twistedsketch said:God hates abuse, but He also hates divorce.
But that is only for those joined together and married by the plan of God
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twistedsketch said:God hates abuse, but He also hates divorce.
AngelDove1 said:Huggles....
God be with you always.
praying for you and yours
Take courage & strenght
love ya gal
God's word says.....
2 Cor 6:14-15 NIV
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers.
For what do rightousness and wickedness
have in common? Or what fellowship can
light have with darkness?
What harmony is there between Christ and Belial?
What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?"
If I may ask, how far did your abusive marriage go? I mean, what is "really bad" and what is just being 2 adults fighting like children??Tavita said:I agree with the above posters too. I was in an abusive marriage for nearly twenty years and decided that enough was enough about six years ago. It was the best thing I ever did. And what kept me there originally was the fear that I was going against church teachings and letting the Lord down. But do you know what I found? The Lord blessed my move away from that so-called marriage, when in reality it wasn't a marriage at all. He blessed me incredibly in ALL ways. It took a few years to be built up again as a person, because as you know it takes a lot out of you. And the Lord has been with me all the way, healing and restoring, and even setting me free from so many fears. If you are being destroyed as a person in a marriage like this, then He does not want you there, even if only temporarily. I hope and pray that He will make a way for you..
myredeemerJESUSlives said:The abuse he uses to keep total control and power over me, complete dictatorship over everything money, friends family my time and my life in every way. Also much Punishment, maniplation, guilt, dishonor, disrespect..."useless, worthless, incompetant, ..." , demonic rages beyond anger, no kindness or love or 'fruits' of the Holy Spirit. And threats of repeated adultry and demands of sex..."service me" no hugging or love whatso ever just brutal cruel unkindness.
Praise report! I will say though that since i started this thread, likely due to those who are soo kindly praying for us, the Lord seems to be softening my DH's heart to try a little...i pray the Lord brings him to his knees, and he seeks the Lord' mercy and grace, for it is only HE that can deliver him from these cruel behaviors.amen
Thankyou for demonstrating Jesus to me and for your prayers, may the Lord bless you all abundantly amen!
ScottyL said:Assuming he does in fact repent. But if she keeps giving him chances and he doesn't change, eventually she'll be 80 and look back and see her life was wasted.
And no, the death penalty for something like that is too harsh.
A murderer is the only one who should be put to death.
Godslilgurlalways said:But that is only for those joined together and married by the plan of God
What a horrible experience you've endured all these years. I hope that your kids are able to see beyond his cruelty and shape their own lives for the best.myredeemerJESUSlives said:The abuse he uses to keep total control and power over me, complete dictatorship over everything money, friends family my time and my life in every way. Also much Punishment, maniplation, guilt, dishonor, disrespect..."useless, worthless, incompetant, ..." , demonic rages beyond anger, no kindness or love or 'fruits' of the Holy Spirit. And threats of repeated adultry and demands of sex..."service me" no hugging or love whatso ever just brutal cruel unkindness.
...The Lord seems to be softening my DH's heart to try a little...i pray the Lord brings him to his knees, and he seeks the Lord' mercy and grace, for it is only HE that can deliver him from these cruel behaviors.amen
joyousliving said:God hates divorce. That is the plain reading of the bible. Where is it that you find support for the notion that this only applies to believers?
Jesus spoke about divorce with men that clearly were not believers. Did he tell them that because they were pharisees and that their marriage wasn't built on honoring God that they could divorce all they wanted? UM NO.
God hates divorce. He designed marriage to be a lifetime committment. Whether or not the people being married agree with that statement doesn't change the fact that He intends for them to stay together for a lifetime.
AngelDove1 said:Quote.. twistedsketch...
{God hates abuse, but He also hates divorce.}
Quote... Godlilgurlalways...
{But that is only for those joined together and married by the plan of God.}
In agreement with Godsgurlalways .....
Godslilgurlalways said:So are you trying to say if your husband is abusing you and won't stop you are suppose to say with him even while he is abusing you, that doesn't even sound like something God would say. Yes he disgned it to be lifetime but that is if you were joined by him.
God's word says.....
2 Cor 6:14-15 NIV
"Do not be yoked together with unbelievers.
For what do rightousness and wickedness
have in common? Or what fellowship can
light have with darkness?
What harmony is there between Christ and Belial?
What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?"
It says that b/c a unbeliver isn't following God so if he isn't following him he is following something. Woman sumbit to you man right but that is onlt if that man is submiting to God. To break it down Yoked together he is talking about becoming one which you do in marriage. IT's about what God joins together, nothing is impossible for God. Should the person see if it's something that they can work out through consueling or something yes. I f than yes, I am not saying the first soon as you get an a arguement leave but I saying a man shouldn't put his hands on a woman by slaping,kicking,pucnching, and any above.
joyousliving said:Quick story....Husband and wife marry both unsaved. They have 5 kids. One day when the middle child is in his early 20's he comes home and announces that he is a Christian. Later mom gets saved.
The husband is an alcoholic. He is verbally and emotionally the meanest person I ever met. I believe that he enjoyed being mean.
The wife decides to stick with this man. I questioned the wisdom of that many many times.
30+ years later as the husband's health is failing he finally hears the gospel that his been preached and lived before him and repents. He dies less than 2 months later.
Did that woman waste her life? She raised 5 kids and she honored her marriage. She prayed for her husband and stuck with him just as she promised the day she married him.
The reality is that people do not treat each other well. Husbands and wives sometimes are the worst offenders. Having biblical grounds for divorce doesn't mean that she ought to use her "right" to write off her marriage.
Divorce ought to be the very last resort when EVERYTHING else has been tried. Remember that allowing for divorce was an accomodation not something that God wanted for us.
No one, man or woman, should remain in a home where their physical safety. Verbal and emotional abuse is no threat to a spouses safety. Divorce is no less emotionally painful.
ScottyL said:In my opinion she did waste her life. She could have lsft and maybe remarried someone who actually loved her.
ScottyL said:If she was in an abusive situation and stuck it out she wasn't doing what God called her to do.
God doesn't purposely make us suffer, sometimes we suffer because of stupid decisions on our part, like hers.
Oh, and adultery isn't just sexual. It's a breaking of the marriage vows. Being unfaithful. [/quote]
agree.....