Angry Husband - I need advice please

[Brianlear]

You said you have unresolved mental health issues, which you admit are having serious detrimental effects on your marriage. You said your "life is controlled" by social anxiety. I think its time to work on those things, and let him go at his own pace. Maybe don't worry about him for a bit and work on yourself. How can God help you overcome your fears and insecurities? That to me would be the essential issue here. What are you afraid of on a daily basis? How does it impact your life?

 

[JAMIE MCNEILL]

Hi everyone,

I am new to this website and it is my first time posting.

I need some advice on my marriage.

We are both saved, but my husband is backsliding...we belonged to a small congregation that went through a hard time finding a pastor, we had multiple missionary pastors. Eventually, the Church closed down, since then we both backslid, especially my husband. We have been married two years and it's been tough, I struggle with social anxiety, OCD and I also have major trust issues. which I am trying to work on, because of this toxic combination my husband resents me and is constantly angry due to all the fights, insecurities and lack of a normal social life. It has taken a toll on him and i completely understand. I would like to overcome my trust issues and anxiety problems I just don't know how?

How do I deal every day with an angry husband, who snaps at me and resents me all the time even when I try to be kind and gentle? it's difficult to be the gentle one when he just snaps at me, is it possible for me to change things around? I would also like everyone to please pray for my OCD, anxiety and lack of trust. I would like to not be controlled by my social anxiety that prevents me from leading a normal life with my husband.

Is there hope for us, will he ever love me again? I would also like to know if a separation is a good idea?

Thank you very much

Hi. Let's start with this part: "especially my husband." You wrote this after saying you are trying to work on yourself. All you can and need to do is work on "self". No one and I mean no one can work on anyone except "self". Prayer helps, but you must do the work. Just saying I am working is [not] work. Fighting is not work. Arguing is not work. Doing the same thing is not work. Actually doing the same thing over and over is called insanity. People think church is the cure and church is perfect. Wrong!!! You sound like you need medical attention (ie OCD) you can't move forward with this on your plate.