anyone happy being single

[vibrant]

it just seems to me that a lot of us are filled with some angst ... is anyone actually happy and not looking for anything?

personally, i don't want this sort of relationship now or anytime in the future. had a dose of it over the summer, and i just didn't get into it.

i mean, if you are but i'm just wondering...

 

[Injured Soldier]

That's great if you are happy with your singleness vibrant. There's nothing like a not-exactly-right relationship to wake us up to the fact that relationships aren't all they are cracked up to be. Not to tread on your happiness, but it works the other way too. After a few years of the single life you are woken up to the fact singleness isn't all it it cracked up to be either. I guess us human beings are always seeing that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. But God knows what will make us happy and complete in the longrun, regardless of how much we see it hurts now. So I'm following God wherever He leads me.

But if I told you I was happy with my singleness I'd be lying to you. Not that I'm blaming God, or being faithless or whatever. About 5 years I got incredibly sick and was in hospital for over two months, then had to return there 3 days a week for rehab for a further 9 months. I wasn't exactly happy in that situation either, but I still had faith in God that He'd help me through it.

But then again I may not exactly be happy with the current situation, but I'm also just going to live my life as best as I can following Jesus and He'll send the one for me. In fact, I know God's got one picked out for me out there because she's running very late getting here (and I'm always late everywhere I go). I'd be even unhappier in a relationship with someone I always fight with, or a relationship God doesn't want me to be in. So I may not be a happy single, but not willing to settle for anything less than what God's got for me, so I'll praise him in this situation too.

 

[brettnolan]

nope

 

[Kaylynn]

can't say I am either...I'm not UNhappy that I'm single...but I gotta say I'm not jumping for joy. I'd be a lot happier if i had someone to share my life with...but I only want that in God's timing. So while I'm not thrilled about the fact that I'm single, I'm content in knowing I can always rely on God to bring about His will in His timing.

 

[Gangsta for Christ]

being single is where it is at. The clubs/bars have never been so fun. I enjoy every ounce of opportunity that is out there. Im the happiest guy in the world right now.

 

[haya]

I'm happy!

I love my life, and I've got too much going on to be dating -- for at least another year, I won't be able to be in a serious r-ship, since I'll be globe-trotting. I'm from the States, but I've been teaching English over in Korea since graduating from college, and I'm just starting another year over there. I'm not in any position to date seriously, since I'll probably be moving on from Korea after the year is through. There is no way I'd do a long-distance r-ship overseas, unless of course I felt that it was God's will. (Doubt it would happen!!!)

A few years down the line, though, after I've finished travelling all over the place, I might like to meet a special sweetie.

 

[Winning Guy]

I'm happy being single. It has allowed me to go back to school so that I can pursue a degree in Criminal Justice. When I was in a relationship I put so much energy into it that I didn't have much time for self improvement.

I do sometimes think about relationships, but I think right now would be a bad time for me.

Maybe I'll be free when haya is.

 

[remy]

I drift in and out of the cloud but for now I'm happy being single and don't mind if it stays that way. I don't want to use the cliche, "to focus more on God," because Christians should do that regardless.

I do, however, want a puppy.

 

[jenptcfan]

I'm happy in general. I mean I don't want to be single forever, but I'm content with where God has me right now. I have an open heart to being in a relationship, but I think it's important not to be so focused on "when will my prince come" that we waste the single time that God's given us.

That's how I feel anyway.

 

[mina]

I've always been single so I don't know anything else, but I am pretty tired of it. Jesus can make me content with whatever and where ever I am in life, but I don't always want to be in the same place I am now. I've been happy for a long long time, now I just want change. I guess I sound ungrateful and weird.

 

[giverforjesus]

being single isnt super rad.

 

[klewlis]

For the first time in my life I am completely happy being single... that doesn't mean that I wouldn't still love to find someone, but I am content, and loving life. God is good.

 

[Mike_41786]

For the first time in my life I am completely happy being single... that doesn't mean that I wouldn't still love to find someone, but I am content, and loving life. God is good.

Very true, in reality were not single. Were married to God and man it helps me when im lonley and I wish I had a GF. But I know what its like to desire a partner. Our time will come, our time will come...

P.S.-I know that being single has kept my focus on God more than having a partner.

 

[vibrant]

although i sense a slight angst running through some of the affirmations, thanks for the replies.

i don't think that my summer fling spoiled my opinions, but i'm just not ready to get married... and i really don't see the point of dating (courting, best friending, etc) someone if it isn't going anywhere. that's what troubled me in my summer "fling". i didn't mind him, and the relationship in the short term, but thinking about being married to him turned me off of both.

 

[Living4Him03]

sometimes i'm fine with not being married. Even when i'm not dating anyone I'm okay. Of course, I don't like to think about marriage or finding "the one" alot so I try to block it out because it's just a crazy topic for me I guess. I'm glad I'm in a relationship now, but I honestly can't say that I'm so much better off than before. Before it wasn't God's will now it is. Either way, I'm still going to have Christ. It does make it alot nicer when you go shopping around valentines and you actually have someone to shop for! I used to hate valentines so much cuz i never had a valentine! This year I have one so hopefully it will be romantic. Well, at least he will probably say happy valentines and if he remembers to do that then that is pretty good lol

 

[gunbak]

No,
I can deal with being single. But knowing my ultimate goals and having to wait for them to mature can be frustrating.

 

[joyful12]

i was feeling ok for being single , but as age grows and friends around me are almost all married with kids.. Now, I always feeling lonely and not happy for being single...
i hope God will bless me with someone who can keep me company ....

 

[white dove]

injured, I'm late for most things as well...and I know God has an incredible sense of humor at times, so this makes me confused as to why He hasn't shown me a guy that is incredible AND early~we'd be a perfect match, he'd compensate for my tardiness..ah well! in any case, I'd been perfectly content being single for awhile (guys always seemed to be a distraction, or rather relationships seemed to be too confining for my taste, so it was easy to let that idea of "finding someone" all the more easy to ignore for a time), then lately, I'd been feeling very restless and wanting someone like RIGHT NOW, but I don't want "just anybody" and God knows that...I've seen the "just anybodies" out there and it ain't for me. I'm still trusting God to make me out to be the right gal for my future cowboy (and my future dashing, debonair knight to be the...well, knight he outta be), God knows what he's doing!! 'sides, He knows I ain't got no patience to deal with the immature guys I meet!!

 

[plum]

I'm okay being single, but that doesn't mean I wouldn't say no to a relationship right now.

 

[sunshine]

I'm really okay with being single. once in awhile, I will feel a longing need to be with someone, but most of the time, I'm quite content to be all by me onesies. I'm a very independent person, and I handle things very well on my own. that may change, but for now, I'm good