Any Tips?

[StarryEyes]

Yes, I've had a boyfriend before, but talking about feelings and personal things is still extremely difficult for me.

So I was wondering...... how in the world do you tell someone how you feel about them??? How do you make yourself vulnerable and just say it instead of holding it all in.. or even parts of it in? Is it best to practice first? Or write it out?

Thanks in advance!

Btw.. I had a guy ask me out quite awhile ago who was actually so nervous he was shaking! And the time he tried before that, he was actually pacing! I thought it was cute though He atleast went for it.. maybe I'm thinking too much again.

 

[trentlogain2]

would it help if the other person sorta helped out the person who was having the problem?

for instance..say that billy is having a hard time telling nicole how he feels about her, but nicole knows that he likes her. would it be much trouble if nicole took the initiative and drew out from billy what he was trying to convey in an understanding and loving manner?

 

[StarryEyes]

would it help if the other person sorta helped out the person who was having the problem?

Maybe.. how so?

 

[trentlogain2]

i can tell you that (at least for me) writing it out and rehearsing what i wanted to say to another girl never worked. its like anything else..it will come out different every time. i guess you could literally write the person a letter though too. some people might find that endearing.

 

[StarryEyes]

i can tell you that (at least for me) writing it out and rehearsing what i wanted to say to another girl never worked. its like anything else..it will come out different every time. i guess you could literally write the person a letter though too. some people might find that endearing.

I did that once.. and a month later he sent me a rejection letter. But that was pretty much the only way I could get it out was by writing a letter. I guess if I write it out I could atleast get an idea of what to say.. did writing it out help you in that sense?

 

[Im_A]

Yes, I've had a boyfriend before, but talking about feelings and personal things is still extremely difficult for me.

So I was wondering...... how in the world do you tell someone how you feel about them??? How do you make yourself vulnerable and just say it instead of holding it all in.. or even parts of it in? Is it best to practice first? Or write it out?

Thanks in advance!

Btw.. I had a guy ask me out quite awhile ago who was actually so nervous he was shaking! And the time he tried before that, he was actually pacing! I thought it was cute though He atleast went for it.. maybe I'm thinking too much again.

I go by what feels natural. Mere example, when I have the urge to tell her how I feel, I burst it out. So my opinion is just go with it when you feel that urge in you that you can't handle hiding in. Then when you do it once, its a piece of cake after that.

 

[trentlogain2]

I did that once.. and a month later he sent me a rejection letter. But that was pretty much the only way I could get it out was by writing a letter. I guess if I write it out I could atleast get an idea of what to say.. did writing it out help you in that sense?

for me it did. it takes a patient person on the other end though. speaking of which, what did you think of what i said in my edited post?


PS. - who am i kidding? the only credible advice i could ever give on this subject is to seek the Lord's guidance on this in prayer and ask him to give you wisdom on what to do.

-James 1:5 " If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him."

 

[StarryEyes]

would it help if the other person sorta helped out the person who was having the problem?

for instance..say that billy is having a hard time telling nicole how he feels about her, but nicole knows that he likes her. would it be much trouble if nicole took the initiative and drew out from billy what he was trying to convey in an understanding and loving manner?

but it would be good practice for billy to do it! cuz hopefully he will make it a habit throughout their relationship except yeah i'm sure it would get easier with more experience.

 

[StarryEyes]

Im_A.. yeah, maybe it would be best to just come out and say it but at other times.. when I have feelings for someone I don't always understand them so I like to pray about it and think it through before knowing whether or not I should tell them.

Thank you Trent. Yeah I need to pray about it somemore. I guess this is stemming from a song I heard from a movie lastnight.. about telling someone how you feel because you may never get that opportunity again. Yet I believe that if it's meant to be, you'll get the opportunity again.

 

[trentlogain2]

but it would be good practice for billy to do it! cuz hopefully he will make it a habit throughout their relationship except yeah i'm sure it would get easier with more experience.

people express their affection and love for one another in different ways. i would recommend a book that ive mentioned on here before called the five love languages. A christian counselor wrote it, and its sold over millions in several countries.

 

[StarryEyes]

people express their affection and love for one another in different ways. i would recommend a book that ive mentioned on here before called the five love languages. A christian counselor wrote it, and its sold over millions in several countries.

I may have to look into it.. I've been reading The Love Dare from the movie Fireproof.

 

[trentlogain2]

I may have to look into it.. I've been reading The Love Dare from the movie Fireproof.

The name of the author is Gary Chapman. The website can be found at The Five Love Languages

I suggest checking out the singles edition. God bless!

 

[StarryEyes]

The name of the author is Gary Chapman. The website can be found at The Five Love Languages

I suggest checking out the singles edition. God bless!

God bless you too

 

[127.0.0.1]

So I was wondering...... how in the world do you tell someone how you feel about them??? How do you make yourself vulnerable and just say it instead of holding it all in.. or even parts of it in? Is it best to practice first? Or write it out?

BLIND POST:

Get to know 'em first. Get to be their friend. THEN you'll find it easier to just hang out and do stuff. Then see where the relationship progresses from there.

 

[smacarena]

Say, "Baby, you rawk my world. If you don't go out with me, I'll commit the ancient Japanese art of hari kiri." It helps if you have the knife in hand ready to do it. I advise making an inch-long cut in your torso so she knows you're serious.

 

[StarryEyes]

Say, "Baby, you rawk my world. If you don't go out with me, I'll commit the ancient Japanese art of hari kiri." It helps if you have the knife in hand ready to do it. I advise making an inch-long cut in your torso so she knows you're serious.

She??? that kinda freaked me out smac

 

[smacarena]

Or he.

 

[Big Mouth]

I would suggest writting it down. This enables you to just write what you feel and then go back and edit it.

Also don't be afraid to do something unique and you. I told my last boyfriend I loved him the same amount that I loved Harry Potter. He was touched.

 

[StarryEyes]

thank you all

 

[smacarena]

OK, maybe mine was a little macabre. Scratch the hari kiri thing. If you want to truly win his heart, buy him one of these: