Any Good Men out there?

[Fire for God]

To Mess:

Yea I agree with you bro

My point was that, after you're saved, you are still rewarded based on what you do (or more accurately, your heart's intentions). I did not mean to say that we are saved by good works, but rather I meant to encourage us to continue doing good works for God and lead a righteous life. This is not for salvation, but out of love, as a servant of God.

Romans 6:13
"Do not offer the parts of your body to sin, as instruments of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God, as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer the parts of your body to him as instruments of righteousness."

1 John 2:29
"If you know that he is righteous, you know that everyone who does what is right has been born of him."

I Cor 3:12-15
"If any man builds on this foundation using gold, silver, costly stones, wood, hay or straw, his work will be shown for what it is, because the Day will bring it to light. It will be revealed with fire, and the fire will test the quality of each man's work. If what he has built survives, he will receive his reward. If it is burned up, he will suffer loss; he himself will be saved, but only as one escaping through the flames."

As you have rightly pointed out, we are saved by grace, and by what Christ has done for us on the cross. That is the foundation, as highlighted in bold above. What I'm trying to say is that it is also beneficial to take it a step higher by doing good works for God, not for salvation, but out of love, for His kingdom.

That being said, thanks for pointing out that we are indeed NOT saved by works, but by grace alone. My phrasing in that previous post might have been easy to misunderstand.

Peace

 

[Mess]

Oh yes, that is just why works come from the heart, once we are born again. They come from the change of heart that produces love, and thus a caring for others, which then leads to works

And I can also agree with you on getting rewards for the works you do, whereever your heart is.

Anyway glad I misunderstood

 

[MissElizabeth]

"Where have all the ladies gone with ribbons in their hair, Where are all the gentlemen, did they simlpy disappear". lol! Sorry, just a song I heard once!

 

[Fire for God]

Glad we agree

Btw, Ms Elizabeth, were you referring to the song 'Where have all the flowers gone?'

YouTube - The Kingston Trio - Where have all the flowers gone?

 

[Kevin_Wright]

<----------- Good man sometimes

 

[ponderingnwandering]

Sometimes i ask if they'res a good woman still available out there, but obviously me and her are so busy asking we fail to look at each other.

As far as immaturity of the youth now.....yeah its true, at least where i live. I know a few good people my age, but not really any outside of church. It's kind of disheartening. I'm a pretty backwards guy as is, makes it that much harder to have a group to hang out with.

 

[MissElizabeth]

Glad we agree

Btw, Ms Elizabeth, were you referring to the song 'Where have all the flowers gone?'

Haha no, its not the same, but it might have been inspired by it.

 

[Fire for God]

Couldn't seem to find that song anywhere

 

[Cody2]

Romans 3:12 "They are all gone out of the way, they are together become unprofitable; there is none that doeth good, no, not one." KJV

Nope lol

 

[MissElizabeth]

lol! Naa, you won't find it on youtube or anywhere. A guy i know came up with the song and did a little recording. Its a funny song, but it has a truth to it too!

 

[Fire for God]

How mean of you.

You made a reference to something exclusive.

 

[volite27]

Maybe it's me. I am fully willing to admit that there is something wrong with my faith, but the only good guys I know who can also relate enough to actually be able to support me aren't Christian; unless they have been through a loooooot as a non-Christian and fully, throughly converted in their heart. And as far as I can tell, that kind of thing doesn't happen until a bit later in life.

 

[Trashionista]

Sometimes one must also look at themselves. Is there a reason one is not attracting the good men out there? Not putting themselves out there?

Also. Josh Groban and Shemar Moore? (No clue who this Moore character is.) These are celebrities, I'm presuming - and celebrities are not divided so easily between the douchey Spencer Pratt and the likeable Smiling Bob's. If there is anything we should've learned from the whole Tiger Woods scandal, it is that PR rep created media personalities are not what they seem.

 

[RedLioness]

I don't know about you, but it seems to me like finding a good man is becoming harder and harder to come by. My name is Elle and I am 23, i know this seems silly but i want to believe in fairy tales again.

I want to enjoy being single, but long to have a boyfriend. I look to guys like Josh Groban and Shemar Moore and think, "Why are the good guys so out of reach". I mean, am i alone in this or what?

I am kind of wanting to know this too. I've been wanting to get a man, a really good man (now if only i could get mom and dad to leave so we could have fun and play together).

 

[PhantomTorment]

I don't know about you, but it seems to me like finding a good man is becoming harder and harder to come by. My name is Elle and I am 23, i know this seems silly but i want to believe in fairy tales again.

I want to enjoy being single, but long to have a boyfriend. I look to guys like Josh Groban and Shemar Moore and think, "Why are the good guys so out of reach". I mean, am i alone in this or what?

A lot of it has to do with being in the right circles. While it seems good guys (and gals for that matter) are difficult to find...it can be done. I've been extremely blessed to be surrounded by several very Godly men my age. All of which are single, except now for myself. Honestly I wonder sometimes how a couple of them are still single since they're such great guys, though I know a lot of it has to do with the fact that they're simply patiently waiting for God to show them the right woman.

 

[Rose of Eden]

A lot of it has to do with being in the right circles. While it seems good guys (and gals for that matter) are difficult to find...it can be done. I've been extremely blessed to be surrounded by several very Godly men my age. All of which are single, except now for myself. Honestly I wonder sometimes how a couple of them are still single since they're such great guys, though I know a lot of it has to do with the fact that they're simply patiently waiting for God to show them the right woman.

I know exactly how the OP feels. While your post was very encouraging, Phantom, as a reminder that good Christian men do exist, I think the problem is just like you said: being in the rights circles. But how does one find these "right circles"? What does one do when the region they live in doesn't even have a lot of young adults to begin with (and even fewer, if any, Christian young adults)? What does one do when they are the only person between 18 and 35 in just about every single church they walk into?

I try to trust God and His timing, but it's not always easy. I know that I probably won't be in a position where I can move and have time to pursue romantic relationships any time in the near future; by the time I do, I may be considered "too old" lol! I'm already facing pressure from family members (who are Christians) to simply marry any half-decent man, whether he's a Christian or not, so that I don't end up alone for the rest of my life. I am slowly beginning to force myself to face the real possibility that I may never marry.

I don't mean to rant or be negative. I'm just really wanting to know: How can someone find these "right circles"? And how can someone become okay with the prospect of never marrying anyone?

 

[avi8tor]

I know exactly how the OP feels. While your post was very encouraging, Phantom, as a reminder that good Christian men do exist, I think the problem is just like you said: being in the rights circles. But how does one find these "right circles"? What does one do when the region they live in doesn't even have a lot of young adults to begin with (and even fewer, if any, Christian young adults)? What does one do when they are the only person between 18 and 35 in just about every single church they walk into?

I try to trust God and His timing, but it's not always easy. I know that I probably won't be in a position where I can move and have time to pursue romantic relationships any time in the near future; by the time I do, I may be considered "too old" lol! I'm already facing pressure from family members (who are Christians) to simply marry any half-decent man, whether he's a Christian or not, so that I don't end up alone for the rest of my life. I am slowly beginning to force myself to face the real possibility that I may never marry.

I don't mean to rant or be negative. I'm just really wanting to know: How can someone find these "right circles"? And how can someone become okay with the prospect of never marrying anyone?

I used to be in your position and the best thing to do is get out of BFE and move to an area where there are more people your age like a larger city. Trust me you'll find cities are more single friendly for young adults.

 

[Rose of Eden]

I used to be in your position and the best thing to do is get out of BFE and move to an area where there are more people your age like a larger city. Trust me you'll find cities are more single friendly for young adults.

I know lol! But moving to a big city just isn't feasible for me at the moment. It's just hard to stay positive when I think about these sort of things. It's easier to just not think about it.

 

[DeathMagus]

I don't mean to rant or be negative. I'm just really wanting to know: How can someone find these "right circles"? And how can someone become okay with the prospect of never marrying anyone?

If you're not finding the guy for you in your current circles, the first step is to recognize that, for one reason or another, you're not hanging out with the right people. This would seem rather obvious, but it's staggering how many people will keep rooting through essentially the same types of circles that have turned up nothing in the past simply because they assume that those circles are "where the good ones are."

Someone in that situation needs to throw out their presuppositions of where the good men are. If you've been through the churches and the good men aren't there, then the good men aren't in the churches. Your options at that point are either to pretend that good men don't exist at all (unlikely), or to look in other places and circles, even ones that don't seem likely upfront. Maybe the right guy for you spends most of his time in a tattoo parlor or a TV station.

 

[FirefighterForChrist]

I seem to be finding myself faced with the same problem involving ladies. Going in to my first year of college I was faced with nothing but impure girls that cared nothing about me spiritually or emotionally. However I've held on to my faith and have chosen to stay away from those women, and hold out for that one girl that I know is right for me.