Hi JF5000,
Your statement about "being at the crossroads" is one that every SDA should be looking in the mirror asking themselves which one of the crossroads they are going to take. That may sound like a strange thing to say but if you will forgive me for taking a few moments of your time I'll try to explain.
Let me start by saying that the dream you had, followed by the experience with the poor man that you tried to help at work, I personally would take as a gift from God. He certainly got your attention. You certainly haven't forgotten the whole experience. And whether you feel it or not, I think God, through the unction of the Holy Spirit, caused you to choose to come here and post today.
You are not the only one who is at a crossroads. Oh, I know the answers you have been given here have helped make it pretty clear for you as to where you stand. However this is just the kind of discord that we are told will take place in these end times. There will be many, both SDA and non-SDA who will stand at these same crosroads in the not too distant future. The only way anyone can make a right choice as to which road they will take is to use the only road map we have for the road of salvation, God's own Word the Bible. I say this because each of us needs to be able to defend our faith from the Bible alone. Am I a traditional SDA? I guess you would have to say that I am if holding the 28 Fundamental Beliefs is what is required. But I would hope that others can see Christ first and then ask me, By the way what church do you attend?
May God put His loving arms around you, the Holy angels protect you, and the Holy Spirit guide and comfort you as we travel salvations highway to our heavenly home.
Respectfully, your friend and brother in Christ,
Doc