Boredom

[carmi]

I do not want problems, I want someone who acts less holy and more human. Not that I'm saying "I hope they sin more".. I'm not sure how to say what I want to say. 'Edgy' would be the word, yup, but it gets misinterpreted. 'Different' works too.

I think you do make yourself clear. The "trouble" is with definitions and how people define certain words and what it means to them. I had the same thing happening to me with a different word, attribute.

After several discussions and people telling me what that word really means and what I can expect from someone with this attribute, I had to rename it to make myself clear. If I ever used the new name (when I got myself in a position where I was listing desirable attributes or what I am looking for), it ended up in even more discussions and people trying to talk me out of it, warning me etc. etc. It's okay with me, I don't mind debates and discussions.

But, here is the good news. Some people will understand what you mean. Some will get your private definition of a word, attribute and what it means to and why.

 

[fishstix]

Is it just me or does anyone else ever feel that the opposite sex bores you to death? I mean, I know the 'type' I wanna date (if there is such thing) but so far I haven't really found anyone who can keep me interested for too long... I get just so boooooored with them, sooner or later. Maybe it's because I have no interest starting a serious relationship but gee, all the guys seem the same to me!!!

Actually, I find that more often than not I get bored by people of my own gender rather than the opposite. But I know both boring and interesting people in both genders. I find that the most interesting conversations happen when I'm in mixed gender company.

 

[Grunt]

You're right, I find that too. But interesting people are NOT one in a billion. I know a rare few ladies who are extremely interesting and fascinating...people you can just go and chat with for hours and hours and hours and never get bored with. Just keep looking...the friend search isn't easy.

Yeah, they probably are out there, I just seem to have an extraordinarily hard time finding any of them in real life.

I also have the complement problem...people think I am too INTENSE and suggest I might consider "toning down" a bit. I can't take more than a day of rest per week before going insane...I have this drive in me to make stuff and serve God and to encourage people. Sometimes it's too much. I think it's that thick Polish blood. Are you Polish too?

Heh, I'm not quite that bad Mine is more of a too serious view of the world, I guess. I definetly can appreciate a chance to be lazy But no, I'm mainly Scotch-Irish with some English and Cherokee mixed in.

One thing I've noticed several ladies complain about on this forum is that men show an initial extreme interest (because of certain protruding body features) but then after "getting used" to it, he finds out he could care less for the personality and ditches the gal. So be glad you see through that right away!

I wish it was that easy... For me it's not "protruding" features but just that females in general are so darn attractive. Even when you already *know* that their personality couldn't compete with a rock, you still have to resist that pull.

 

[Grunt]

Amen! Stereotypes... It's like saying, if you listen to punk, you're into drugs.

I do not want problems, I want someone who acts less holy and more human. Not that I'm saying "I hope they sin more".. I'm not sure how to say what I want to say. 'Edgy' would be the word, yup, but it gets misinterpreted. 'Different' works too. We all have our own ideals, don't we???

Well I don't really quite get a clear picture from what you're saying but I think I know what you mean.

A lot of times the "perfect" christians annoy me... because they're not perfect and can't be perfect... none of us can be. And many times they're just flat out hypocrits if you get to know them. No, I don't think I could stand dating one.

 

[Cordelia]

Is it just me or does anyone else ever feel that the opposite sex bores you to death? I mean, I know the 'type' I wanna date (if there is such thing) but so far I haven't really found anyone who can keep me interested for too long... I get just so boooooored with them, sooner or later. Maybe it's because I have no interest starting a serious relationship but gee, all the guys seem the same to me!!!

I know exactly what you mean, Silver Speak! The last guy I properly went out with springs to mind - that date was the most boring three hours of my life. And I felt so guilty, not 'clicking' with him at all, even though neither of us could help it if we were on completely different wavelengths. It's like that with nearly every man I meet, now, so I'm simply not dating. Like you said, I feel like it must just be the wrong time for a serious relationship.

My ex-boyfriend from my early university days - that was different, because we had loads in common and could talk for hours. He really challenged me and made me laugh. I wonder when I'll be in a relationship like that again, that also has a future...meh, lol.

 

[JPPT1974]

People are meant to be different and not really the same kind of like night and day.