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Atheists/Agnostics & Death

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Pretty much my view, too. If there is common ground (as between Christians of different denominations) there might be some reason to haggle, but as between Theists and Atheists, that's not the case.

Well, the one thing we all have in common, is we will all die someday, and lose others through death, and to say for sure that any of us know what exists after this life, if anything at all, with 100% certainty in either direction, would be wildly presumptuous.
 
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Yes, but atheism isn't about ego, as many might assume. Not everyone is like Richard Dawkins. lol

What is a 'Christian seeker?' Just curious, I see your religious status as such.
 
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I'll keep you in my thoughts will also be fine.

Don't use the word prayer, because that will come across as snide.


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When I first left Christianity, I felt that way about people who would say 'I'll pray for you,' etc. But, I remember when I said it as a believer. lol

I was just so snide!! Jk, I know what you're saying.

But, now it doesn't bother me. If people want to pray for me, that is okay. I don't need to be offended. The only thing I get somewhat offended by, is if someone tells others ''where'' they may end up after this life is over. No one knows. Even if you think you know, you don't know, for sure. Christianity never left me certain of things, only that I thought I was certain of things.
 
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Don't use the word prayer, because that will come across as snide.
I think each atheist can speak for oneself, about if the word "prayer" would be "snide".
Yes, they can, but use the word prayer at your own risk. If you don't care about coming across as snide, go right ahead.
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And saying "prayer" can be included in our example, so an atheist can understand that we do not depend on and trust in ourselves, but we look to God for all that is truly good.
You should never use the death of an atheist's loved one as an excuse to proselytize. That is vulture-like behavior. It is the worst.
You might be speaking for how you would take it. If a person already knows me, that person can know where I'm coming from and if I am just into an ego thing of self-righteous proselytizing or if I really care about the person. If you assume that any and all people would be "snide" to say "prayer", I would say you do not know all these people so you could make a general statement like that

But it is good to make an issue of this, so we each prayerfully evaluate our real motives and if we are really being compassionate or just putting on a religious show so we can tell ourselves we are serving Jesus.

About how not every atheist might feel the same way about you mentioning prayer >
While this is true, in the specific moment of approaching someone who is grieving, is that an appropriate time, in your opinion, to take that chance?
Yes, we need to feel for others, not only subject everyone to a one-size-fits-all approach or rule about what to say or not to say
 
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You might be speaking for how you would take it.

I'd like to correct a sentence of mine to capture what I really intended.

"Don't use the word prayer, because that will may come across as snide."

It's not just my potential reaction. I'm not alone in this. But all I am really saying is that there is a serious risk with that approach. I don't insist that every atheist will react in precisely the same way.

My recommendation is that if you don't know how someone will react, err on the side of caution. If you know specifically that someone won't mind, go right ahead with confidence.

Is that reasonable?


eudaimonia,

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It's difficult to tell Atheist anything of a spiritual nature, they generally have to discover the truth through experience and painful ego deflation or not.
Yes we require proof, not people telling us we have to believe to believe. As for painful ego deflation, when does that happen, not when you fail to prove anything.
Not every acorn becomes a tree, the gift of choice in the will of the children of God allows us to chose God or forsake him. Some people choose the doctrines of death.
An oak tree exists.

Every invisible acorn becomes an invisible oak tree in the mind of those who choose to believe it does.

The doctrine of death. I can prove death, so what else is there?
 
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The most I can believe of an after life is humans developing the technology to bring back people from the dead.

I don't believe our essence is permanently gone when we die. It could easily never come back, but in theory I think it's possible to bring it back.

The thought comforts me at least, lol.
 
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I would say follow your heart and not your head. People can "reason" just about anything,
but what they "feel" about something is more often correct.
Long live Schleiermacher and his feeling of absolute dependence:

 
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Great synopsis! A person who honestly believes that Jesus died on the cross to take their sins away will be lead into all truth. It really is that simple. Plus, it would make sense that an all loving God would make Himself known in new ways overtime and eventually would make it so simple and easy to understand that only the very foolish, who do not seek truth, would be left unbelieving.
 
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Yes, but atheism isn't about ego, as many might assume. Not everyone is like Richard Dawkins. lol

What is a 'Christian seeker?' Just curious, I see your religious status as such.

Christian seeker = I believe Jesus was what he said he was, I have found his teachings to be true, but the religion that Paul started about Jesus is a divergence from the original religion of Jesus.
 
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Christian seeker = I believe Jesus was what he said he was, I have found his teachings to be true, but the religion that Paul started about Jesus is a divergence from the original religion of Jesus.
Logically, that would mean rejecting much of the New Testament as being divinely-inspired. To put it another way, either Paul's Epistles don't belong in the Bible or else the Bible isn't to be taken as being the Word of God.

What do you think?
 
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Requiring proof is a cop out, besides, you cannot disprove the existence of God yet you have faith in that so??????
 
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Logically, that would mean rejecting much of the New Testament as being divinely-inspired. To put it another way, either Paul's Epistles don't belong in the Bible or else the Bible isn't to be taken as being the Word of God.

What do you think?

The theory that the Bible is the written Word of God is extra-biblical. Scripture fetish is a teaching common in all religions, an idea born among the shamans and priest in order to derive their authority as well as that of the social institution. . Most of the Bible books are retrospectives, written long after the events using a form of "preach-writing". In other words, the anscients, and even some people today, saw the hand of God in everything, won a war, lost a piece, good crops, bad crops etc. So that being their sincere belief, they wrote about history in the same way; God did this and that, God gave victory or defeat, God gave prosperity or famine.

Paul NEVER claimed his routine correspondence to others were the written Word of God. That is a creation of the Roman church in their reverence for Paul (the founder of their religion). The re-Sanhedrin church even considered it's own councils to be inerrant.
 
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Requiring proof is a cop out, besides, you cannot disprove the existence of God yet you have faith in that so??????

Not all atheists have faith that there is no God, merely lack faith that there is. Subtle distinction, but important.
 
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Not all atheists have faith that there is no God, merely lack faith that there is. Subtle distinction, but important.
Wouldn't that make such a person an Agnostic? To be an Atheist generally means a decision has been made.
 
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Wouldn't that make such a person an Agnostic? To be an Atheist generally means a decision has been made.

No, it doesn't. At least, that's not how atheists consider the matter.


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No, it doesn't. At least, that's not how atheists consider the matter.


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Meaning, I'd think, that they're embarrassed about being thought to be Atheists.

A=without, Theist=believer in God. Sounds like what you've described, but I will accept your statement that they don't want to be identified with the term.

By the way, what would such Atheists say that the word "Agnostic" refers to, if not what they themselves believe??
 
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A = without, Theist = believer in God.

I am without belief in God.

But that isn't the same as I believe there is no God.

See the difference?

Agnostic usually referring to a lack of knowledge, which would mean I'm also agnostic.

A gnostic atheist would be someone who positively declares that there is no God.
 
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A = without, Theist = believer in God.

I am without belief in God.

But that isn't the same as I believe there is no God.

See the difference?
If you're without a belief in God, you believe that there is none. If you are unsure, you are Agnostic.

Agnostic usually referring to a lack of knowledge, which would mean I'm also agnostic.
That's what I would think. Because if you had knowledge of God you couldn't disbelieve, and there is no way of knowing that there is no God.

A gnostic atheist would be someone who positively declares that there is no God.
Why would the word "gnostic" be part of that? It seems superfluous, but more than that, it seems incorrect since "gnostic" derives from one who has knowledge, but it's not possible to "know" that there is no God, merely that you don't believe there is one (or several or many).
 
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