Ask a Bisexual

[RealityPixie]

So we've had Ask a Gay man and Ask a Straight man, now it's time for the inevitable....

Ask a bisexual! Now all 3 (main) sexualities are represented across the board.

So ask away, anything at all. And if you're bi, male or female, feel free to chip in with your responses also.

 

[Mystman]

Do the different gender love interests tend to come in bursts (e.g, 3 men followed by 4 women followed by 4 men..), or is it more a man-women-man-woman thing? Or both at the same time?

 

[Supernaut]

***We are still missing "Ask a Transgendered"!*** Any takers?


So, I am assuming that your atractions aren;t any different than a gay or straight persons. Do you find it ever difficult to choose who you would like to date? Or have an encounter with? Seems that as a bisexual, you have double the opportunities yes?

 

[Tinker Grey]

I have been given to understand that the human spectrum of sexuality is continuous rather than discrete.

Is this your understanding as well? (If not, what then is your understanding.)

If so, do you find your attractions run 50/50 or say 40/60 or 30/70 in a particular direction?

 

[Autumnleaf]

On balance, are boys or girls better kissers?

 

[RealityPixie]

Do the different gender love interests tend to come in bursts (e.g, 3 men followed by 4 women followed by 4 men..), or is it more a man-women-man-woman thing? Or both at the same time?

I go through phases, sometimes more interested in men, sometimes women, sometimes both. There's no real rhythm or rhyme to it.

 

[RealityPixie]

***We are still missing "Ask a Transgendered"!*** Any takers?


So, I am assuming that your atractions aren;t any different than a gay or straight persons. Do you find it ever difficult to choose who you would like to date? Or have an encounter with? Seems that as a bisexual, you have double the opportunities yes?

I don't have any difficulty. I'm currently in a long term relationship (with a man) so dating/sexual encounters arn't something I have to think about much. Ultimately, though, it has never boiled down to a question of 'should I date a man or a woman now?', but rather it rests on the individual. It's a bit of a cliche to say I'm most attracted to personality, but it is kinda true.

Oh and I don't know if you'd have double the choices...actual lesbian/bisexual women make up only a minority of women out there, so while the choice is more, it wouldn't be double (if that makes sense)

 

[RealityPixie]

I have been given to understand that the human spectrum of sexuality is continuous rather than discrete.

Is this your understanding as well? (If not, what then is your understanding.)

If so, do you find your attractions run 50/50 or say 40/60 or 30/70 in a particular direction?

Yes this is true. I am more attracted to women, I'd be about a 4.5 on the Kinsey. Or, perhaps, 30/70. This is a sort of average, because it reall depends when you ask me. Most of the time I prefer women, but on the odd occasion I'm more attracted to men. Actually, because of this I don't usually think of myself as bisexual but 'queer'. When talking to others though it's easier to just say you're bi and avoid the drama.

 

[RealityPixie]

On balance, are boys or girls better kissers?

Girls, no stubble (or not usually...)

 

[Supernaut]

I don't have any difficulty. I'm currently in a long term relationship (with a man) so dating/sexual encounters arn't something I have to think about much. Ultimately, though, it has never boiled down to a question of 'should I date a man or a woman now?', but rather it rests on the individual. It's a bit of a cliche to say I'm most attracted to personality, but it is kinda true.

Cool cool...lucky guy I am sure!

Oh and I don't know if you'd have double the choices...actual lesbian/bisexual women make up only a minority of women out there, so while the choice is more, it wouldn't be double (if that makes sense)

That does make sense....funny how we sometimes generalize/exaggerate and are not aware of it.

 

[chrisnu]

Did feelings for both men and women develop at the same time, or did attraction toward one gender develop later?

 

[Apollo Celestio]

I can do "Ask an asexual" if you want.

I'm wondering how did you emerge from childhood into sexual attractions.. did you think everyone was that way or did you know the standard?

 

[Supernaut]

I can do "Ask an asexual" if you want.

I think you should! There is little known about asexuals.

 

[RocketRed]

I can do "Ask an asexual" if you want.

DO IT. Sexuality Squad, away!

As for the lovely Pixie: what has been your experience with how homosexuals have treated you? I've noticed that there's a somewhat popular belief among the G and L of the LGBTQ alphabet that bisexuals are just on a lay-over to being gay.
Personally, I find this belief to be hypocritical, but what do you think of it?

 

[Supernaut]

DO IT. Sexuality Squad, away!

Definite ditto on that!

LGBTQ

What is the "Q"? Is it for queer? If so, isn't that covered by the use of gay? Pardon my ignorance good sir!

 

[RocketRed]

What is the "Q"? Is it for queer? If so, isn't that covered by the use of gay? Pardon my ignorance good sir!

Pardoned a thousand times over! It depends on who you ask, actually. Some say it's "queer," yes, but I've always thought it meant "questioning."

 

[Supernaut]

Pardoned a thousand times over! It depends on who you ask, actually. Some say it's "queer," yes, but I've always thought it meant "questioning."

Ahh...the undecided. That makes better sense. Thank you good sir!

 

[Verv]

Many of the bisexuals I meet just say this to get attention from people.

Do you have a similar experience?

There are many fake bisexuals who try to ascribe an 'edge' to themselves and seem 'modern' and 'avant garde,' and they seldom have to live up to the fact that they are a bisexual.

 

[RealityPixie]

Did feelings for both men and women develop at the same time, or did attraction toward one gender develop later?

It definantly started for women when I hit puberty, but I wasn't entirely sure what I was feeling. A couple years later I started getting iterested in boys (around 14 or 15)

I can do "Ask an asexual" if you want.

I'm wondering how did you emerge from childhood into sexual attractions.. did you think everyone was that way or did you know the standard?

Yeah an asexual thread would be cool

As a child I knew the standard for relationships was a man and a woman. Even when I learned about homosexual relationships, I couldn't understand why I didn't seem to fit into either catagory, and it scared me quiet a lot. For me, I felt out of sync with the rest of society.

As for the lovely Pixie: what has been your experience with how homosexuals have treated you? I've noticed that there's a somewhat popular belief among the G and L of the LGBTQ alphabet that bisexuals are just on a lay-over to being gay.
Personally, I find this belief to be hypocritical, but what do you think of it?

I've never personally experienced any ill-feeling from others in the LGBTQ community, but i have heard of it happening. Actually, I get less understanding from straight people. Yes, it is very hypocritical for other queers to be predjudice against others in the rainbow, fortunately it doesn't seem to happen here very often

Many of the bisexuals I meet just say this to get attention from people.

Do you have a similar experience?

There are many fake bisexuals who try to ascribe an 'edge' to themselves and seem 'modern' and 'avant garde,' and they seldom have to live up to the fact that they are a bisexual.

Yes! Ugh! It grates my nerves! Actually, I personally find it very disrespectful not only for real bisexuals, but for all queers. Chicks kissing other chicks at parties for attention makes a mockery of the real confusion and pressure I felt when finally coming out to myself. It also put the rest of us into ill-repute. No one can take you seriously, they think you're just doing it for attention, or they try and get you to hook up with other girls so they can take photos or whatever. Because of those people, bisexuals get labled as promiscuous, [wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth][wash my mouth] and wild. My sexuality isn't a party trick, or even a lifestyle choice, it's just me.

 

[TheBlueBlurr]

''It definantly started for women when I hit puberty, but I wasn't entirely sure what I was feeling. A couple years later I started getting iterested in boys (around 14 or 15)''

Same thing happened to me. I still feel more attracted to women though.