So this is something that I have only recently begun to notice is an issue with the way that I go about interacting with others here on CF, and I have noticed that it seems to be a trend among a lot of other members as well.
Oftentimes in a thread, someone will post their thoughts or their reply, and instead of responding to the OP, another user will respond to that member in a critical way instead. I see it often in threads where the OP asks for advice or thoughts from the other members. Someone will share a piece of advice and then another member will come along and criticize them, which starts a heated rabbit trail and leaves the OP with little to no help and a bunch of bickering people lol.
I am public enemy #1 when it comes to this, so this is not me calling out other members. It is something that I am working on personally as well. But this is a suggestion for all of us to interact with each other in a way that is respectful and allows everyone to participate meaningfully:
In a thread, respond to the OP with your thoughts or advice. Do not criticize another person's thoughts or advice. Simply share your own based on your own wisdom and experience and then move forward, regardless of how bad the advice is. If you are truly worried that someone will be led astray by poor advice, message them about it directly rather than starting a public debate. If you want to respond to someone other than the OP with encouragement or to further discussion, that is one thing, but jumping on them for what they said makes for a not-so-fun place to interact. Everyone should be able to share their thoughts/feelings without being ridiculed.
The one exception I would make is if someone is being blatantly rude or unkind. But even then I think we have to watch how far we go as it doesn't take much to derail a thread.
If you think I made this thread passive aggressively about you, the truth is that I didn't. We have all done this at one point or another. But if you think that, it probably means you are one of the culprits lol. And I hope you take this to heart. Let's all be a little bit more respectful of each other.
Oftentimes in a thread, someone will post their thoughts or their reply, and instead of responding to the OP, another user will respond to that member in a critical way instead. I see it often in threads where the OP asks for advice or thoughts from the other members. Someone will share a piece of advice and then another member will come along and criticize them, which starts a heated rabbit trail and leaves the OP with little to no help and a bunch of bickering people lol.
I am public enemy #1 when it comes to this, so this is not me calling out other members. It is something that I am working on personally as well. But this is a suggestion for all of us to interact with each other in a way that is respectful and allows everyone to participate meaningfully:
In a thread, respond to the OP with your thoughts or advice. Do not criticize another person's thoughts or advice. Simply share your own based on your own wisdom and experience and then move forward, regardless of how bad the advice is. If you are truly worried that someone will be led astray by poor advice, message them about it directly rather than starting a public debate. If you want to respond to someone other than the OP with encouragement or to further discussion, that is one thing, but jumping on them for what they said makes for a not-so-fun place to interact. Everyone should be able to share their thoughts/feelings without being ridiculed.
The one exception I would make is if someone is being blatantly rude or unkind. But even then I think we have to watch how far we go as it doesn't take much to derail a thread.
If you think I made this thread passive aggressively about you, the truth is that I didn't. We have all done this at one point or another. But if you think that, it probably means you are one of the culprits lol. And I hope you take this to heart. Let's all be a little bit more respectful of each other.