Hi everyone,
I posted a few years back about my wife being abusive, lying about me to mutual friends (who have never spoken to me again) to isolate me and emasculating me. My other thread has the full story.
I had some absolutely wonderful support, prayers and encouragement and felt so blessed, but recently she rejected Christianity, saying she ‘never believed’. She is totally remorseless and continues her behaviour. No amount of kindness, love or prayer has changed; it just enables her.
I never thought it but divorce is something I feel I could do, albeit with a very heavy heart. Is anyone able advise me before I do something I might regret?
Peace,
Wounded people wound people and so when someone has not healed from their own verbal abuse they continue the cycle by abusing others around them.
Emotional abuse is not only limited to women. Men can be emotionally abused as well. Especially when it is a male looking for approval from their father and the father is an emotionally abusive person.
The first step to healing is forgiving the abuser and removing yourself from the situation. If you are in a marriage you need to seek Christian counseling as soon as possible. The sooner you can get others involved to establish some kind of accountability, the better.
It is your soul that is wounded and your spirit that is crushed. Just as the words of a person wounded you then the word of God can heal you.
You must meditate on God’s word. This is the key to your recovery.
Again, the first thing is to forgive them and get yourself out of the situation and then seek Christian counseling. If you are married ask your spouse to go to counseling with you. If they refuse then you need to go alone. Just get help. If only to get agreement from the counselor and advise on how to move forward and get healing. This is biblical.
If you can’t afford the counseling, talk to the pastor. In some churches they may have support groups that may also help.
“Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”
Here are some scriptures for meditation:
Psalm 34:18 (NKJV) “The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, And saves such as have a contrite spirit.”
Psalm 51:6 (NKJV) “Behold, You desire truth in the inward parts, And in the hidden part You will make me to know wisdom.”
Psalm 139:14 (NKJV) “I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well.”
2 Corinthians 3:17 New International Version (NIV) “Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom.”
1 John 4:18 “Love will never invoke fear. Perfect love expels fear, particularly the fear of punishment. The one who fears punishment has not been completed through love.”
Psalm 63:3 “Your steadfast love is better than life itself, so my lips will give You all my praise.”
Romans 8:37-39 “But no matter what comes, we will always taste victory through Him who loved us. For I have every confidence that nothing—not death, life, heavenly messengers, dark spirits, the present, the future, spiritual powers, height, depth, nor any created thing—can come between us and the love of God revealed in the Anointed, Jesus our Lord.”
Isaiah 61:1-3 (NIV) “He has sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim freedom for the captives and release from darkness for the prisoners, to proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor and the day of vengeance of our God, to comfort all who mourn, and provide for those who grieve in Zion—to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor.”
Jeremiah 31:3 “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with unfailing kindness.”
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