Another Let Down :(

[redeemedbygrace24]

I'm normally not the type to make depressing messages, but I'm feeling really sad right now. Last year, I met three guys of them two seemed really promising because I feel that the Lord has been preparing me to meet my Husband.

The desire to love and be married has never been so strong on my heart. Briefly, I recently met a guy (the third guy) who lives out of state, everything went so fast and we were discussing marriage even. I'm not the kind of person who likes long distance but I figured that I could sacrifice for the sake of seeing where we could go. I prayed about it and everything.

Long story short, he told me tonight that he can't deal with the long distance which before he told me that we could make it work and to have faith. I told him that I wish him the best but inside I am really hurting. I'm tired of being let down, and I feel betrayed.

I'm currently reading scriptures on this, but I feel so weary. I know the Lord has a special guy for me, but it's taking me many heartbreaks before I meet him

Any prayers or encouraging words are appreciated. I feel so numb

 

[wannaberocker]

Sorry to hear it turned out that way. But only God knows what your future holds, so trust in him and know that he is your strength.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

You and me both, people suck but, just get up and do it all over again. Life always has something better in store gotta deal with the liars and thieves before you can reach the quality people.

 

[ks777]

Why don't you move, presuming you both like each other.

 

[PetLuv]

It is horrible to be hurt.

I feel like a recording because of saying this so much lately, but it is something I really have to believe right now:
Everything bad can make us stronger if we believe it will. We can't always see the reason for bad things and hurt at the time but in time you will be able to look back and see something good from it, so long as you actually look for the good.

 

[Jupiter Drops]

Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest.

Matt 11:28

It's okay to cry and tell Jesus about it through prayers.
Bless your soul.

 

[redeemedbygrace24]

Thanks everyone, I just wanted him to be the ONE. I trust in the Lord, and I know that he knows what's best for me. I don't want to harbor any bitterness towards him, but I feel that he's been playing games with my heart by making me think that we could really work. It sucks because I hate feeling like this

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Yeppers, feeling like somebody is the person you can trust only to find out that they aren't sucks, doesn't it?

God is great and does everything for a reason

Grace and peace be upon you.

 

[Rose of Eden]

I'm normally not the type to make depressing messages, but I'm feeling really sad right now. Last year, I met three guys of them two seemed really promising because I feel that the Lord has been preparing me to meet my Husband.

The desire to love and be married has never been so strong on my heart. Briefly, I recently met a guy (the third guy) who lives out of state, everything went so fast and we were discussing marriage even. I'm not the kind of person who likes long distance but I figured that I could sacrifice for the sake of seeing where we could go. I prayed about it and everything.

Long story short, he told me tonight that he can't deal with the long distance which before he told me that we could make it work and to have faith. I told him that I wish him the best but inside I am really hurting. I'm tired of being let down, and I feel betrayed.

I'm currently reading scriptures on this, but I feel so weary. I know the Lord has a special guy for me, but it's taking me many heartbreaks before I meet him

Any prayers or encouraging words are appreciated. I feel so numb

Girl, I feel your pain completely! I'm in a very similar boat! Try your hardest not to lose hope! Trust in God, hang on to His words and promises! It will take time and depending on God and trusting Him completely, but He will take you through it!

PM me if you ever want to talk or even just vent!

 

[Reanbell]

Focus less on what you want and more on abiding in the will of God. God wants to use you to spread his message to the world. Now's not the time to focus upon earthly things of little value. This is a lesson I am being forced to learn and accept too.

Look at the way Job put it, "Though he slay me, yet will I trust him." Trust God even when he is the one keeping you single for his purposes. Trust God and follow him even if he does not give you what you think you need or want. Trust God even when things look bleak and there is no possible way you'll get what you want. Because it's not about you.

 

[redeemedbygrace24]

Wow you all are awesome. Thanks for encouragement. Everywhere I go I see couples and babies. Am I wrong for wanting the same? God's love is more than enough to sustain me, but why do I long for human compassion?

I know that I should seek first the Kingdom of God, but I also know that God will fulfill his promises for our lives. Spreading the good news is so important to me, and God will always be number one in my life.

Huge Sigh...

@ Nom, you're right things do happen for a reason, I'm learning that closed doors aren't always missed opportunities.

@ Rose, I will definitely take you up on your offer

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Indeed, everything under the sun has a purpose; be it to suffocate or enlighten, all of which is for His Glory. There is a time for all things...

 

[Ghazkhull]

Cheer up, the best years of your life are ahead of you.

just a little advice: next time you consider a long distance relationship, before considering marriage and all that, always discuss with your partner the willingness to relocate, how open are either you or him to relocate.

long distance relationships can work, but it takes 2 mature individuals to make it work.

Cheers, Gbu!

 

[Zach91]

I have struggled with feelings like this myself. I am sorry to hear that you are going through this.

Here are a couple of verses that help me when I feel lonely or hopeless.

Matthew 6:33-
But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. (KJV)

Jeremiah 29:11-
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (NIV)

Matthew 7:9-11-
“Which of you, if your son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10. Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11. If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him! (NIV)

I know it's hard waiting and suffering set backs, but the Lord loves you and will give you the desires of your heart if you seek him.

 

[redeemedbygrace24]

Thanks Zach, the scriptures are very encouraging, also I feel that I was ready to make it work. I just figured if we trusted in God that it would fall in place. However, he changed his mind before any further action could take place

 

[Reanbell]

Everywhere I go I see couples and babies. Am I wrong for wanting the same? God's love is more than enough to sustain me, but why do I long for human compassion?

I know that I should seek first the Kingdom of God, but I also know that God will fulfill his promises for our lives. Spreading the good news is so important to me, and God will always be number one in my life.

If your desire is greater than your desire for Jesus, then yes it is wrong. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this is what the bible says. If you're not content single, you'll never be content married.

Look at me, I used to want to get married, but I'm getting older and life has passed me by. The more time passes, the less chance it will ever happen. Why God chooses to do this to some people, I'm not sure, but who are we to challenge God?

If God is number one and all you need, you won't get bummed out over being alone. You have Jesus. He is enough.

 

[redeemedbygrace24]

Thanks you're right. Jesus is enough for me. I will pray for grace and strength to get through feelings of loneliness and rejection. I have no problem being single, but then I encounter these let downs and I feel so dumb for getting excited at the prospect of LOVE

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Yahweh will make it happen if it should be, keep your eyes upon Yeshua and Yahweh.

 

[Zach91]

If your desire is greater than your desire for Jesus, then yes it is wrong. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this is what the bible says. If you're not content single, you'll never be content married.

Look at me, I used to want to get married, but I'm getting older and life has passed me by. The more time passes, the less chance it will ever happen. Why God chooses to do this to some people, I'm not sure, but who are we to challenge God?

If God is number one and all you need, you won't get bummed out over being alone. You have Jesus. He is enough.

I agree with you that we should seek God first and find our fulfilment in him. However, God himself said that it is not good for man to be alone. That is why he created Adam a help-mate.

God gives men and women a natural desire to be together and form families. It is true that some people are called to be celibate, but they are an extreme minority. God would never force celibacy on someone. Paul even said that it is better to marry than to burn with passion; despite the fact that he was celibate, and advocated celibacy.

If a person seeks God first and still desires to be married, than the desire is most likely God-given.

 

[redeemedbygrace24]

Someone told me that God would not rob me of the chance of being married while here on earth and I believe her. I know someday I will find a Husband. Until then, I will trust in the Lord and seek to do his will all the days of my life

Psalm 84:11

For the LORD God is a sun and shield; the LORD bestows favor and honor; no good thing does he withhold from those whose walk is blameless.