Alone and in trouble

[unameduser]

"I think Im on my last thread". "Its a time bomb ready to go off." Someone pray for me. I dont what else I can do. Well this just a preface of what im about to talk about.

Ive had girlfriends in the past, but they all end up so short. Never saw a girl past 2 months! I realize I dont have it bad compared to people who are in thier 30's and never had thier first girfriend. But my story is different. (flashback to 5 years ago)

Just after the abusive step dad finally got kicked out of our house, I started to finally meet girls. Got my first gf in 2000. Went out for a week. Had 6 more by 2003. Those 6 relationships didnt go past a cummulative cycle of 5 months. Started to attend youth group haevily in 03. 7th gf really hurt me bad. Realized that I need to do this "accept him as your savior thing" And I even understood what I was doing.The very next day some girl out of nowhere wanted to meet me. She did not impress me at all I thought it was an "acceptance backfire" Like satan threw in a bad apple before Jesus could lift me up.

I prayed that I would find someone I would really like. No one answered. So i just settled with summer friends in 04. Dropped christianity from the program. Then meet a girl in early 05. Lasted 3 weeks. She hurt me way more than the 7th. I asked Christ back in a few months after this happened. Need money bad also. The money came, but no girl. Then dropped again. I realized this game of roller coaster chirstain is not what I intended to do. In March I decide a hott car is the answer. I figured, If I pray for a job, the car will come with that and then the girl will follow. So in May I asked christ again to be in my life. I got a job a week later.

Does it seem that god wants me to have all this money, which doesnt even buy you happiniess? It doesnt make sence to me. Id rather have no money and some that cares for me , than money and lonliness.

Anyways, I got the job, I got the car that could impress girls. But really the job and car failed. I dropped christianity again I was out of money. The job was scam. I am now so far into debt and w/o a mate. So In August of 2005 I said "thats it! Ill do whatever it takes lord. I dont care about girls right now, i just need a job to pay off my car." Days later I get a job inteview call and my mom sends me thousands of dollars. Wow. I knw the lord answered those prayers! So I work my butt off for months, hoping for a promotion so I wouldnt have to work night shifts anymore. The night shifts take me away from society. I cannot meet a girl or hang out with muh friends working these shifts. I couldnt even see a sunset more than once a week Thought I was doing the wrong thing for the Lord. But nonetheless it paid my bills. I lost christianity agian in October. But days later I got a 9th gf. She flooded me with corruption, lies, and games. She was a mental case from heck!

Case in point: Everytime I drop from the program, I get girlfriends, and thier not even christian! But when I ask for christ, all he gives me is "comfort money" with no girl to care for me.I would like a stunning gf that will last throught her last years of school and into adult hood so I can finally think marraige isnt a scary "getting old thing".

I am not getting younger. The longer we wait for this "the one" its just gonna be too late to even have one. I allready know what some will say in reguards to my topic. Like "well god loves you isnt that enough??" Thats wrong because your suppose to live an abundant life here on earth also. If we cant, we just might as well be sent to heaven the second we are born.

The Present Situation and Philosophy:
Im so lonely right now. No one likes my car. Im getting uglier by the month. Girls dont stare at me like they used to. Im getting old but my age preference hasnt changed. I dont want to be in my 30's asking out 16 year old chics becasue of my deprivation! (No arguing please about age differences, there are already threads about this). Thats why something needs to be done now, not later. I asked lord again on new years day because I thought I was gonna die of food poisoning. Im still in the game as im typing this. I could read the bible like i used to (4 pages a week avg) but the motivation isnt there. I felt If i picked up and read it would just be putting in "free labor". Of course feel free to post some verses here, ill read those in a heartbeat. I really need to see something change in my life, and im not talking about "years later" I will be too old to even be able to date. I need someone whos not married, still young and energetic like me. I need to grow out of this "young at heart stage" Im so young for my age I dont even mess with "women". It would be like dating my mom. eww. But anyways things are still bad. Im still in debt but have "stable support". I have garbage from months ago piled in my apartment, clothes havnt been washed for a while, this place is just filth becasue I cant be motivated to clean it. If I had a gf, she would tell me to wash the dishes or vacumm these popkorn kernals all over the computer area. When I had a gf I was highly motivated. I would spend more time with family, friends, do selfless acts(not being selfish). Why is god making me go this route? I work full time and then come home to filth? Is this what god wanted me to do? Live in filth, nobody to love? I havnt accomplished anything working full time and just going home and sleep and then work the next day. Theres more to life, but god isnt letting me have it

I really need a long term relationship to guide me through this horrible time. Pray for me tongiht please, becasue I cant pray alone and make it work.

 

[joesnow]

Feel for you mate, from reading your post, I would WITHOUT HESITATION say, look for a church going Mrs. These girls that have hurt you obviously have a different outlook on life, and i'm sure you know in your heart that this would be the right way to go. Read the threads on here and take advice from them. Trust in the Lord for your future. I know this is easy to say, but just a bit of faith in God will help you out, and he has promised that he has a plan for your life. Take care dude!

 

[covenantwmn]

Feel for you mate, from reading your post, I would WITHOUT HESITATION say, look for a church going Mrs. These girls that have hurt you obviously have a different outlook on life, and i'm sure you know in your heart that this would be the right way to go. Read the threads on here and take advice from them. Trust in the Lord for your future. I know this is easy to say, but just a bit of faith in God will help you out, and he has promised that he has a plan for your life. Take care dude!

Good advice, I pray you will give it a try. God bless.
in Him, Leslie

 

[~HopeFloats~]

When our lives are not going right the last thing we need is another person in our life to have to worry about.

Before you can give all to a relationship you have to be 100%..

My advice would be find a church, find a mentor and seek out a agency to find support for all you are dealing with.

I will keep you in my prayers but you can do it, it is just as easy to be miserable as it is happy.. it is teh same amount of work my friend.

 

[Katty]

"I think Im on my last thread". "Its a time bomb ready to go off." Someone pray for me. I dont what else I can do. Well this just a preface of what im about to talk about.

Ive had girlfriends in the past, but they all end up so short. Never saw a girl past 2 months! I realize I dont have it bad compared to people who are in thier 30's and never had thier first girfriend. But my story is different. (flashback to 5 years ago)

Just after the abusive step dad finally got kicked out of our house, I started to finally meet girls. Got my first gf in 2000. Went out for a week. Had 6 more by 2003. Those 6 relationships didnt go past a cummulative cycle of 5 months. Started to attend youth group haevily in 03. 7th gf really hurt me bad. Realized that I need to do this "accept him as your savior thing" And I even understood what I was doing.The very next day some girl out of nowhere wanted to meet me. She did not impress me at all I thought it was an "acceptance backfire" Like satan threw in a bad apple before Jesus could lift me up.

I prayed that I would find someone I would really like. No one answered. So i just settled with summer friends in 04. Dropped christianity from the program. Then meet a girl in early 05. Lasted 3 weeks. She hurt me way more than the 7th. I asked Christ back in a few months after this happened. Need money bad also. The money came, but no girl. Then dropped again. I realized this game of roller coaster chirstain is not what I intended to do. In March I decide a hott car is the answer. I figured, If I pray for a job, the car will come with that and then the girl will follow. So in May I asked christ again to be in my life. I got a job a week later.

Does it seem that god wants me to have all this money, which doesnt even buy you happiniess? It doesnt make sence to me. Id rather have no money and some that cares for me , than money and lonliness.

Anyways, I got the job, I got the car that could impress girls. But really the job and car failed. I dropped christianity again I was out of money. The job was scam. I am now so far into debt and w/o a mate. So In August of 2005 I said "thats it! Ill do whatever it takes lord. I dont care about girls right now, i just need a job to pay off my car." Days later I get a job inteview call and my mom sends me thousands of dollars. Wow. I knw the lord answered those prayers! So I work my butt off for months, hoping for a promotion so I wouldnt have to work night shifts anymore. The night shifts take me away from society. I cannot meet a girl or hang out with muh friends working these shifts. I couldnt even see a sunset more than once a week Thought I was doing the wrong thing for the Lord. But nonetheless it paid my bills. I lost christianity agian in October. But days later I got a 9th gf. She flooded me with corruption, lies, and games. She was a mental case from heck!

Case in point: Everytime I drop from the program, I get girlfriends, and thier not even christian! But when I ask for christ, all he gives me is "comfort money" with no girl to care for me.I would like a stunning gf that will last throught her last years of school and into adult hood so I can finally think marraige isnt a scary "getting old thing".

I am not getting younger. The longer we wait for this "the one" its just gonna be too late to even have one. I allready know what some will say in reguards to my topic. Like "well god loves you isnt that enough??" Thats wrong because your suppose to live an abundant life here on earth also. If we cant, we just might as well be sent to heaven the second we are born.

The Present Situation and Philosophy:
Im so lonely right now. No one likes my car. Im getting uglier by the month. Girls dont stare at me like they used to. Im getting old but my age preference hasnt changed. I dont want to be in my 30's asking out 16 year old chics becasue of my deprivation! (No arguing please about age differences, there are already threads about this). Thats why something needs to be done now, not later. I asked lord again on new years day because I thought I was gonna die of food poisoning. Im still in the game as im typing this. I could read the bible like i used to (4 pages a week avg) but the motivation isnt there. I felt If i picked up and read it would just be putting in "free labor". Of course feel free to post some verses here, ill read those in a heartbeat. I really need to see something change in my life, and im not talking about "years later" I will be too old to even be able to date. I need someone whos not married, still young and energetic like me. I need to grow out of this "young at heart stage" Im so young for my age I dont even mess with "women". It would be like dating my mom. eww. But anyways things are still bad. Im still in debt but have "stable support". I have garbage from months ago piled in my apartment, clothes havnt been washed for a while, this place is just filth becasue I cant be motivated to clean it. If I had a gf, she would tell me to wash the dishes or vacumm these popkorn kernals all over the computer area. When I had a gf I was highly motivated. I would spend more time with family, friends, do selfless acts(not being selfish). Why is god making me go this route? I work full time and then come home to filth? Is this what god wanted me to do? Live in filth, nobody to love? I havnt accomplished anything working full time and just going home and sleep and then work the next day. Theres more to life, but god isnt letting me have it

I really need a long term relationship to guide me through this horrible time. Pray for me tongiht please, becasue I cant pray alone and make it work.

Hi & welcome to the boards

First of all hang in there.

In the last couple of years I've come to realize that Christianity and a true relationship with Christ is not a game of negotiation. God offers more than what we think we need and what we think we want. It's the hardest thing in the world to trust that God truly has our best interest at heart. With you, it seems to be a meaningful relationship with the opposite sex and to you, relationships don't seem to come about until you've "dropped" Christianity. God isn't a genie where we can come to him with our wishes & commands to grant them... the love He offers requires our part in loving Him also. I encourage you to embrace this relationship before trying to seek out and embrace a relationship with someone whom you already know you want to love God & have a relationship with Him as well. Relationships aren't always fun & games, it takes hard work & dedication in pursuing unconditional love. God has pursued you... embrace that fact & pursue Him first & foremost.
"Matthew 6:33
But seek first His Kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well."

Again, hang in there.

~Katty

 

[JPPT1974]

When our lives are not going right the last thing we need is another person in our life to have to worry about.

Before you can give all to a relationship you have to be 100%..

My advice would be find a church, find a mentor and seek out a agency to find support for all you are dealing with.

I will keep you in my prayers but you can do it, it is just as easy to be miserable as it is happy.. it is teh same amount of work my friend.

Yeah go find a church as well as find someone with who you can talk to
And that you will find that person
Just pray to the Lord and ask Him to do His will
Keeping you in my prayers as well my friend.
Hope it works out for you!

 

[unameduser]

Thanks for the replies and blessings! Ill give the wait and put god forth and maybe bam Ill stumble across one. Now something wierd did happen tonight. Some girl I like just broke up with her bf. She doesnt know me very well but ive seen her around once in a while. Lets hope its not "wishfull thinking" Ill just sit back and see what happens. Maybe its a rain drop on the head, god telling me that hes hearin me, just sit tight. But anyways I better focus on other things like reading the bible. Talks to ya laters.

ps. im afraid to go to youth group again b/c i havnt been there for months

 

[~HopeFloats~]

How Old are you ?

Serious guy.. get yourself well and then your relationships will flow..

It is easy to wnat to be in a relationship but if we are not 100 in body, mind, soul and with God it will not work.. and we will just head for more heartbreak.

I would try calling a church meeeting with a Pastor and a lot of churches have great mentoring programs for us..

Lastly.. be Obidient to God's Will

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Christians should not be dating non-Christians. You wrote in your post that one of your gf led you astray and that is just one of the reasons. A good Christian girl is going to want a Christian guy who has it together spiritually and is steadfast, not changing from moment to moment. Get yourself ready for a quality girl by becoming a man after God's heart. You need to change your focus and put it on God. Find a small group where you can learn about the Bible, get mentors and prayer.

If you're feeling empty a girlfriend will only fill that space for a short time. Only God can fill the emptiness completely.

 

[JPPT1974]

Only God indeed can fill the emptiness
Because He fills our hearts and souls with love
God wants us to lean on Him
And depend on Him no matter what occurs.

 

[unameduser]

Well something eXtrodinary happened over the wkend. I met a girl through one of my friends that hasnt seen me for a couple of months. I prayed that god would cram a girl down my throat and, well this one backs that up. However there is a twist. She has a bf. But maybe this just means things to come. I listened to the advise on this thread about just waiting patiently and focusing on other aspects of my life. And now it may have paid off.We lift you up on high lord , AMEN!

 

[Sketcher]

Here's the pattern I see from what you shared:

You want a girl.

You pray for a girl.

You try to get right with God hoping that if you do, He'll get you a girl.

He doesn't get you a girl.

So you drop God, because the number one use you have for Him in your life is someone to get you a girl.

God doesn't work for people under these conditions. He is a real Person, He should be a priority. Because if anything I'm sure you know that girls don't last. He does, and He wants you to see that. He can do for you what girls can't. You don't need them like you need air or water, though it seems you think you do. But you need Him that badly and He can supply you with much of what you need. Only when you're not dependant on females to give you what you're looking for will you be able to land a relationship worth having. Women have a place in our lives, but they only fill a small gap in our hearts, not the whole emptiness.