I (23m) am married to my wife (21f). We’ve been living separate for 8 months. We were married young. I’m wanting opinions, or experiences. My wife cheated on me a little after 2 years of marriage. I found out on Christmas Day of 2022. I’ve tried everything that I humanly know how to. I’ve been forgiving, nice, stern, all on the spectrum. I ended up kicking her out of our house and shortly there after moved out myself (3 days later). What drove me to do that was I had told her we could try to work on it, but that I needed her to be home. The three days following Christmas she did not come home at all. So for about 4.5 months I tried everything. Every discussion we had ended with her saying “I don’t know” to every question I asked her, which of course aggravated me so I backed off to cool down. Did not matter the question.
“Why’d you cheat”
“Do you want to be with me”
“What could I have done differently”
“Do you want to try and work this out”
“Do you want a divorce”
“Do you still feel like you love me”
Again didn’t matter the question.
So at the end of April after talking to many people in person I filed for divorce. When I confronted her with paperwork she then wanted to work it out but stated she need time to work on herself. So I gave her what felt like an appropriate amount of time, it’s nearly August so almost 3 months, when I asked her for some sort of update there was none. Everyone tells me I should leave her, in my head I made a vow “for better or worse” and in my head this falls under worse. I know biblically adultery “is” a divorce-able offense, but I’d prefer not take that route.
Matthew 19:6 ESV
““So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.””
Matthew 19:9 ESV
“And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.””
“Why’d you cheat”
“Do you want to be with me”
“What could I have done differently”
“Do you want to try and work this out”
“Do you want a divorce”
“Do you still feel like you love me”
Again didn’t matter the question.
So at the end of April after talking to many people in person I filed for divorce. When I confronted her with paperwork she then wanted to work it out but stated she need time to work on herself. So I gave her what felt like an appropriate amount of time, it’s nearly August so almost 3 months, when I asked her for some sort of update there was none. Everyone tells me I should leave her, in my head I made a vow “for better or worse” and in my head this falls under worse. I know biblically adultery “is” a divorce-able offense, but I’d prefer not take that route.
Matthew 19:6 ESV
““So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.””
Matthew 19:9 ESV
“And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.””