am i allowed :eek:

[Athalia]

hee i haven't posted here before hmm *wonders if she is too young or something *

I had a good question but I forgot it

gimme a sec ..... it was a good un too.... dang.

lol

(it is late im tired so you'll have to bare with me I'm afraid)

oh i remember now, i was curious about what ya'll thought about relationships in which there was an age difference of lik 6 to ten years difference ?

 

[InnerPhyre]

At your age, I'm sorry to say that the difference is huge. When I was 18, I dated a 24 year old girl. It wasn't a problem at first, but by the time you hit 21, you're going to be a completely different person, since we grow up alot during those years. You will change alot in that time, while the older person remains the same. It's best not to get involved (in my opinion) in such a relationship.

 

[Athalia]

*for the record im not in one but all of my family says they can't see me with someone me own age *shrug*

 

[looksgood]

I am seeing someone 4 years younger. I think it depends on PERSONAL growth, not on the # of years. 12 years though would be a problem lol.

 

[~WildRoseCowgirl~]

I think it's ok if the guy is older than the girl..... My cousin married a guy that is almost exactly ten years older than her. But it is a proven fact that women mature faster then men, and when the guy is younger than the girl... its gotta be a girl that like immature guys, other than that he's mature for his age!

 

[remy]

I grew up with someone who is 21, fought in Iraq, came home and married someone who is 27 with kids of her own. I dont get it, but I guess war does that a person.

If they were at least 18, sure, but any younger and I'd probably began to think I had problems.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

I try to look at age differences by percentages. Because 5 years is nothing if you're 50, but it's a world of difference if you're 18 and the other person is five years older or younger.

 

[HeltonPrecision]

I belive it depends on the person I know plenty of girls my age or older that act way immature It all depends on there up bringing I tend to hang out with allot older crowd than myself but thats my up bringing I'm 26 and I'm a man so i act like a man It really depend on the two peopel I really belive!

 

[invisiblebabe]

You will change alot in that time, while the older person remains the same.

I would hope I continue to grow and develop throughout my life! I don't intend on staying the same at all


I think I get your original intent though.... those are more along the lines of the formative years, and a lot MORE changes during that time than any other time.

 

[Kepa]

*for the record im not in one but all of my family says they can't see me with someone me own age *shrug*

maybe they meant someone younger?

 

[Out of the Flames]

It is totally dependent on your personal maturity. My family and friends refer to me as 23 going on 30 because I don't have too terribly much in common with people my age. I already have my career well established and am quickly moving forward into related fields, so I don't often meet people my own age in a similar stage of life. I've dated men anywhere between 22 and 34, and I just don't have the same connection with the younger end of the spectrum, but so far, the 34 year old has been great.

It all depends on what life stage you're in.

 

[KeilCoppes]

From someone way up the age scale... eeh, get my cane and toddle out...

Actually, I was a lot older inside than everyone else around when I was your age, so I can empathise - and I think I'm pretty much the same person now I was then. But then I was a fairly serious young man, and these days those people seem rare.

When my parents got married, my dad was 24 and my mom was 19. They just celebrated their fortieth year of marriage and ministry together.

 

[waterbear]

There are two types of maturity:
1 - Used on the phrase "that was/is immature..." usually describes some approach/behavior that the one so judging finds disagreeable or childish. I'm not sure there is any correlation with this type of maturity and age.
2 - Mature as in "final state." E.g. a mature animal is usually one which has reached adulthood and is relatively unchanging in form. In the context of human relationships, maturity in this form would be a mature mind. I would consider a mature mind that which established values/approaches to life which will serve as a core value/outlook system for the person over the remaining portion of said person's life. When people reach this state varies, and the individual who has reached maturity won't know it until some time has passed since reasching that state and I'm not entirely sure anyone will know if the person is mature aside from the individual since behavior doesn't manifest the full-mind.

Concluding, I don't think age is a useful determinant of maturity in either sense of the word. Most people I know (myself included) appear to have reached maturity mid-teens or earlier, however I really can only know when I reached maturity, I can only make a guess on other people's maturity unless I ask.

 

[Iggster]

I was with someone who was 10 years older than I was. Age was not a factor. However, she found her dream job, which required her to travel Europe and Japan. And I was starting in my career. If none of the above occurred, I believe I'd be wed by now.

 

[Out of the Flames]

From someone way up the age scale... eeh, get my cane and toddle out...

Actually, I was a lot older inside than everyone else around when I was your age, so I can empathise - and I think I'm pretty much the same person now I was then. But then I was a fairly serious young man, and these days those people seem rare.

When my parents got married, my dad was 24 and my mom was 19. They just celebrated their fortieth year of marriage and ministry together.

Yeah, you've got one foot wedged in the grave pretty good... Well dig it out and come back to the land of the living. You're not dead yet.

When my mom and dad got married, my mom was just shy of 18 and my dad was 21. They'll have been together 25 years in April. So it is possible for a wide age span and a young marriage to work out. It's all a matter of maturity level.

 

[KeilCoppes]

Yeah, you've got one foot wedged in the grave pretty good... Well dig it out and come back to the land of the living. You're not dead yet.

(smile) I've always believed that you're as old as you are in your mind. My favorite adopted Italian uncle is a great example. Lou is still young at 68 and has a great sense of humor and an active life. My mind is somewhere around 26 these days. Happily my body is about there as well (it's a family blessing that we all look young). And I much enjoy thinking young - compared to God's wisdom I've barely started in life.

ps - no-one ever knew how old Chewbacca was - he had all that hair!

 

[Out of the Flames]

ps - no-one ever knew how old Chewbacca was - he had all that hair!

Are you trying to say that you're chewie's long lost cousin?

 

[Ginsu]

...so are you single, Athalia?

 

[remy]

Just thought I would add, my parents are a little over 4 years apart, married 29 years. Not that it's a determining factor.

 

[KeilCoppes]

Are you trying to say that you're chewie's long lost cousin?

Nope, I'm quite a bit shorter and much more human.

"I don't believe in all this hocus pocus, give me a good bible at my side anyday!"