I have never received any greater spiritual abuse than I did as a teenager in the Pentecostal church. From the damnation of hellfire , to the 'hell bound' if a girl wore her hair in a certain style or length, or slacks or make-up. You name it--WORKS all the way. Of course--I noticed early on that the MEN had no such restrictions placed upon their 'hair-do's' or their style of clothing--ROFL!! (Can you say Benny Hinnes hairdresser')
But the greatest devastation that DID leave it's mark for a long time, was the issue of 'tongues' and the 'baptism' of the Holy Spirit. Week after week I was lead to the alter to receive that 'gift', I was thrown to the ground with many heavy hands placed upon my head and shoulders while loud and demanding voices screamed at me to 'just recieve it'. They even made me 'imitate' the sounds that THEY were making while speaking in tongues. I guess they thought I could 'practice' my way into getting that 'baptism'.
Then it was suggested that perhaps I had 'hidden sin' in my life as to why I wasn't 'saved' because I wasn't given the 'evidence' of salvation through tongues. Since I knew I wasn't practicing any 'known sin', I came to the conclusion that God hated me or He would save me and give me His gift of tongues. Believe me folks--when you spend your life from 13 yrs old to somewhere in your 30's believing that God hates you--it leaves it's mark for sure.
So you guys can complain all you want to about the SDA church and EGW--but NOTHING that I have ever experienced in it--could ever begin to compare with what the Pentecostals did to me--NOTHING!
Honor, I have no question that that kind of stuff would leave its mark, but you're comparing two completely different systems of belief. Your experience in the one doesn't negate other people's experiences in the other. Just because you haven't experienced something in the Adventist Church, that doesn't mean that it doesn't happen.
Many people who grew up in the Adventist church have justifiably felt abused. I know people who were taught as children that they could never know for sure if they would be saved because their name could come up in the IJ at any moment, and if they were not perfectly sinless at that moment, they would be lost and never know it until Jesus came. Many of the older members in our churches had that mindset because it was commonly taught while they were growing up. Some of my teachers presented it that way, too. Some people have suffered terribly because of it, having no hope that they could ever overcome all of their sins in order to pass the judgment. Some people have left Christianity altogether because they thought that they would eventually go to hell anyway, so it didn't matter.
I know people who were read
Foxe's Book of Martyrs as children and were warned about how much more horrible the persecution would be at the end of time. I know people who live in so much fear of that time that their only hope is to die beforehand so that they won't have to go through it. I've met people who played "Time of Trouble" games as children, in which they would act out the roles of Adventists and false Christians who were torturing the Adventists.
I was afraid because of some of these ideas, too, as a young child, but God reached me with the true gospel when I was 16 (through Christian music), and I no longer had those kinds of fears. Unfortunately, some teachings in Adventism, like the IJ, tend to obscure the gospel, and some Adventists never escape those fears. Many of our church members had no assurance of salvation.
Though I never felt abused because my experience was not as bad as some people's, I can definitely understand why some do feel that way. Some of them were terribly mistreated by other Adventists in positions of authority because of these teachings.