Hi. I recently encountered an ex-boyfriend while on Facebook. About 15 years ago, before I was a Christian, I had been dating him (I'll call him Max) while simultaneously dating somebody else. Max dropped in on me one day while the other guy was at my place and quickly figured out what was going on. That was the last I'd seen or communicated with him until this week. I have over the years thought back on that day and felt terrible about it, wishing I could apologize to him somehow. Now that we've reconnected on FB, I'm wondering if I should dig up what happened so long ago and ask forgiveness. I don't know if he was a Christian then, but he is now.
My biggest concern is that he is single (never married) and I am married. Would it be inappropriate to contact him about this? I hesitate to say anything to my husband because he can be very paranoid and jealous with regards to me and other guys. Before having children, he used to be very jealous of the men I worked with, simply because they got to be around me when he couldn't. To give a little background on my husband, when he was 12 years old, his mother ran away from him, his brothers and father. They didnt hear a word from her for several weeks, but when they did, she said she thought they should stay with their dad and shed go on living with the guy she was with. Ever since then, he's had a general mistrust of women. For the first few years of our marriage, he would get very upset if I didn't answer the phone at home when he expected me to be there, thinking I was with another man. Thankfully, after many reassurances, we are past that, but he does still show signs of mistrust at times. I know that according to the first part of this message it may sound like I am one who may be easily tempted to fall into multiple relationships simultaneously, but that occurrence was the first and last of its kind.
What should I do?
My biggest concern is that he is single (never married) and I am married. Would it be inappropriate to contact him about this? I hesitate to say anything to my husband because he can be very paranoid and jealous with regards to me and other guys. Before having children, he used to be very jealous of the men I worked with, simply because they got to be around me when he couldn't. To give a little background on my husband, when he was 12 years old, his mother ran away from him, his brothers and father. They didnt hear a word from her for several weeks, but when they did, she said she thought they should stay with their dad and shed go on living with the guy she was with. Ever since then, he's had a general mistrust of women. For the first few years of our marriage, he would get very upset if I didn't answer the phone at home when he expected me to be there, thinking I was with another man. Thankfully, after many reassurances, we are past that, but he does still show signs of mistrust at times. I know that according to the first part of this message it may sound like I am one who may be easily tempted to fall into multiple relationships simultaneously, but that occurrence was the first and last of its kind.
What should I do?