Another Let Down :(

[jess9450]

ahh well, I checked the church website and the young adults group won't be meeting until jan 13th. I guess it gives me more time to pray about it, but also seek out other ways to meet people

 

[redeemedbygrace24]

Jess im so excited for you. I know you will meet good people soon. Keep your eyes and ears open

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

ahh well, I checked the church website and the young adults group won't be meeting until jan 13th. I guess it gives me more time to pray about it, but also seek out other ways to meet people

Good for you girl! I really hope you enjoy it.

 

[jess9450]

Offside question:
has anyone ever felt "rushed" to meet someone?

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

Offside question:
has anyone ever felt "rushed" to meet someone?

Yes, I have. The older I get the worse it gets.

I just think of it this way. I can't hurry God up. I can't make finding someone happen any quicker.(at least the right one) It's in God's hands and His timing. Not my own. It's something I have to remind myself of daily.

 

[jess9450]

Yes, I have. The older I get the worse it gets.

I just think of it this way. I can't hurry God up. I can't make finding someone happen any quicker.(at least the right one) It's in God's hands and His timing. Not my own. It's something I have to remind myself of daily.

Amen to that, sister.

It's funny, I was chatting to a good friend of mine about this, and she basically said the same kind of thing. It will happen when you least expect it, but it can only have a chance to happen if you become part of a community...nobody can find you if you keep to yourself all the time, y'know? At first this seemed kind of harsh to hear, but actually it makes so much sense!
I find that good things happen when you aren't looking for them, and aren't focused on making something happen.
(We are still young ladies, and God has someone out there for each of us!!)

 

[PetLuv]

Offside question:
has anyone ever felt "rushed" to meet someone?

Yes, but not in many years have I felt that way.

 

[jellyb]

I know how you feel. Sometimes I get lonely and just want a husband, but then I start to think that if we were to meet right now, I would be so nervous/afraid that I would change my mind. ahhh...I guess that means I'm not ready

 

[redeemedbygrace24]

I feel rushed to meet my Husband, but the Lord has asked me to relinquish control of timing. I thought I was ready, but he's still preparing me. It hurts sometimes, but I will trust him

 

[jess9450]

I know, right? This can be so painful if you are really longing for it, and yet God says "you're not ready"
But I think as Christians we can also take comfort in the fact that He is preparing us for something even greater than we thought we would have. Even though the guy you used to like seemed like he'd be "the one", God has someone else in mind for you, and someone who will compliment you in every way.

Sorry if I'm sounding too preachy...I just am getting these feelings from God and I want to share these positive words of encouragement!

 

[mandelduke]

I'm normally not the type to make depressing messages, but I'm feeling really sad right now. Last year, I met three guys of them two seemed really promising because I feel that the Lord has been preparing me to meet my Husband.

The desire to love and be married has never been so strong on my heart. Briefly, I recently met a guy (the third guy) who lives out of state, everything went so fast and we were discussing marriage even. I'm not the kind of person who likes long distance but I figured that I could sacrifice for the sake of seeing where we could go. I prayed about it and everything.

Long story short, he told me tonight that he can't deal with the long distance which before he told me that we could make it work and to have faith. I told him that I wish him the best but inside I am really hurting. I'm tired of being let down, and I feel betrayed.

I'm currently reading scriptures on this, but I feel so weary. I know the Lord has a special guy for me, but it's taking me many heartbreaks before I meet him

Any prayers or encouraging words are appreciated. I feel so numb

Oh I’m so sorry the Lord has a special man for you, you will see, and then you will forget your heartache. I went 47 years and three bad marriages before I met my special woman, but now I am so happy so thankful. I will be praying for you!

 

[redeemedbygrace24]

Thanks Mandel, your kind words mean a lot

 

[redeemedbygrace24]

Wow Jess your word is amazing. I feel that God is speaking to me through you! God Bless Your Soul

 

[PeculiarTreasure]

Amen to that, sister.

It's funny, I was chatting to a good friend of mine about this, and she basically said the same kind of thing. It will happen when you least expect it, but it can only have a chance to happen if you become part of a community...nobody can find you if you keep to yourself all the time, y'know? At first this seemed kind of harsh to hear, but actually it makes so much sense!
I find that good things happen when you aren't looking for them, and aren't focused on making something happen.
(We are still young ladies, and God has someone out there for each of us!!)

I think that's a huge part of my problem. Just keeping to myself and not getting out there. I think in a way I've been so used to being alone that I literally have to force myself to get out and do stuff. It's tough.

 

[jess9450]

I think that's a huge part of my problem. Just keeping to myself and not getting out there. I think in a way I've been so used to being alone that I literally have to force myself to get out and do stuff. It's tough.

It is. It is always hard to do something new that forces you out of your comfort zone. It may not happen right away, but gradually you'll feel more comfortable in talking and spending time with others.

This is as much a reminder to myself as it is an encouragement to you I'm realizing that I've got to put myself out there more often.

 

[redeemedbygrace24]

Jess it will come naturally and it will be fun

 

[OldTimesCruelty]

I think that's a huge part of my problem. Just keeping to myself and not getting out there. I think in a way I've been so used to being alone that I literally have to force myself to get out and do stuff. It's tough.

Same here, though for myself it has not been due to a lack of will. I've been looking for things I could get involved in around where I live but there is practically nothing at all I'd be interested in... I really want to cause I'm sick of never having anyone to talk to or do things with, I have no friends and no opportunities to make any friends, and it's been this way pretty much the entire time since I graduated high school back in 2004...

 

[redblue22]

I put out there that I want friends shamelessly. at church I'm just like open about being there to meet friends. friends last a while. then they go, some do, and that's ok. so far some are still there. most of family has lasted. friends don't solve my problems, they can't, and I don't expect them to. maybe that's a bit too much to explain. I think those of us who want friends will find them. and friends are better than having lots of money and toys. so, I feel your desire. I might not fit your personality, but I'd be up for coffee down the street. but that is it, we really want someone who is like ourselves too. I think that is good to hope for. to be known, understood, accepted, trusted, valued, wanted, loved. it is a lot to hope for, but I hear your words and know I'm not alone.

 

[jess9450]

Sooo, I totally chickened out from going to that young adults group tonight. My head just wasn't in the right place all day today, and I didn't want their first impression of me to be some angry, sullen girl in the back.

Here's hoping next week is better!

 

[redeemedbygrace24]

I called him tonight, and it was pretty much confirmed that he's not the guy for me. I know this is happening for a reason. I look forward to my future husband. Those who weep now will laugh later