK...but, I have to stay with him till he goes to sleep. It's been a real punish, but now I've managed to convince him that I will stand outside his door, and not inside his room.....Then I sneak off.
Anyway, in recent weeks, (and now that he is in a big bed), he wakes anywhere between midnight and 2am. I have to go and stay with him till he falls back to sleep. (anything from a few minutes to an hour).
Then he wakes at anywhere between 5 am and 6.30am and that is it......he up for the day.
My rules:
If he wakes earlier that 6am......he has to lie in his bed.....sleep or no sleep.
When it is 6am or after.....he can turn his light on and play quietly in his room only.
He is not allowed out of his room until 7:30am (it's winter here and pitch dark until then).
(Myself or my husband has to stay in his room all this time...usually on his bed with him)
HERE IS MY DILEMA
Last night he was awake and calling out at 1:15am. This time I decided to PUT MY FOOT DOWN and tell him that I was not going to stay in his room but that I was going to go back into my own bed and he must just go back to sleep.
I told him I was sick of getting up in the MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT, and that I would no longer accept this king of behaviour. (yes, a few tips from "THE SUPERNANNY" )
Anyway, he screamed the house down for over 2 and a half hours, while my husband and I layed in bed fuming. He finally exhausted himself back to sleep.
(I told him half way through all the yelling that I would be packing up every toy he got for his birthday last week, when it was daytime.)
But then woke up two hours later ready to get up.
(I've had 4 hours sleep and I'm very cranky at him this morning)
I've tried all manner of discipline......
yelling (which doesnt work)
being calm and firm (which doesn't work either)
threatening to put him out in the garage with Fluffly the cat, where he can yell and play to his hearts delight and no-one will hear him.
the naughty corner....(it scares him but how can I do it at 2:00 in the morning?)
taking away his favourite toys (he doesnt care - he's not even phased that I am packing away his birthday presents)
I am sick to death of going into his room to wait while he falls asleep.....it's been going on way too long...and now this night-time antic is becoming a very bad habit, which I will not tolerate.
Another big problem is that DH and I have huge fights over all this stuff, and end up yelling at each other while we're yelling at out son. (a sad and terrible display of parental behaviour)
Because he is the softie and I am the tough disciplinarian I cant get him to understand my tactics (I explain everything to him, but he's not interested in understanding), and last night he said I was just being plain LAZY, because I would not just "GET UP AND GO INTO THE ROOM WITH HIM". (Now that makes me fume).
How do I nip this one in the bud?
Any ideas....anyone have the same, or similar problem?
With thanks from Bon (a sleepy and crabby Mum)