- Jun 1, 2018
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If he tries to assert authority on this issue in a controlling or manipulative way, it's mental abuse. I hate to be adding to the scaryness but a lot of marriages change in a snap the second the couple gets married. I would highly recommend pre marriage counseling and making sure you fully know this guy before taking your vows. If you love him it's all the more reason to get him to change now before you get married and he gets too comfortable with you. He should be able to respect you and appreciate the things you do for him. Turtle necks and all that is balony, you can dress modest and even fashionable and pretty without doing everything in your power to make sure no man will ever look at you the wrong way. This isn't the 17 and 1800's. All I am telling you is that I think you should be very careful and take it slow because a lot of people can get the sense of a red flag based on the information we have been given.So my boyfriend and I. We both believe in no sex before marriage. Me growing up, I was taught there was no problem with light kissing, or wearing bathing suits etc. My boyfriend however, thinks that there should be absolutely zero kissing before marriage (even though he's kissed a girl before... he regrets it) so I was like okay that's great! Less temptation for sex. I'm fine with waiting. But he also has a problem with v-necked tops (even high ones) anything off the shoulder, leg showing above the knee, midriff, bathing suits, ripped jeans or anything. He immediately hates it. I used to wear all of that stuff until we got together. Now I'm afraid to or I fear he will leave me. I love him so much and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, but I'm constantly self conscious about "oh no can he see my collarbones in this top" and I don't even feel pretty anymore... Advice?
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