I just signed up for eharmony,I know what your thinking,I must be really desperate and lonely,but the truth is I'm really not,I just wanted to see if I could find someone on there,I knew I was ugly,but dame,am I really that ugly to where no guys like me on there?And I know that I just got started on there,but the one guy that looked at my profile could have at least sent me a message back to me,and replied back to me.
Many have told me they "felt" I wasn't their type.
So I was on one of those sites. Single guy, age 41.
I'm going to speak for myself, and maybe I'm alone on this....
If I am not attracted to the photo, then I am not going to look at the profile.
If I look at your profile, then your attractiveness is not a problem. You said a guy was looking at your profile, so perhaps that isn't the issue.
Once I look at the profile, I may see something that I decide I am not interested in.
That doesn't mean you are ugly.
Let me take a mythical example. Beautiful woman, turns out she is Catholic. I am not Catholic. I won't be going to a Catholic church, nor any of my family. Catholic families tend to want their sons and daughters to marry other Catholics as well, so high chances of in-law problems.
I do not hate Catholics. But I also am not going to marry a Catholic, and fight over which church our children go to. It is better for both of us, that she finds another Catholic man to marry, rather than me.
So beautiful Catholic women, I click on her profile, I chose to not pursue. She sends me a message. Am I going to reply back? No. What am I going to say? "Sorry not interested in Catholics". That's terrible and rude, and implies I have something personally against Catholics, when I don't.
So just because I look at your profile, and choose to not pursue communication with you, does not mean that I found you ugly or hideous.
In fact, there might be absolutely nothing wrong whatsoever, except that you are too far away. I'm in Ohio. If you are located in California, even if you are most beautiful women on there, I'm not going to pursue, because you are in California. I don't have the money to travel there, no matter how cute you are.
Lastly, this is all true of clicking the like button. I saw numerous women that were very attractive, and I clicked 'like' on none of them that I was not interested in pursuing a relationship with. I will not like your photo, unless I intend to pursue.
Again, doesn't mean you are ugly.
As a side note: Get the best photo you can. Proper lighting is the biggest flaw in profile photos. You will naturally look many times better just by walking outside on a sunny day, than in a badly lit room.