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It could be hard for a while until one deals with the potential triggers for a relapse. Once we step over that line into addictive behaviour, there is a predisposition to handle the challenges of life with some type of mood altering drug. For me it caused some very powerful cravings. I'm not trying to scare you but am hoping you realize that it is very difficult to quit on one's own for an extended period of time without help and support. Putting that need on our spouses or significant others can put a real strain on a relationship in my experience.

Hope you will consider AA/NA meetings. God, through those meetings saved my life.
Thank you for your prayers. It has been so difficult having to to tell the truth about my addiction problems which time and time again gotten better with sobriety and undoubtedly fail because I haven't found the balance I am yearning for through God and I know I will have to dig deeper. Need I remind you my boyfriend is now 4 mo. clean out of a christian rehab and is doing the extended stay. I have kept the truth from him only because I did not want to hurt him or bring him down. This weekend I came clean about some things and then just get caught in other prior lies he found out about. I don't know why it is so hard for me to not come fully clean with him, but he has promised that he will never give up on me but I have to beg God to take away the intent to lie about anything even if it is because I just dont want to deal with the guilt/shame. I convict myself and have a problem forgiving myself for the past. But I have tappered off my meds and am ready to do what ever it takes to have a stable and sober life with both God and my boyfriend. I cried all day because I of the guilt I feel. I know it will be tough to stay sober but my plan is to go to more christian groups/church.
 
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Hi Everyone!
I love this site, and I love this thread! My hubby and I are both delivered drug addicts, who run a Christian recovery transitional house for other addicts. I spent over 20 years in addiction, 17 of those running in and out of the doors of AA meetings. I would get some time, memorize the steps and the book, sponsor women (some of whom are still sober, shows who was REALLY sponsoring them!) and go out over and over again. For me, the key was doing a real, heartfelt 3rd step....surrendering my everything to the One Power who truly HAS the power....Jesus Christ. And I had to "get done", really DONE, with living the life I was living. I pushed the envelope and shot every angle I could to make it "work" for me. I got TIRED; body, mind, and especially soul. When I was really ready to be set free....He set me free completely. I don't even think about alcohol and drugs anymore, except when sharing my testamony with others. I never thought I could truly be free, until I found out how much He wanted me to be. Praise God for the miracle each and every one of you is, whether you are sober or still struggling. Know that God wantes to set you free so you can share His love with others...know that it CAN and WILL happen to you. Find scripture for these and meditate on it: God is who He says He is, God will do what He says He will do, and you are who HE says you are. I do this daily, and it has truly "renewed the spirit of my mind". Bless each and every one here, and if you ever need someone to talk to, to pray for/with you, or help in any other way, please feel free to contact us.
 
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Hi Everyone!
I love this site, and I love this thread! My hubby and I are both delivered drug addicts, who run a Christian recovery transitional house for other addicts. I spent over 20 years in addiction, 17 of those running in and out of the doors of AA meetings. I would get some time, memorize the steps and the book, sponsor women (some of whom are still sober, shows who was REALLY sponsoring them!) and go out over and over again. For me, the key was doing a real, heartfelt 3rd step....surrendering my everything to the One Power who truly HAS the power....Jesus Christ. And I had to "get done", really DONE, with living the life I was living. I pushed the envelope and shot every angle I could to make it "work" for me. I got TIRED; body, mind, and especially soul. When I was really ready to be set free....He set me free completely. I don't even think about alcohol and drugs anymore, except when sharing my testamony with others. I never thought I could truly be free, until I found out how much He wanted me to be. Praise God for the miracle each and every one of you is, whether you are sober or still struggling. Know that God wantes to set you free so you can share His love with others...know that it CAN and WILL happen to you. Find scripture for these and meditate on it: God is who He says He is, God will do what He says He will do, and you are who HE says you are. I do this daily, and it has truly "renewed the spirit of my mind". Bless each and every one here, and if you ever need someone to talk to, to pray for/with you, or help in any other way, please feel free to contact us.
How am I supposed to deal with a boyfriend, who is undoubtedly walking a life of faith, but I cannot seem to do what is right. I always can't do enough. I have overcome opiate addiction and still take xanexx for my anxiety disssorder. I was waiting on him tonight to come from Mobile, AL to my apt. in Hammmod, La. I wanted to go to a christian revival with friends, but he then told me not to go and to wait on him because he was running late and had car problems. I could not sit at my apt. because I became very anxious, so I left with a friend and went to Chile's Restuarant, we did have a couple of glassses of wine. I waited and waited but he kept hesitating. I finally got to my apt., fell asleep and he finally came. He immediately became furious, because he said "how could I be drinking if I knew he was comming?' We had a huge fight and he refused to even work things out, he said I disgusted him and that he wouldn't talk to me. Now I find myself more depressed and want to use my anxiety med's more because I feel deserted. If he was so undestanding, how could he treat this way, or is he really trying to test my faith? I am prone to being a failure, but my soul hurts and I am more prone to self medication for times like these. I want to wake him up off my sofa and scream? Are we 2 different people or are we just on not yet compatible mentalities?
 
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Hi Christian,
I appreciate how honest you're able to be with all of us and with yourself. It sounds as though you are really clear that you have a problem, which is the first step. The next step is to face it head-on. I can't pretend to know what God has in mind for your relationship, only that if it is His will, it too can be saved. But what I DO know from personal experience, is you have to save yourself first, then see if your relationship can stand. Your addiction is life or death, period. God says "I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses....now choose life". You have to CHOOSE life, it really is a choice. No matter where you are in the "progression" of your addiction, addiction eventually leads to death, and I can relate so much to what you said about your soul, because that's the death that comes first, and it's the worst part of it. All through my active addiction, I kept hearing God's voice in my head, saying "this is not you", "this is not who I made you to be", and I could never drink or use enough to shut it up. It just killed me, living a lie like that. Because addicts and alcoholics are NOT what He made us as! He wants us to be free, and whole and well, but He can't and won't do it without our cooperation. We have to choose. We cannot give into satan's lie that we aren't that bad yet, we have to look ahead at what's waiting for each one of us addicts, and accept it as inevatible if we don't do something about it. I'm sorry if I sound harsh, but I believe in being real about it. One of the things that really set me free was when I started to meditate on this message, and the scriptures I found to back it up: "God is who He says HE is, God will do what He says He will do, and I am who God says that I am." Then I started to walk in that truth, and my whole life changed. Hope that's been some help, will be praying for you. God bless.
 
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It's really hard to change your old ways because sometimes you actually miss the things you used to do.
Drugs are not easy to come off of....I have been clean for 5 years now...I had to enter a program called Teen Challenge...It is a residental christian program to help men, women and teens to overcome life controlling addictions..now its NOT just for teens....im 50 now and i am now the program admistrator for teen challenge in columbus georgia..there is help out there if you want it...it helps you deal with the REAL issue of why you used drugs in the first place.....NEVER give up on yourself...God never has and never will.....
 
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Howdy and God Bless to our new friends at Christian Forums and to this thread! :)

Rather than reply to all of your individual posts and comments, I thought I would write out something to all of you. I hope none of you take offense to the general reply.

First of all, I am SOTK and have approximately 10 years of sobriety from alcohol. I did nothing to achieve this. God gets all the credit! :) I was once a very active member of Alcoholics Anonymous but no longer am involved with AA or any other type of "program". For the last several years, I have been very active within the Body of Christ, studying/reading/meditating on God's Word, praying, and reading various amounts of literature from theologians. I don't want to speak ill of AA or any other program as I do feel they serve a purpose, however, I have come to believe that they are not needed for freedom from addiction and in some respects do more damage than good. Let me explain.

AA is good at helping a person to quit drinking. AA offers a "program" or "steps" for the alcoholic to rely upon and emphasizes the importance of "working" or "practicing" these steps to achieve and maintain sobriety. While that's not necessarily a bad thing (we do need to quit and stay quit) it does breed reliance upon a "thing". It also reinforces the idea that we are never really free hence the term "recovering alcoholic".

I have come to the full realization that I was always free as a Servant of the King in Christ! Taking on a Sin Identity is a self-fulfilling prophecy. In other words, if you believe and dwell on the fact that you are nothing but a sinner, a sinner you will be. The fact of the matter is that we are Saints who sometimes sin. My identity is who I am in Christ. It's all about Jesus! I no longer "work a program". I attempt to rest in God on a daily basis. This is what God wants. If we rest in Him and realize our freedom in Him, we will allow the Holy Spirit to work in us to bear fruit. If we are to be dependent on anything, it should be to God, His Son, and His Helper!

Our sins don't define who we are. We tend to run and hide from God when we fall. Or we can look to a program or steps to help us when we "slip" or fall down. God does not want us to hide from Him. God will never forsake us. We are His. We are His Children. We often forget this. Yes, sins can attach themselves to us, but they don't make up who we are. The fact of the matter is that we are Saints! Taking on your true identity in Christ means you act or behave from that single powerful fact. We don't "work" towards freedom. We are already free! Most Christians today have this backwards. They feel they must "do better" or be a "better Christian". This is actually a "works" mentality, and I personally feel that addiction programs reinforce this mentality.

I am often asked "Well, how did you change in your thinking regarding all of this?" Or "What did you do to change?" I realize that these questions are important because so many of us like practical application. My answer is simply to rest in God. Look to Him for strength, meaning, and purpose. I have done this and continue to do this by praying, meditating, reading His Word, and being active within my Church. I get up on a daily basis and remind myself that I am in Christ. I am no longer of the World. Christ conquered sin, and I am free in Him!

I do want to close by saying that we need each other (us brothers and sisters) as well. I think peer to peer confession is Biblical as well as healing. I have several Mentors (Christian Sponsor-type relationships) which I meet with. These mentors help remind me of my identity in Christ as well as provide accountability and friendship. I don't "rely" upon them though. The relationship is built around the purpose of honoring God and growing in Him.

I pray that what I written strikes a cord with some of you. Christ is waiting for each of you to realize that you are already free in Him!

God bless,

SOTK
 
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Thank you SOTK! It is ALL about who we are in Christ! Once I really understood who HE says I am, not my own head, not satan, not my family or anyone else, but HIM-- I too was set completely free. I am a new creation. I spent 17 years in and out of AA, but the real Power is and always be in our Father God and our Lord Jesus Christ. Thanks for sharing this truth with all of us. I pray for everyone here God's love and grace in your lives, to know who you truly are in Him, to know that you are FREE. As I have posted in the threads I am active in, I will be MIA for a little while, because my father is dying and I have much to handle at this time. But I will keep each and every one of you in my prayers, and I will be back around soon.
 
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i know this response probably dosnt belong here
but my son is doing drugs pot and i believe crack
he will be 18 in 8 days im terrified i dont know what
to do im planning on moving to another state in 2 wks
and think it will get him away from the problem but he
is telling me he wont go i cant make him but i cant just leave him homeless i hope someone on this tread can give me some advice and pray for us my heart is being pulled from my chest and i really need some fellowship
 
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deb7648 said:
i know this response probably dosnt belong here
but my son is doing drugs pot and i believe crack
he will be 18 in 8 days im terrified i dont know what
to do im planning on moving to another state in 2 wks
and think it will get him away from the problem but he
is telling me he wont go i cant make him but i cant just leave him homeless i hope someone on this tread can give me some advice and pray for us my heart is being pulled from my chest and i really need some fellowship

That's a tough situation, Deb. :( I am sorry you're going through this. Well, legally you can not make him move when he turns eighteen. Also, and more importantly than this, you can not cause him to quit using drugs nor are you responsible for his sin(s) or choices. I know this is tough, but the best thing to do for him is tell him how you feel, pray with him and for him, tell him that he is sinning, and that you and God love him. Are you involved with a Church? Have you tried talking with your Pastor or had him talk with your Pastor? What about other Christian men at your Church who have had experience with drugs? You could ask one of them to talk with him and have them share their testimony with him.

I am a parent myself so I can imagine how tough this situation is on you, however, if my son was stubborn and refused to repent and ask for help, I would implement tough love with him.

Sorry, Deb. I will be praying for both of you.

In Christ,

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Thank you SOTK! It is ALL about who we are in Christ! Once I really understood who HE says I am, not my own head, not satan, not my family or anyone else, but HIM-- I too was set completely free. I am a new creation. I spent 17 years in and out of AA, but the real Power is and always be in our Father God and our Lord Jesus Christ. Thanks for sharing this truth with all of us. I pray for everyone here God's love and grace in your lives, to know who you truly are in Him, to know that you are FREE. As I have posted in the threads I am active in, I will be MIA for a little while, because my father is dying and I have much to handle at this time. But I will keep each and every one of you in my prayers, and I will be back around soon.

Hey, you're welcome! I love to talk about this stuff if you couldn't tell! ;)

I'm very, very sorry about your father. :(

You're in my prayers.

In Christ,

SOTK
 
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Howdy and God Bless to our new friends at Christian Forums and to this thread! :)

Rather than reply to all of your individual posts and comments, I thought I would write out something to all of you. I hope none of you take offense to the general reply.

First of all, I am SOTK and have approximately 10 years of sobriety from alcohol. I did nothing to achieve this. God gets all the credit! :) I was once a very active member of Alcoholics Anonymous but no longer am involved with AA or any other type of "program". For the last several years, I have been very active within the Body of Christ, studying/reading/meditating on God's Word, praying, and reading various amounts of literature from theologians. I don't want to speak ill of AA or any other program as I do feel they serve a purpose, however, I have come to believe that they are not needed for freedom from addiction and in some respects do more damage than good. Let me explain.

AA is good at helping a person to quit drinking. AA offers a "program" or "steps" for the alcoholic to rely upon and emphasizes the importance of "working" or "practicing" these steps to achieve and maintain sobriety. While that's not necessarily a bad thing (we do need to quit and stay quit) it does breed reliance upon a "thing". It also reinforces the idea that we are never really free hence the term "recovering alcoholic".

I have come to the full realization that I was always free as a Servant of the King in Christ! Taking on a Sin Identity is a self-fulfilling prophecy. In other words, if you believe and dwell on the fact that you are nothing but a sinner, a sinner you will be. The fact of the matter is that we are Saints who sometimes sin. My identity is who I am in Christ. It's all about Jesus! I no longer "work a program". I attempt to rest in God on a daily basis. This is what God wants. If we rest in Him and realize our freedom in Him, we will allow the Holy Spirit to work in us to bear fruit. If we are to be dependent on anything, it should be to God, His Son, and His Helper!

Our sins don't define who we are. We tend to run and hide from God when we fall. Or we can look to a program or steps to help us when we "slip" or fall down. God does not want us to hide from Him. God will never forsake us. We are His. We are His Children. We often forget this. Yes, sins can attach themselves to us, but they don't make up who we are. The fact of the matter is that we are Saints! Taking on your true identity in Christ means you act or behave from that single powerful fact. We don't "work" towards freedom. We are already free! Most Christians today have this backwards. They feel they must "do better" or be a "better Christian". This is actually a "works" mentality, and I personally feel that addiction programs reinforce this mentality.

I am often asked "Well, how did you change in your thinking regarding all of this?" Or "What did you do to change?" I realize that these questions are important because so many of us like practical application. My answer is simply to rest in God. Look to Him for strength, meaning, and purpose. I have done this and continue to do this by praying, meditating, reading His Word, and being active within my Church. I get up on a daily basis and remind myself that I am in Christ. I am no longer of the World. Christ conquered sin, and I am free in Him!

I do want to close by saying that we need each other (us brothers and sisters) as well. I think peer to peer confession is Biblical as well as healing. I have several Mentors (Christian Sponsor-type relationships) which I meet with. These mentors help remind me of my identity in Christ as well as provide accountability and friendship. I don't "rely" upon them though. The relationship is built around the purpose of honoring God and growing in Him.

I pray that what I written strikes a cord with some of you. Christ is waiting for each of you to realize that you are already free in Him!

God bless,

SOTK
Hello SOTK,
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Howdy and God Bless to our new friends at Christian Forums and to this thread! :)

Rather than reply to all of your individual posts and comments, I thought I would write out something to all of you. I hope none of you take offense to the general reply.

First of all, I am SOTK and have approximately 10 years of sobriety from alcohol. I did nothing to achieve this. God gets all the credit! :) I was once a very active member of Alcoholics Anonymous but no longer am involved with AA or any other type of "program". For the last several years, I have been very active within the Body of Christ, studying/reading/meditating on God's Word, praying, and reading various amounts of literature from theologians. I don't want to speak ill of AA or any other program as I do feel they serve a purpose, however, I have come to believe that they are not needed for freedom from addiction and in some respects do more damage than good. Let me explain.

AA is good at helping a person to quit drinking. AA offers a "program" or "steps" for the alcoholic to rely upon and emphasizes the importance of "working" or "practicing" these steps to achieve and maintain sobriety. While that's not necessarily a bad thing (we do need to quit and stay quit) it does breed reliance upon a "thing". It also reinforces the idea that we are never really free hence the term "recovering alcoholic".

I have come to the full realization that I was always free as a Servant of the King in Christ! Taking on a Sin Identity is a self-fulfilling prophecy. In other words, if you believe and dwell on the fact that you are nothing but a sinner, a sinner you will be. The fact of the matter is that we are Saints who sometimes sin. My identity is who I am in Christ. It's all about Jesus! I no longer "work a program". I attempt to rest in God on a daily basis. This is what God wants. If we rest in Him and realize our freedom in Him, we will allow the Holy Spirit to work in us to bear fruit. If we are to be dependent on anything, it should be to God, His Son, and His Helper!

Our sins don't define who we are. We tend to run and hide from God when we fall. Or we can look to a program or steps to help us when we "slip" or fall down. God does not want us to hide from Him. God will never forsake us. We are His. We are His Children. We often forget this. Yes, sins can attach themselves to us, but they don't make up who we are. The fact of the matter is that we are Saints! Taking on your true identity in Christ means you act or behave from that single powerful fact. We don't "work" towards freedom. We are already free! Most Christians today have this backwards. They feel they must "do better" or be a "better Christian". This is actually a "works" mentality, and I personally feel that addiction programs reinforce this mentality.

I am often asked "Well, how did you change in your thinking regarding all of this?" Or "What did you do to change?" I realize that these questions are important because so many of us like practical application. My answer is simply to rest in God. Look to Him for strength, meaning, and purpose. I have done this and continue to do this by praying, meditating, reading His Word, and being active within my Church. I get up on a daily basis and remind myself that I am in Christ. I am no longer of the World. Christ conquered sin, and I am free in Him!

I do want to close by saying that we need each other (us brothers and sisters) as well. I think peer to peer confession is Biblical as well as healing. I have several Mentors (Christian Sponsor-type relationships) which I meet with. These mentors help remind me of my identity in Christ as well as provide accountability and friendship. I don't "rely" upon them though. The relationship is built around the purpose of honoring God and growing in Him.

I pray that what I written strikes a cord with some of you. Christ is waiting for each of you to realize that you are already free in Him!

God bless,

SOTK
Hello SOTK,
This is Christian79, I am grateful for you time and efforts put into this site. I completely respect your views and am very proud of you. I have found help through others on the site, but I have a question for you? Can someone who has within the last 4 mo.'s of sobriety and living a fully devoted christian life by being in a program that implements the bible and a life of nonstop church, devotion and prayer become overly headstrong and not realize that they are so consumed by what their new life in God encompasses and that they egotistically shun others away. I am asking this because my ex fiance' is the one in the program. I am not perfect, I am opiate free and still take lexapro and xanexx for anxiety. We have had every expectation of renewing our relationship through God. He is two states away and expects me to basically not have a life and wait on him. In the process I have a need to make friends at my new college which makes him jealous. In a nut shell....he had me convinced that as a future husband he was going to be the rock and it was my devotion to him that would allow this type of harmony that God intends for a man and women to exist if I follow in his walk of faith. But how is it that because I went to dinner with some friends and had a glass of wine, he has the right to tell me "IF YOU STOP ACTING LIKE A PIECE OF profanity, I WILL STOP TREATING YOU LIKE ONE?" I was so hurt I would'nt accept his calls and am asking God to help me understand and to heal my heart. This could break me, but I will not give up. Are we good for each other right now, because with him it is all or nothing and I have to find my own faith!

"And let us not lose heart and grow weary and faint in acting nobly and doing right, for in due time and at the apointed season we shall reap, if we do not loosed and relax our courage and faint" GALAT 6:9

"When you pass through the waters, I will be with you, and through the rivers, they will not overwhelm you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned or scorched, nor will the flame kindle upon you." ISAIAH 43:2
 
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They feel they must "do better" or be a "better Christian". This is actually a "works" mentality, and I personally feel that addiction programs reinforce this mentality.



If you were talking about salvation I could agree with you. But we are talking about a person who is in addiction. My son is a Christian but is addicted to meth. The twelve step programs boast of the most recoveries of any other program. I see no reason to doubt them. It seems that the principals of the twelve step programs take ideas from the Christian teachings. Am I right?

The Bibles says
“But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives FREEDOM, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but DOING it---he will be blessed in what he does” James 1:25

I think it is very good to “…rest in God. Look to Him for strength, meaning, and purpose.” But there are scriptures in the Bible that seem to say God wants you to take some action also. “ Why do you call me Lord Lord but do not DO the things that I teach”
If my son rests in God but does no take actions to embrace the principals of recovery, what will happen?

 
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Sdmsanjose responds to SOTK 6-23-06

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They feel they must "do better" or be a "better Christian". This is actually a "works" mentality, and I personally feel that addiction programs reinforce this mentality.



If you were talking about salvation I could agree with you. But we are talking about a person who is in addiction. My son is a Christian but is addicted to meth. The twelve step programs boast of the most recoveries of any other program. I see no reason to doubt them. It seems that the principals of the twelve step programs take ideas from the Christian teachings. Am I right?


I used to think so, but, no, you are wrong. While I believe there are some spiritual principles "sprinkled" throughout the "steps", they are NOT Biblical.

I did not state that AA or the other recovery programs do not help somebody to quit an addiction. They fact of the matter is that they do. My point is that if your son were to recognize His true identity in Christ there would be no need to "work" a program or steps. This is what I have found out for myself. I haven't been active in AA nor "worked any steps" for 5 years.

The Bibles says
“But the man who looks intently into the perfect law that gives FREEDOM, and continues to do this, not forgetting what he has heard, but DOING it---he will be blessed in what he does” James 1:25

I think it is very good to “…rest in God. Look to Him for strength, meaning, and purpose.” But there are scriptures in the Bible that seem to say God wants you to take some action also. “ Why do you call me Lord Lord but do not DO the things that I teach”
If my son rests in God but does no take actions to embrace the principals of recovery, what will happen?

Sure. Resting in God IS action. If we rest in Him, the Holy Spirit works in us to prompt us to action. And this is the type of action which is righteous and good.

1 Corinthians 2:14-16
14 But the natural man does not receive the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to him; nor can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned. 15 But he who is spiritual judges all things, yet he himself is rightly judged by no one. 16 For “who has known the mind of the LORD that he may instruct Him?”[e] But we have the mind of Christ.

I like the above scripture because Paul talks about having the "Mind of Christ". If we resist that which is natural (man's way), and accept our True identity in Christ, we will be thinking with the Mind of Christ. Resting in God IS action.

If your son does not rest in God but instead rests in a "thing", how can he spiritually discern what action to take for anything let alone recovery?

Blessings,

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Thank you for your reponse.

So if my son "Rests in God" he will be taking action that is from the spirit, right?

What my son can do for his part is to:
" My answer is simply to rest in God. Look to Him for strength, meaning, and purpose. I have done this and continue to do this by praying, meditating, reading His Word, and being active within my Church. I get up on a daily basis and remind myself that I am in Christ. I am no longer of the World. Christ conquered sin, and I am free in Him!"

Am I understanding correctly?
 
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SOTK said:
[/B]I used to think so, but, no, you are wrong. While I believe there are some spiritual principles "sprinkled" throughout the "steps", they are NOT Biblical.

No SOTK, it is you that is wrong. If you are not aware of the parallels or the verses that support the 12 Steps you are either unfamiliar with the Bible or the Steps.

Here are some links that will give you some history where the Steps came from: here and here.

Here is a some verses showing the scriptural foundation of the Steps:

1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol ... that our lives had become unmanageable. "I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out." (Romans 7:18)

2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. "... my grace is sufficient for you, for my POWER is made perfect in weakness." (2 Corinthians 12:9)

..for it God Who works in you to will and act according to His good purpose.. (Phil. 2:13)


3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of GOD as we understood Him. "... If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me." (Luke 9:23**)

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. "Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord." (Lamentations 3:40)

5. Admitted to GOD, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed." (James 5:16)

6. Were entirely ready to have GOD remove all these defects of character. "If you are willing and obedient, you will eat the best from the land." (Isaiah 1:19)

7. Humbly asked Him to remove all our shortcomings. "Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up." (James 4:10)

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. "Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift." (Matthew 5:23, 24**)

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. Give and it shall be given you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." (Luke 6:38**)

10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. "For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith GOD has given you." (Romans 12:3)

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with GOD as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will, and the power to carry that out. "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer." (Psalm 19:14)
"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly..." (Col. 3:16)


12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and practice these principles in all our affairs. "Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." (Galatians 6:1-2)

These are just a few examples of verses that show what the Steps were based on. A much more complete listing can be found in the Serenity Bible and the Life Recovery Bible.

I did not state that AA or the other recovery programs do not help somebody to quit an addiction. The fact of the matter is that they do.

AA never claims to help someone quit an addiction. AA claims that through the 12 Steps one will find God, who will give that person the power to stop an addiction.

My point is that if your son were to recognize His true identity in Christ there would be no need to "work" a program or steps. This is what I have found out for myself. I haven't been active in AA nor "worked any steps" for 5 years.

My bible tells me plainly in many areas that I need to recognize that I am incapable of fullfilling the Law. It tells me that it is my sin (dysfunctional behaviours, shortcomings etc) that block me from the sunlight of the Spirit. It tells me to repent and turn from these things and look to God for the power to overcome. It tells me to acknowledge my sins, not deny them. It is then on that foundation that through prayer and meditation that I will come to an undertanding of who i am in His eyes. It is not possible to have a true relationship with Him unless I am willing to clear up the wreakage of my past and face the person i have been. It also tells me that when i am in the body of believers I have a responsibility to further the kingdomin whatever capacity the Lord has given me a talent for.
These are all concepts that are contained in the Bible. The Steps are the condensed version of the path to God.

If your son does not rest in God but instead rests in a "thing", how can he spiritually discern what action to take for anything let alone recovery?

The Steps are not a "thing" but a process. One that is outlined in the Bible.

"Resting in God" is spritually discerned, SOTK. Take a raw newcomer still vibrating from the last hangover or the druggie going through withdawels and tell him to "Rest in God" and he will tell you that it is only possible to do so when he is high, which is why he likes it so much.
The challenge is to teach him spiritual principles with which he can learn to trust and eventually rest in God as opposed to resting in a bottle or drug but first he needs to see for hiself that that is what he is looking for.
Tell the natural man to do what is unnatural to him and he will do the opposite extreme of what he was doing. It is by the man doing an inventory of his actions and realizing the selfish motivations behind them that he starts to realize where he has gone wrong in past and that he now needs to base all actions on love if he wishes to realize a power that will help him to overcome his addictions.

You had the benefit of 5 years in AA/NA getting clean and sober and building a foundation before going strictly church. That is the path God had you on and we know there are no mistakes in God's world, right? So, isn't it irresponsible of you to recommend a path of recovery that God didn't have you follow?
 
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Lion of God said:
No SOTK, it is you that is wrong. If you are not aware of the parallels or the verses that support the 12 Steps you are either unfamiliar with the Bible or the Steps.

Here are some links that will give you some history where the Steps came from: here and here.

No, you are still wrong and misinformed. You need to go much deeper than the two links you gave me. Check out this link: http://www.psychoheresy-aware.org/aaroots.html

There are also some books listed at the bottom of the page which you could check out that digs much deeper into the history of the Oxford Group and early AA.

Lion of God said:
Here is a some verses showing the scriptural foundation of the Steps:

1. We admitted we were powerless over alcohol ... that our lives had become unmanageable. "I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. For I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out." (Romans 7:18)

2. Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity. "... my grace is sufficient for you, for my POWER is made perfect in weakness." (2 Corinthians 12:9)

..for it God Who works in you to will and act according to His good purpose.. (Phil. 2:13)


3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of GOD as we understood Him. "... If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me." (Luke 9:23**)

4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves. "Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord." (Lamentations 3:40)

5. Admitted to GOD, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed." (James 5:16)

6. Were entirely ready to have GOD remove all these defects of character. "If you are willing and obedient, you will eat the best from the land." (Isaiah 1:19)

7. Humbly asked Him to remove all our shortcomings. "Humble yourselves before the Lord, and He will lift you up." (James 4:10)

8. Made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all. "Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift." (Matthew 5:23, 24**)

9. Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. Give and it shall be given you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you." (Luke 6:38**)

10. Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. "For by the grace given me I say to every one of you: Do not think of yourself more highly than you ought, but rather think of yourself with sober judgment, in accordance with the measure of faith GOD has given you." (Romans 12:3)

11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with GOD as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will, and the power to carry that out. "May the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer." (Psalm 19:14)
"Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly..." (Col. 3:16)


12. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and practice these principles in all our affairs. "Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." (Galatians 6:1-2)

These are just a few examples of verses that show what the Steps were based on. A much more complete listing can be found in the Serenity Bible and the Life Recovery Bible.

Ha! I was wondering when an AA defender would post the infamous Life Recovery/Serenity Bible/Alcoholic's Victorious "scriptural" steps. Lion of God, the use of scripture with the "12 steps" came after the creation of the "12 steps". Just when do you think the so called Serenity Bible and Life Recovery Bible came out? The scripture applied to the 12 Steps is Christianity's attempt at making the steps more "biblical". Just why do you think groups like Alcoholic's Victorious, Celebrate Recovery, and other such Christian addiction support groups came out?

One more thing- If the above scripture was really indeed used by Bill Wilson, Bob Smith, Shoemaker, etc. to create condensed "steps" to God, why didn't they use them anywhere in AA literature? For example, I have read Pass it on and other AA early history literature. There was never any mention of scripture.

Lion of God said:
AA never claims to help someone quit an addiction. AA claims that through the 12 Steps one will find God, who will give that person the power to stop an addiction.

Really? What about the AA famous line "AA is a butt-saving program and not a soul-saving program"? Why the generic use of god? I had people worshipping trees in one of the meetings I attended. Lion of God, the majority of meetings I attended in AA were all about the steps with hardly any importance placed on the One True God. People were offended when I brought Him up. This was a common theme I came up against in not one particular meeting in AA but many.

Lion of God said:
My bible tells me plainly in many areas that I need to recognize that I am incapable of fullfilling the Law. It tells me that it is my sin (dysfunctional behaviours, shortcomings etc) that block me from the sunlight of the Spirit. It tells me to repent and turn from these things and look to God for the power to overcome. It tells me to acknowledge my sins, not deny them. It is then on that foundation that through prayer and meditation that I will come to an undertanding of who i am in His eyes. It is not possible to have a true relationship with Him unless I am willing to clear up the wreakage of my past and face the person i have been. It also tells me that when i am in the body of believers I have a responsibility to further the kingdomin whatever capacity the Lord has given me a talent for.

I agree with some of what you wrote above. I will comment on what you stated towards the bottom of the above quote. First of all, AA is not a body of believers. While I am certain that some are believers, the majority of them are not. I do feel, as do you, that it is always worthwhile and a matter of responsibility to further the Kingdom of God. The furthering of the Kingdom can occur in AA. I've seen it. That is definitely not a bad thing at all, however, I also think we have the responsibility to adequately and truthfully proclaim the Kingdom of God. A question for you: Are we doing that by portraying the "steps" as an accurate representation of scripture? And, are we doing that by allowing God to be portrayed as a "thing" or allowing paganism to thrive around us? What do you think is your responsibility in that respect? Is it possible we could be doing more harm than good?

Lion of God said:
These are all concepts that are contained in the Bible. The Steps are the condensed version of the path to God.

Wow. "The Steps are the condensed version of the path to God". Gee, I thought Jesus was the only path to God. Lion of God, your statement is exactly why I speak out against the "12 steps" now.

Lion of God said:
The Steps are not a "thing" but a process. One that is outlined in the Bible.

According to you, the "steps" are much more than a process. Again, they are not outlined in the Bible.

Lion of God said:
"Resting in God" is spritually discerned, SOTK. Take a raw newcomer still vibrating from the last hangover or the druggie going through withdawels and tell him to "Rest in God" and he will tell you that it is only possible to do so when he is high, which is why he likes it so much.

Yes, a raw newcome is also more than likely not a Christian. If you will notice, most of what I have written pertains to the Christian. My writings on our Identity in Christ is a truth which most Christians, especially alcoholics/addicts, have no idea about. Getting this Truth is becoming very effective with Christian brothers and sisters who are struggling with the sin issue of addiction (as well as other sin issues). Many churches have classes/groups on this subject and no "steps" are used.

In terms of the non-believer alcoholic/addict, it is very important that they quit. While I have many problems with AA and the steps, I am not so blind that I would state that AA does not work. The fact of the matter is that it does. I have never stated that AA is not effective in getting a person to quit or to even stay quit. Bill Wilson himself once stated that AA is "spiritual kindergarten". My problems with AA have to do with the larger picture- the soul.

Lion of God said:
The challenge is to teach him spiritual principles with which he can learn to trust and eventually rest in God as opposed to resting in a bottle or drug but first he needs to see for hiself that that is what he is looking for.

Yes, no real problem with this. I use this type of tact myself when I am witnessing to any non-believer.

Lion of God said:
Tell the natural man to do what is unnatural to him and he will do the opposite extreme of what he was doing. It is by the man doing an inventory of his actions and realizing the selfish motivations behind them that he starts to realize where he has gone wrong in past and that he now needs to base all actions on love if he wishes to realize a power that will help him to overcome his addictions.

Again, no real problem with the majority of what you wrote here. Peer to peer confession is Biblical and healing. I would not call God just a "power" though, but I do understand what you mean.

Lion of God said:
You had the benefit of 5 years in AA/NA getting clean and sober and building a foundation before going strictly church. That is the path God had you on and we know there are no mistakes in God's world, right?

Yes, some cool things happened to me in AA, but it was in spite of AA that I became a Christian. I will also agree with you on your point that my attendance in AA was part of God's sovereign will for me.

Lion of God said:
So, isn't it irresponsible of you to recommend a path of recovery that God didn't have you follow?

No. Nice try though. :) If it was part of God's sovereign will for me to attend AA, it is equally part of God's sovereign will that I have come to see the problems and issues surrounding AA and the 12 Steps. I was told several times and by several people that I wouldn't make it in "recovery" if I left AA. This reliance upon AA (a thing and not God) is a big problem. Again, it just reeks of works.

So, does AA work, in terms of helping an individual to quit their addiction? Sure, it definitely does. AA is even pretty successful at this. I don't deny it. You know what really bothers me and is one reason which lead me to where I am at? I observed that Christian brothers and sisters generally have a harder time staying sober than non-believers. I began to wonder why this was. I also observed how so many people in AA were generally so unhappy with their lives even with a lot of time in sobriety. I began to wonder why this was. It seems to me that one can be quit from alcohol and yet feel not free at all. All of this lead me to studying about our Identity in Christ.

There comes a time when no amount of "steps" are enough. There comes a time when works just don't cut it anymore. The only true freedom we can have in this world from any sin or difficulty is to recognize that Jesus Christ already conquered it on the Cross at Calvary. Believing in this is true freedom indeed!

Blessings,

SOTK
 
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