Am I really that ugly?

[sunshine100]

I just signed up for eharmony,I know what your thinking,I must be really desperate and lonely,but the truth is I'm really not,I just wanted to see if I could find someone on there,I knew I was ugly,but dame,am I really that ugly to where no guys like me on there?And I know that I just got started on there,but the one guy that looked at my profile could have at least sent me a message back to me,and replied back to me.

 

[Sam91]

If you set up profile information maybe it is that. So, maybe it is a good thing they didn't contact you.

Draw close to Him who is our Father who loves us. You were created the way He created you, and He is perfect. Don't think on your beauty as a measure of self worth. You are a child of the Living God, you have Him inside of you. Rest in Him sister ♡

 

[sunshine100]

If you set up profile information maybe it is that. So, maybe it is a good thing they didn't contact you.

Draw close to Him who is our Father who loves us. You were created the way He created you, and He is perfect. Don't think on your beauty as a measure of self worth. You are a child of the Living God, you have Him inside of you. Rest in Him sister ♡

no,I'm ugly and no guy wants to be with me because they think I'm ugly.

 

[John Bowen]

How I see it " Seek first the kingdom of God and ALL things will be add unto you " If you are doing that you would never think you were ugly you would see yourself as God sees you beautiful cause God created you and "Saw that it was good " and then people will see your Sunshine that is beaming through you its is very attractive . Merry Christmas .

 

[Go Braves]

Do folks still use eharmony nowadays? I think maybe that could be the problem. You're not ugly, OP.

 

[LaSorcia]

I think a lot of men might find the wings intimidating.

 

[dzheremi]

You might regret seeking romantic attention if you start getting it on platforms like that, OP. Not speaking from experience here, but I know several people (women and men, but mostly women for some reason) who have used similar dating sites and it hasn't really led to much except for one abusive relationship and a lot of mediocre first dates. You can probably do better than that, no matter what you look like.

 

[ilovejcsog]

no,I'm ugly and no guy wants to be with me because they think I'm ugly.

inward feelings of oneself are generated outward. If you keep telling yourself you are ugly you will certainly believe that and you may convince everyone around you of it. Speak and think positive of yourself, God does. Remember the old saying. Beauty is only skin deep.

 

[Apologetic_Warrior]

no,I'm ugly and no guy wants to be with me because they think I'm ugly.

Whoever the lady is in your profile avatar, is anything but ugly, more like intimidating. All the wrong dudes are turned off by the slightest hint of purity, maybe God will spare you from relationships that are more like Hell on earth rather than Heaven on earth. What I mean is how a relationship can feel emotionally. I think most relationships if not nearly all, are a mix of the two.

 

[Lost4words]

I always get told that i look like a dog!

 

[dzheremi]

Do they mean the corgi from your avatar? Cos that corgi is adorable. Take it as a compliment.

 

[YesMe]

People would never call themselves ugly if this society would not be so obsessed with outer appearance.... Outer beauty is a construct of this evil society to create a division between people.

Isaiah 53:2 For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant, and as a root out of a dry ground: he hath no form nor comeliness; and when we shall see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him.

That's the outer description of Jesus and yet He was/is one of the most beautiful man who ever walked down this Earth.There's no one greater than Him, no one, though His outer appearance "had no beauty that we should desire him".

I know that deep down within yourself you don't really believe that you are ugly and you really want to break free from this "standard" of beauty, you want to stop caring about such things because you know the truth is totally different, you are truly beautiful.I don't have to see you to know... Now, one bit of advice, if I may, never seek acceptance from the outside world.. why? Because true happiness needs nothing, you are happy and that is it, but when you make your happiness dependent on the outside things, you may get the opposite thing, sadness.

 

[SkyWriting]

I just signed up for eharmony,I know what your thinking,I must be really desperate and lonely,but the truth is I'm really not,I just wanted to see if I could find someone on there,I knew I was ugly,but dame,am I really that ugly to where no guys like me on there?And I know that I just got started on there,but the one guy that looked at my profile could have at least sent me a message back to me,and replied back to me.

I have always had the impression that Tinder is based on looks, but eharmony provides a non visual matching system. But I have no idea.

No matter. Any system takes some time to get results worth anything.

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

You should post a picture on here. Though to be honest there is no such thing as ugly. I do realize people will still judge and set some sort of imaginary standard but if someone doesn't see you for who you are as a person then they are they ugly ones.

I can also tell you EHarmony is full of shallow christians. Most profiles have a mile long list of what they are looking for. Which is why they never find anyone because a perfect match for such a long list is impossible.

I never got any messages on it at all and while I am not "ugly" (by world standards) I am disabled which meant no one wanted to bother with me on there. Despite the fact I wasn't picky about anything aside from no smoking, no drinking and be a christian.

I'd try smaller sites for christian dating. The one I met my wife on is:
christiandatingforfree (dot) com

There are many christians of various ages, ethnicities, countries...etc. She messaged me in about a month of me creating my profile.

 

[Lost4words]

Couple of sites i tried were full of 'rough' 'rough' 'rrrrrrough', barking mad dogs!

 

[Radagast]

Though to be honest there is no such thing as ugly.

There are no ugly people, although there are ugly photographs.

 

[Tolworth John]

no,I'm ugly and no guy wants to be with me because they think I'm ugly.

Hopefully you are just looking for reasurance.

 

[sunshine100]

You should post a picture on here. Though to be honest there is no such thing as ugly. I do realize people will still judge and set some sort of imaginary standard but if someone doesn't see you for who you are as a person then they are they ugly ones.

I can also tell you EHarmony is full of shallow christians. Most profiles have a mile long list of what they are looking for. Which is why they never find anyone because a perfect match for such a long list is impossible.

I never got any messages on it at all and while I am not "ugly" (by world standards) I am disabled which meant no one wanted to bother with me on there. Despite the fact I wasn't picky about anything aside from no smoking, no drinking and be a christian.

I'd try smaller sites for christian dating. The one I met my wife on is:
christiandatingforfree (dot) com
ok thank you for that advice,is that site free?Or do you have to pay for it?

There are many christians of various ages, ethnicities, countries...etc. She messaged me in about a month of me creating my profile.

 

[sunshine100]

If you set up profile information maybe it is that. So, maybe it is a good thing they didn't contact you.

Draw close to Him who is our Father who loves us. You were created the way He created you, and He is perfect. Don't think on your beauty as a measure of self worth. You are a child of the Living God, you have Him inside of you. Rest in Him sister ♡

I think that the guys think that I am asking for too much,in my profile,I would start the relationship off slow of course,but I think that is the problem,is my profile.

 

[LovebirdsFlying]

Thread title and OP sounds like depression talking. Believe me, I speak that language fluently. It may be better to move this thread to the Depression forum and continue the discussion there.

You seem absolutely convinced that you're physically unattractive, and that this is the entire reason you're not finding anybody interested in dating you. No part of this is true! But when you're in a deep depression, or when you've perhaps been the target of emotional abuse, nothing anybody says can convince you it isn't true.