Am I experiencing lust, infatuation or real attraction?

[MARIAH36]

I'm experiencing a really deep sadness, as someone that I feel deeply for is no longer in my life. We did not have a romantic relationship officially, but it was very obvious that there was chemistry there.
I'm struggling now, to discern between whether my feelings are genuine or strictly physical. I feel as though they are genuine, because I miss even the thought of speaking to them. But what if it is just infatuation? I'm just confused. And I feel really sad, and i feel silly for feeling sad. Looking for advice on scriptures to read to help me overcome this, and to be able to discern between my emotions and my humanistic instincts.
Please pray for me, as I am very saddened and feel unmotivated, unhappy and empty.

 

[Desires Light]

I'm experiencing a really deep sadness, as someone that I feel deeply for is no longer in my life. We did not have a romantic relationship officially, but it was very obvious that there was chemistry there.
I'm struggling now, to discern between whether my feelings are genuine or strictly physical. I feel as though they are genuine, because I miss even the thought of speaking to them. But what if it is just infatuation? I'm just confused. And I feel really sad, and i feel silly for feeling sad. Looking for advice on scriptures to read to help me overcome this, and to be able to discern between my emotions and my humanistic instincts.
Please pray for me, as I am very saddened and feel unmotivated, unhappy and empty.

Feeling are feeling's, but to love someone is to know them.

 

[Saucy]

I think it would depend how long you knew this person and how close you were. It's normal to feel attraction really early and that's usually always infatuation. It doesn't really turn to love until later and you're in a capacity to serve them and be their best friend. If he's someone you just knew and now you miss that chemistry, it probably wasn't anything deep.

That doesn't mean it wasn't genuine attraction. That's how attractions start and there's nothing wrong with it. It always sucks building chemistry with someone and suddenly losing it.

I will certainly pray for you!

 

[Kevin Snow]

The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it? ~Jeremiah 17:9

God knows your heart. If you spend time with him, he will make things clear to you. But if you try to do it yourself then you will be tricked by your heart and you won't do what is right.

Spend time in the word both day and night as it tells us to:

This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success. ~Joshua 1:8

 

[salt-n-light]

I'm experiencing a really deep sadness, as someone that I feel deeply for is no longer in my life. We did not have a romantic relationship officially, but it was very obvious that there was chemistry there.
I'm struggling now, to discern between whether my feelings are genuine or strictly physical. I feel as though they are genuine, because I miss even the thought of speaking to them. But what if it is just infatuation? I'm just confused. And I feel really sad, and i feel silly for feeling sad. Looking for advice on scriptures to read to help me overcome this, and to be able to discern between my emotions and my humanistic instincts.
Please pray for me, as I am very saddened and feel unmotivated, unhappy and empty.

It's not about the matter of whether you did or did not feel that way, as oppose to how you choose to handle it in a wise way. To how much extent you like them I cannot say, but I cannot deny that you don't feel what you feel. So I think the first thing is to stop denying that you felt a certain way.

The second thing will be to lay out all the facts and events in your head (or to write them down helps too), and to them access if it makes sense to continue to feel what you're feeling towards them. If its a no, then take the third step and give it to God. Ask God what the appropriate way of relating to them. And read His scriptures and ask for guidance.

 

[carolina16]

I'm experiencing a really deep sadness, as someone that I feel deeply for is no longer in my life. We did not have a romantic relationship officially, but it was very obvious that there was chemistry there.
I'm struggling now, to discern between whether my feelings are genuine or strictly physical. I feel as though they are genuine, because I miss even the thought of speaking to them. But what if it is just infatuation? I'm just confused. And I feel really sad, and i feel silly for feeling sad. Looking for advice on scriptures to read to help me overcome this, and to be able to discern between my emotions and my humanistic instincts.
Please pray for me, as I am very saddened and feel unmotivated, unhappy and empty.

Stay with Christ in your thoughts.