Advice to feel less lonely after getting dumped

[4x4toy]

thank you~! so he wanted to break up to put God first cause he thinks we put each other first. so haha guess he's doing the right thing then. i still think it could have been worked out

I'm not Ann Landers but if he's being honest then you know what you must do if it's worth it .. Sounds a little bogus maybe , maybe not .. I told my son a year ago when he needed my support I told him 'you know me son I'm gonna side with what's right no matter who or what' but I'd always be there .. We are not supposed to be unequally yoked .. If he's trying and you're in the way I can't blame him , it's gotta be a two way street either help or hindrance if that's his real reason ..

 

[Yoan]

I'm not Ann Landers but if he's being honest then you know what you must do if it's worth it .. Sounds a little bogus maybe , maybe not .. I told my son a year ago when he needed my support I told him 'you know me son I'm gonna side with what's right no matter who or what' but I'd always be there .. We are not supposed to be unequally yoked .. If he's trying and you're in the way I can't blame him , it's gotta be a two way street either help or hindrance if that's his real reason ..

yeah which is why i'm trying

 

[4x4toy]

yeah which is why i'm trying

Ha , then he's a jerk .. imo he should be thrilled , I would for sure ..

 

[Yoan]

Ha , then he's a jerk .. imo he should be thrilled , I would for sure ..

he should be thrilled about what? at this point I just need to stay away from anything that reminds me of him. it has destroyed my life almost. i hate time for doing it. i need to forgive him for doing this. and i also need to try and not be sad and be strong and figure something out. i honestly hope he will comeback soon before more damage is done but i know he wont not until it's too late im afraid. but i can only pray

 

[4x4toy]

he should be thrilled about what? at this point I just need to stay away from anything that reminds me of him. it has destroyed my life almost. i hate time for doing it. i need to forgive him for doing this. and i also need to try and not be sad and be strong and figure something out. i honestly hope he will comeback soon before more damage is done but i know he wont not until it's too late im afraid. but i can only pray

He should be thrilled that you are trying to grow closer to God with him is the way I read your message .. And maybe it's all just a spat ..

 

[Yoan]

He should be thrilled that you are trying to grow closer to God with him is the way I read your message .. And maybe it's all just a spat ..

oh yeah but he still broke up with me so hahahahahahaha it doesnt change anything

 

[blackribbon]

Assume that it is over. I don't agree with the statement that you never give you whole heart away...but don't do it too soon. I have given my heart away 3 times to people other than God...to my husband and to each of my children. It means it gets hurt at times but that still isn't a reason to not do it.

And I know you don't want to hear this, but 11 months isn't that long...it just feels like it at this point. People change and you really didn't have the day to day interaction that is necessary to "work on it". I am not so sure that moving to another country could be wise when your relationship status is to "work" on a relationship. If you really believe that it is something to save, move there on your own...start your own life then see if there is something left to build on after he finishes school. But you have to do it for you with no assumptions that it would work... If not, build your life where you are and for you.

And I would advice you to remove him from all your avatars, screen savers, facebook pages, etc....because they allow you to keep dwelling instead of letting go....

 

[John Davidson]

I have always felt lonely even before I met my bf, I didn't have many friends and I usually got bored and tried to talk to strangers online or just try to entertain myself with movies or TV or YouTube, but after my bf broke up with me the loneliness hit me like no other. This once, I have a comparison as to how happy and unlonesome I can be. Especially on Sundays, I don't know why, but I miss him a lot. A whole lot.

Any advice?

Spend time with your family.

 

[Yoan]

Assume that it is over. I don't agree with the statement that you never give you whole heart away...but don't do it too soon. I have given my heart away 3 times to people other than God...to my husband and to each of my children. It means it gets hurt at times but that still isn't a reason to not do it.

And I know you don't want to hear this, but 11 months isn't that long...it just feels like it at this point. People change and you really didn't have the day to day interaction that is necessary to "work on it". I am not so sure that moving to another country could be wise when your relationship status is to "work" on a relationship. If you really believe that it is something to save, move there on your own...start your own life then see if there is something left to build on after he finishes school. But you have to do it for you with no assumptions that it would work... If not, build your life where you are and for you.

And I would advice you to remove him from all your avatars, screen savers, facebook pages, etc....because they allow you to keep dwelling instead of letting go....

Well the thing is, i cant get a job over there. No one would sponsor me. A husband would which is where he came in back then. I cant start a life there. Yeah i have to do it here and I'm trying to.

So, i made this account using my twitter account and i have deactivated it so now idk how to change it lol i need to figure out this forum again. Thanks though.

Prayers please

 

[Yoan]

Spend time with your family.

Yeah I'm trying to do that as well. Thanks