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...an observation...

Im_A

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It's true. I get creeped out when a guy tries to 'befriend' me and it's just sheer overkill. And don't come off too needy or mushy. :sick:
Sometimes I wonder if the female thinks we're interested in them simply because we befriend them so that's why they weird out. I only say that because I don't know why it has to be assumed that because we befriend someone that means we're interested in them.

Plus I find it funny. Girls don't want to be befriended but they also want to be looked at in something more than the physical, or like a 'catch'. Makes me chuckle tho :p :D
 
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IMHO the "friendzone" is a Seinfieldian urban myth that way too many guys obsess over :p

if a guy befriends me in order to try for something more, its very obvious and a real turn-off. If a guy befriends me because he wants to know me and have an actual friendship regardless of whether or not it goes anywhere then he actually has a much better chance because the relationship is much more relaxed and it allows me to see who he really is and if a romantic relationship is actually something i'd want with him. If we're not a good match romantically then yes we'll stay friends. but that doesn't mean its because some friendship line has been crossed :p
 
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I have been friendzoned... BUT let me tell you that it was only because she was not attracted to me. That is what friendzone really consists of. She likes your personality but she just isn't attracted to you.

Best option is to not worry about it. I mean, who doesn't want to be friends with an attractive lady? Her and I would go out and pretend to be dating just so that guys wouldn't hit on her when we went out to bars and clubs. It was sort of fun.

Anyway, if you truly want to avoid the friendzone then just tell her the truth.

"Hi. You are very beautiful and I would love to meet you for coffee, dinner, or a bit of casual sex sometime."

:)
 
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Inkachu

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The term "friendzoned" - to me anyway - is nothing more than an insult to friendship and a reason for people (mostly guys) to whine like big babies. Friends are a tremendous blessing. If you're romantically interested, don't settle for being friends, move on and spare yourself the drama. If you're genuinely making a new friend, great, enjoy your new friend. Quit putting up with the "friendzone" mentality and you won't have to complain about it anymore.

That being said, I have lots of guy friends and I love em just for what they are; friends who are male. I wouldn't date/marry them because for various reasons we aren't compatible.

Guys here that I consider friends and nothing else:

Jerimi
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Awesome dudes.
 
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Inkachu

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Anyway, if you truly want to avoid the friendzone then just tell her the truth.

"Hi. You are very beautiful and I would love to meet you for coffee, dinner, or a bit of casual sex sometime."

:)

That's a great way to avoid not only the Friendzone, but any interaction with decent women whatsoever.
 
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Jerimi

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That's a great way to avoid not only the Friendzone, but any interaction with decent women whatsoever.

That is actually my most effective line.

Said in the right way, they know you are joking about the casual sex part so they usually take dinner. LoL.

Of course, sometimes they go for the casual sex and I have to hurt their feelings and let them know I was joking. Oh well... You win some, you lose some.
 
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