Be honest: do you have a type?

[Life2Christ]

Do you have a type? I'm embarrassed to admit that at one time I did have a type. All the guys in my past (3) all looked the same. over 6 feet tall, glasses, smart. Types are stupid I think. I understand that you should be attracted to someone but now that my eyes have been opened, I feel like there are so many good men out there that I can't see becuase they don't fit my (former) type. That's why I'd rather abolish the "type" in my life.

You?

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I wouldn't say I have a "type" so to speak. I like a guy that's taller than me at least. And he should be attractive to ME and by that I don't mean he has to be tall, dark, and handsome, just that in my eyes I have to think he's attractive somewhat.
I would like him to love God, first and foremost.
I would like him to be kind.
I would like him to be able to fix things. Doesn't have to be everything but I like a guy that can fix some things.
I would like him to be musically inclined.

But he could be none of these (well except the loving God part that's a deal breaker) and I could still find him attractive.

I don't run thru a checklist every time I see someone I find attractive either. People are interesting and if God brings someone into my life, He knows better than me what I need, so who am I to question God's pick for me.
My husband would have been the unattainable one, in my opinion. I never would have thought he would have wanted someone like me, but he did and I am grateful to have experienced life with him.

 

[Life2Christ]

I never would have thought he would have wanted someone like me, but he did and I am grateful to have experienced life with him.

He was lucky to have had you, I'm sure!

I have been so traumatize by relationships that every time I see an attractive guy I think:
"He's handsome; he's probably a vain jerk"
"Oh he's so nice; he's probably a serial killer at night"
"Oh he loves his family; he's probably a momma's boy like Psycho".

This is a serious mental flaw I have and it is because I have been burned so much

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

He was lucky to have had you, I'm sure!

I have been so traumatize by relationships that every time I see an attractive guy I think:
"He's handsome; he's probably a vain jerk"
"Oh he's so nice; he's probably a serial killer at night"
"Oh he loves his family; he's probably a momma's boy like Psycho".

This is a serious mental flaw I have and it is because I have been burned so much

On the other hand you could be right. Better to err on the side of caution. I have met some guys that I thought were good looking only to get to know them and either find out they were jerks or just losers, so looks aren't everything. I DO worry about the serial killer thing for real though, probably cuz I watch those shows on ID like "Happily Never after" and 48 hours- hard evidence.

 

[Lone Wolfe]

I wouldn't say I have a "type" so to speak. I like a guy that's taller than me at least. And he should be attractive to ME and by that I don't mean he has to be tall, dark, and handsome, just that in my eyes I have to think he's attractive somewhat.
I would like him to love God, first and foremost.
I would like him to be kind.
I would like him to be able to fix things. Doesn't have to be everything but I like a guy that can fix some things.
I would like him to be musically inclined.

But he could be none of these (well except the loving God part that's a deal breaker) and I could still find him attractive.

I don't run thru a checklist every time I see someone I find attractive either. People are interesting and if God brings someone into my life, He knows better than me what I need, so who am I to question God's pick for me.
My husband would have been the unattainable one, in my opinion. I never would have thought he would have wanted someone like me, but he did and I am grateful to have experienced life with him.

Lets see, hmmmm?

I love God first & foremost.

I'm very kind and caring.

I have found very few things I can't fix and I am definitely musically inclined.

Just sayin'!

 

[blackribbon]

I have a "type" that I'm physically attracted to. That said, only a few guys I've ever dated actually fall into that category...and my husband definitely didn't.

(Can I sheepishly admit that my "type" is a Larry the Cable Guy type?) Taller, big (including a hugable belly), short hair, and probably owns some camo and flannel.

However, what I see in that type is a funny guy who really does care about others...isn't very self-focused...and is laid back and enjoys life and the people around him. (Which does describe my husband.)

I think it is human to have a "type" and it is probably molded by some man who was important in our life...however, it shouldn;t be the deciding factor on who we date or marry. While I hope for someone tall because the size makes me feel protected....I dated a man who was barely taller which I didn't notice because he did make me feel safe. I like the belly because I don't like men who spend hours in the gym...I've dated one who our whole schedule had to work around his running schedule. My hubby had a 6-pack...but it came from working his job...and that was sexy as all get out. Short hair to me represents a more conservative guy and one not likely to spend all his time in the mirror...(my hubby had long hair before I met him...but after serving in the military, preferred a buzz from then on.) The only thing that I won't compromise on is that he has to be intelligent (though I don't measure this by diplomas), he has to make me laugh, and he has to have a solid relationship with God that preferably comes before I meet him. I also value a strong work ethic.

Honestly, if God does give me someone to spend the rest of my life with, I almost expect him to look absolutely nothing like "my type" because that is how it seems that God likes to work in my life...making me stretch and trust to get my dreams.

 

[dayhiker]

whhooooo A match ... just saying. lol

I like a pretty woman ... tho I don't have that spelled out in words.
I do want an active woman, I don't plan to set around the house watching TV every night.

 

[Life2Christ]

Hey Lone Wolfe, I suggest you do some PM'ing!! (will I get banned if I write that? LOL)

 

[Lone Wolfe]

I don't know that I have "a type" to be perfectly honest becasue I have dated many women in my life (not when married) and they all looked totally different in hair color, eye color, education, physical build, religious beliefs, their employment, etc.

I've dated younger women, older women, wealthy women and poor women. I always looked at their inside being rather than their outside being. When I look back on it, most of them were blonde but, I don't think it was a type or a choice, it was just how it worked out? A few even dyed their hair blonde after we were together but it was never suggested or hinted by me at any time? I have always been attracted to women of Spanish decent but, only one of my relationships was with a Mexican gal many years ago. There was always something about olive skin, black hair and blue/green eyes that did it for me, lol. Funny how I didn't look for that in my past relationships?

So no, I don't think I ever had a type?

 

[wholigan11]

Apparently I do have a type - bad boys. I have no idea why because they all look different, but they end up having the same things in common such as drug use, alcohol use, promiscuity.

 

[exitstageright]

Apparently I do have a type - bad boys. I have no idea why because they all look different, but they end up having the same things in common such as drug use, alcohol use, promiscuity.

My curiosity got the best of me. How was your relationship with your father? Was he the bad boy type? Do you subconsiously want to "fix"
the bad boys that you meet,while at the same time do not appreciate a man who would be kind to you?

 

[exitstageright]

I have a "type" that I'm physically attracted to. That said, only a few guys I've ever dated actually fall into that category...and my husband definitely didn't.

(Can I sheepishly admit that my "type" is a Larry the Cable Guy type?) Taller, big (including a hugable belly), short hair, and probably owns some camo and flannel.

However, what I see in that type is a funny guy who really does care about others...isn't very self-focused...and is laid back and enjoys life and the people around him. (Which does describe my husband.)

I think it is human to have a "type" and it is probably molded by some man who was important in our life...however, it shouldn;t be the deciding factor on who we date or marry. While I hope for someone tall because the size makes me feel protected....I dated a man who was barely taller which I didn't notice because he did make me feel safe. I like the belly because I don't like men who spend hours in the gym...I've dated one who our whole schedule had to work around his running schedule. My hubby had a 6-pack...but it came from working his job...and that was sexy as all get out. Short hair to me represents a more conservative guy and one not likely to spend all his time in the mirror...(my hubby had long hair before I met him...but after serving in the military, preferred a buzz from then on.) The only thing that I won't compromise on is that he has to be intelligent (though I don't measure this by diplomas), he has to make me laugh, and he has to have a solid relationship with God that preferably comes before I meet him. I also value a strong work ethic.

Honestly, if God does give me someone to spend the rest of my life with, I almost expect him to look absolutely nothing like "my type" because that is how it seems that God likes to work in my life...making me stretch and trust to get my dreams.

AH......the height thing! Women want to feel protected. Is that why they are rejecting me because I am not over six feet tall?

Well,I have got news for the women who think like that. I may be only 5'9",but I can protect you just as good as a 6'8" man can. If I am carrying a .357 magnum,I might as well be ten feet tall!

Also,short men can be very mean when they fight! A short man CAN protect you. If he loves you,he would be willing to bite someone's ear off,or gouge somone's eye out in order to protect you.

Now,how is that for protection? Also,are we suppossed to depend only upon GOD for protection? Is a short man's life worth less than a tall man's life? I thought that a man's character was suppossed to the the thing that mostly would attract a woman and not his height. Is this just a bunch of idealistic theory?

Most American men are under six feet tall. It hurts us when we hear women drooling over men who are over six feet tall. One cannot help how tall one is.Before we were born.GOD did not ask us,"How tall would you like to be?"


Ok,that is enough.I will get off of my soap box now.

 

[blackribbon]

I am 5'5'' ... so a 5'6'' guy is taller than me. I was perfectly happy with the guy who was 5'9''...and there was something nice about having his face closer to mine. Anything over 6'1'' is too tall because I only come up to their armpit...LOL. However, I have dated too tall guys too. My hubby was 5'10'' when I met him...but then he went home for summer break and came back 6'.

 

[renewed21]

Do you have a type? I'm embarrassed to admit that at one time I did have a type. All the guys in my past (3) all looked the same. over 6 feet tall, glasses, smart. Types are stupid I think. I understand that you should be attracted to someone but now that my eyes have been opened, I feel like there are so many good men out there that I can't see becuase they don't fit my (former) type. That's why I'd rather abolish the "type" in my life.

You?

Yes definitely. She must have God in preeminence. Everything else is by far secondary.

 

[blackribbon]

I prefer mint chocolate chip ice cream over all other favors but I can honestly enjoy a good rocky road or even a reasonably good vanilla. That doesn't make me bad because I honestly just like ice cream.

Same goes with men. I have a type that might turn my head and get noticed faster but there is nothing evil or bad in that. I appreciate all types of men...in fact was happily married to one for over 17 years who was not my type...oddly enough, I am finding that I am now more attracted to red-heads instead of the darker headed men that I used to like. (yeah, hubby was a sexy redhead). I would not refuse to hang out with a man who "wasn't my type". I have room in my life for lots of friends...and I consider friendship the first step in dating.

Having a type is not bad...excluding people because they are not the right type can be.

And honestly...those of you who claim that 'someone who loves God' is the only requirement...are not being totally honest because why aren't you married yet. I can introduce you to many single people who love God but nobody is even taking notice of them.

Make me laugh and flash a big smile at me with some solid eye contact and a man can suddenly start becoming "my type" no matter what my first impression said about him. Be disrespectful to my God or even other people, and no matter how good you first looked, you will suddenly stop being "my type".

 

[Life2Christ]

Be disrespectful to my God or even other people, and no matter how good you first looked, you will suddenly stop being "my type".

I had a crazy crush on this stone cold HUNK. He was gorgeous and perfect in every way. My attraction to him fizzled because of this reason. Now I dont care if I see that person again.

 

[blackribbon]

Now,how is that for protection? Also,are we suppossed to depend only upon GOD for protection? Is a short man's life worth less than a tall man's life? I thought that a man's character was suppossed to the the thing that mostly would attract a woman and not his height. Is this just a bunch of idealistic theory?

I want to feel like someone is bigger and stronger than me...not so much because I need physical protection, but more that someone will protect the "me" that is inside and vulnerable. Size is not necessary...but I'm not a petite woman and I do want someone who can wrap his arms around me and just hold me when I feel weak. So like I said, taller than me (which isn't a hard requirement for most men to meet) would be nice.

And yes, the toughest men I have ever met were short guys...the only thing tougher is a short Marine. I don't know if I want a scrapper though...I'd rather have a gentle giant (and that doesn't necessarily mean a tall man).

And yes, character is what really counts...but I assumed this was a discussion on what we are attracted to initially. So no matter what a guy looks like, the minute I doubt his character, he loses all his charm. And the minute a guy shows that his character matches my ideal, he moves into the category where I want to learn more.

So if "type" means that I stick with it to the end, then I guess I don't have one....but if it is just the type of guy that might make me look a bit closer, then I do have a type...but I stand just as good of a chance of falling for his friend that looks nothing like what I am normally attracted to but is the right "type" on the inside. (Does that make sense?)

 

[renewed21]

I prefer mint chocolate chip ice cream over all other favors but I can honestly enjoy a good rocky road or even a reasonably good vanilla. That doesn't make me bad because I honestly just like ice cream.

Same goes with men. I have a type that might turn my head and get noticed faster but there is nothing evil or bad in that. I appreciate all types of men...in fact was happily married to one for over 17 years who was not my type...oddly enough, I am finding that I am now more attracted to red-heads instead of the darker headed men that I used to like. (yeah, hubby was a sexy redhead). I would not refuse to hang out with a man who "wasn't my type". I have room in my life for lots of friends...and I consider friendship the first step in dating.

Having a type is not bad...excluding people because they are not the right type can be.

And honestly...those of you who claim that 'someone who loves God' is the only requirement...are not being totally honest because why aren't you married yet. I can introduce you to many single people who love God but nobody is even taking notice of them.

Make me laugh and flash a big smile at me with some solid eye contact and a man can suddenly start becoming "my type" no matter what my first impression said about him. Be disrespectful to my God or even other people, and no matter how good you first looked, you will suddenly stop being "my type".

Not so ma'am. Careful not assume.

 

[blackribbon]

Ma'am??? I'm guessing you didn't realize you were playing in the "mature singles" pool? My assumption is somewhat based on the perfectly fair assumption that you are over 35 years old and single. However, you are correct that assumptions don't make fact.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I may have a "type" but I don't have a checklist, so I'm flexible on my "type"