Antisexuality

[dcprogrammer]

Hello,

Before I start ranting about my beliefs, I'm just going to say I'm a very odd person in the eyes of many but I feel i must share my opinions on sexuality.

When I was 13-15 and started dealing with puberty I've always felt something in me that just made me hate sex and mostly everything about it. I have of course "fell in love" with a few girls but I've never had a girlfriend. I used to (and still do, sometimes) fantasize about girls but when it came to actually thinking about engaging in any kind of sex I just freeze up with fear. I've always wanted to be pure like Jesus was and I feel that if I have sex I will feel dirty and never be the same. I also fear it because I really don't want to dedicate my life to anybody other than God himself. If someone asks for my "sexuality" I really don't like answering that question. And I also tend to get angry when someone tells me to "Grow up and get a girlfriend" or something along that line. And both of my best friends have girlfriends but I have no intention of "keeping up with them". I started researching on the internet and came across "Antisexual" and thought there just might be people out there who are like me. I know sex is a gift from God but I don't think I want it. Besides, Corinthians 7 states that it is better for a man not to touch a woman. If anybody else here are Antisexual, please post, It would make me a lot happier to see others that feel the same way I do. Thank you for reading my rant...

God bless

Peace

 

[Christian24]

I may not feel antisexual but maybe it's part of God's plan for you to be single. Theres nothing wrong with it . And to be honest with you , I feel a little jealous! Sometimes I just want to rip lust from my life. God Bless you and I hope you find the answers your looking for!

 

[intricatic]

I felt like you do when I was your age, it changed when I found that it was the world I was rejecting; not my sexuality.

 

[Cappadocian]

For the sake of a potential mate in the future, please make sure you share these attitudes with her. There are plenty of women who like the masculine distinctives of high sexual interest, aggressiveness and virility.

 

[AnarKiss]

If anybody else here are Antisexual, please post, It would make me a lot happier to see others that feel the same way I do. Thank you for reading my rant...

I can understand some of what you are saying. And I think that Christian tradition has much to answer for in making sex something to be fearful or ashamed of.

Whatever your sexual orientation, and no matter whether you will have a lifelong partner, many or none. Sexuality is a part of you - and needs acceptance and expression (appropriately of course). What that means is different for everyone. But I would encourage to you see your sexuality as an essential part of who you are and try to embrace it and find expression.

Sex has been a no-go topic in churches and traditional christianity for many years now and it certainly won't change overnight. But it is ever so important for us to be engaging actively with discussions on sexuality - particularly in relation to society generally.

Sadly, societal sexual discussion has retreated to focussing on people as sexual objects. It is time to get our of these primitive ideas and be willing to tackle the real questions.