Abortion

[die2live]

I had my daughter when I was 21 and I was unmarried and I would have never gotten an abortion.

When I was 23 I was in a relationship with my now hubby who is not the father of my daughter and I got pregnant and I was not ready for another child and I was also not serving the Lord at the time and he was not saved and we decided that it was for the best and I had one. It was one of the hardest decision that I EVER had to make. When I woke up from the proceedure I was crying and I felt so horrible. I felt dirty and so ashamed for years.

I hope nobody judges you either. No one has a right to do so. You were very courageous to share your experience.

I can't say that I know how you feel, but I do know you're not alone. There are many women (and men; the fathers sometimes go through the same emotional issues that the mothers do) who are dealing/ have dealt with the same thing. Have you had any counseling on this issue? If you haven't and you're interested, I can refer you to a crisis pregnancy center in your area. They should be able to provide you with the resources you need or else refer you to some place that can.

The past is the past. It's over and done with and God never holds things against us that we've repented of. Never. God bless you.

 

[Blank123]

I hope that no one judges me on what I just wrote.

i don't think you have to worry there. We are all sinners and this isn't anything that can't be cleansed by the blood of Christ. If you've accepted Christ as your Saviour and are a child of God you've been forgiven and if you've been forgiven by Him we certainly have no place or right to hold it against you

 

[Phoebe777]

I hope nobody judges you either. No one has a right to do so. You were very courageous to share your experience.

I can't say that I know how you feel, but I do know you're not alone. There are many women (and men; the fathers sometimes go through the same emotional issues that the mothers do) who are dealing/ have dealt with the same thing. Have you had any counseling on this issue? If you haven't and you're interested, I can refer you to a crisis pregnancy center in your area. They should be able to provide you with the resources you need or else refer you to some place that can.

The past is the past. It's over and done with and God never holds things against us that we've repented of. Never. God bless you.

I actually struggled with this issue a lot and the enemy held it over my head for a while. I should say I let him hold it over my head. The only one that knows about this is my hubby. I kept it from everyone but, thank God that he can turn a MESS into a MESSage!

 

[-~Truth_N_Trust~-]

Phoebe777. Thankyou for sharing your story. I pray that God continues to comfort and bless your family. And die2live is right, He has removed our trespasses as far as the east is from the west.

after reading your other post I discussed the pill with someone and there are a lot of things I didn't realize. I knew there were times that were better to get pregnant, but I didn't realize that there are times when you cannot get pregnant. Yeah, i'm about to be 24 and I didn't know that. I don't think I was ever well educated on the subject. hello! My friend was saying "well what about natural family planning"; I think that's what it's called right? See I didn't even consider that. I just figured you HAD to be on birth control to guarantee not getting pregnant; I know it's not 100% but like you said, unplanned pregnancies can be good too. hmmm... now DH and I are going to have to discuss this (we haven't yet b/c we still don't live together...military). Very interesting things for us to think about... He probably knows more about the woman's body than I do!

This is what I mean about women generally (including me!) who just go on the pill because everyone does and it seems the only/best option. again I'm not saying it's the wrong option, but it may not be the right option for everyone - but more importantly women should be educated about our bodies - not just in a sexual way (sex education ). And I have HUGE reservations about the pill being prescribed for young teenagers (like it was for me, and many friends) who have barely started getting their period. But then everyone should be informed before they start taking anything... ok I'm getting off topic! Sorry people!

I just think it's funny that a lot of people only learn important things about their bodies after they become pregnant! I had to explain to my 6mth pregnant friend what the cervix was... and tbh I didn't know until I was pregnant with my first either - we've both been sexually active for years! and I had NO IDEA about natural family planning before I had kids either, my kids were both planned, but knowing about it would have made conceiving a lot easier too. That is real power, knowledge!

 

[Phoebe777]

Phoebe777. Thankyou for sharing your story. I pray that God continues to comfort and bless your family. And die2live is right, He has removed our trespasses as far as the east is from the west.




This is what I mean about women generally (including me!) who just go on the pill because everyone does and it seems the only/best option. again I'm not saying it's the wrong option, but it may not be the right option for everyone - but more importantly women should be educated about our bodies - not just in a sexual way (sex education ). And I have HUGE reservations about the pill being prescribed for young teenagers (like it was for me, and many friends) who have barely started getting their period. But then everyone should be informed before they start taking anything... ok I'm getting off topic! Sorry people!

I just think it's funny that a lot of people only learn important things about their bodies after they become pregnant! I had to explain to my 6mth pregnant friend what the cervix was... and tbh I didn't know until I was pregnant with my first either - we've both been sexually active for years! and I had NO IDEA about natural family planning before I had kids either, my kids were both planned, but knowing about it would have made conceiving a lot easier too. That is real power, knowledge!

Real Knowledge is Power!

 

[KristiLee]

Phoebe777,

Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Colossians 3:12-14

I'm so sorry you've endured this trial in your life. Praise God for what He's done in your life to bring you to Him! When the enemy tries to get you down -sing even louder praises... it confuses the heck out of him! LOL

Don't allow anyone to judge you for the decisions you've made or make. Remember that God is the only one to impress and please -and HE's forgiven you and is holding His arms out. Any man who judges you is arrogant (Colossians 2).

God bless you hun!!

 

[Phoebe777]

Phoebe777,

Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Colossians 3:12-14

I'm so sorry you've endured this trial in your life. Praise God for what He's done in your life to bring you to Him! When the enemy tries to get you down -sing even louder praises... it confuses the heck out of him! LOL

Don't allow anyone to judge you for the decisions you've made or make. Remember that God is the only one to impress and please -and HE's forgiven you and is holding His arms out. Any man who judges you is arrogant (Colossians 2).

God bless you hun!!

thank you for those words they mean a lot!

I have an awesome testimony!



All I can say is thank God he can turn a MESS into a MESSage!